cutting myself help!!!?

Question

ok I have been cutting myself and I just now relized it,how do I hide the scars from my mom how do I stop.omg im only 13 I have school to attend i dont want a teacher to see omg I HATE MYSELF!!!

I never new my dad I never met him nor seen him not even a picture of him, I live with my mom ,my step dad and step brother

well i cut myself on my palms and legs
Im gonna try to stop again

Answer 1

Sweetie, hiding your scars isn't a good idea. You need to stop hurting yourself, but more importantly, you need to deal with whatever it is that made you start cutting in the first place. You can't do that by yourself. Please try to tell your mom what you're doing, or at least what you're feeling that makes you want to hurt yourself. If you can't tell her, or you do tell her and she doesn't help you, tell someone at school, a school counselor, or a teacher you trust, or tell another adult relative, or the parent of a close friend.

Don't hate yourself for cutting. You probably do it because you're hurting inside, and cutting moves the hurt to the outside, which is easier to deal with. You shouldn't have to feel so bad that the only way out is to hurt yourself. You're still a child, and adults are supposed to take care of children. When you feel so bad that you want to hurt yourself, it's because the adults in your life aren't doing their job. You can't blame yourself for that. I looked at your past questions, about your mom missing your graduation, your step dad staring at you, your thinking you're too fat. Any one of those things would be enough to push a lot of girls, even older than you are to start cutting themself, and one of them are your fault. You have a lot to deal with, more than any girl your age should, and you're dealing with it the best you can, the only way you know how. Don't hate yourself for that.

I've cut myself for the past three years, so I know a bit about hiding cuts and scars. But I'm not going to tell you, because it's important that someone find out you're hurting yourself so you can get help. Hiding what you're doing is going to hurt you even more than the cutting itself. Don't be afraid to tell someone what you're doing. It's a lot more common that you might thing, and if you tell someone, especially a teacher, school counselor, or doctor, they'll know how to deal with it a lot better than you might expect.

Also, I saw your question from a few months ago about your step dad staring at you, and I just wanted to tell you that it's really, really important that you tell someone about that, if you haven't already. No grown man should ever stare at a young girl like that. It's a form of sexual abuse, and it's really important that you tell someone before he does anything to hurt you any more than he already has.

If you want to talk, you're welcome to email me either through Answers or at [e-mail].

Answer 2

I suffered from this problem as well. And every now and then I feel as though I need to re-do something. But I've tried different ways to replace cutting as a stress reliever. Holding a piece of ice, ripping paper, scribbling (violently...really hard) in a notebook, writing how you feel, if someone knows call them and just talk to them, or listen to music really loud and just scream. Also to help yourself stop, you can set a goal and reward yourself when you reach it...for example if you make it through 1 week then you will get and ice cream sundae...and keep increasing the amount of days/weeks/months and make the reward something great.

For way to hide the scar...you can use liquid concealer but make sure it is rubbed in to match the visible parts of your body. If the cuts are on your wrists, then you could wear some bracelets or wear long sleeved shirts.

But the most important thing is find someone you can trust and let them know how you are feeling. The safest person is a guidance counselor or a health teacher...and you can ask them to keep it private, but you will have to know that they will need to tell your guardian if the situation worsens

Answer 3

I'm very proud of you. You've done thre things right so far.

You made the first big step by recognizing this is a serious problem and then you second step in the right direction was by trying to stop cutting all by yourself. That was a good decision and a very nice try. You did good!

Then, you made your third smart decision by asking us for help and guidance on the Internet. Great job so far. You're doing all the right things. You are on the right track. You're handling yourself beautifully and you're a pretty smart kid.

Cutting is a common problem with young people. It happens all the time but it's still very serious. My point is that you are not alone with this problem. It's important to understand that while they are cutting themselves and for a few minutes afterward, they (and you) really DO feel better. You are just trying to make yourself feel better. There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel better but we need to find a safer way for you to do it. You are NOT a bad person.

OK then. It's time for you to make the Fourth step. You need to find a sympathetic and competent adult and ask for help. You seem very brave but thirteen is too young to be trying to deal with this problem all by yourself. You're going to have to ask for help from adults and this is scary. You can do it!! Ask for help and get the support that you need.

You could also try writing in a diary each time that you cut yourself. Try to figure out what you are feeling right before you cut. If you can figure out what is triggering this, then perhaps you could stop it before things get to that point.

Most of all remember, this is just a temporary problem. And we're going to fix it! Stay positive. Don't forget to pray a lot. You're gonna be ok.

Answer 4

Ok the quick fix is to wear long sleeve shirts. Maybe you should talk to the school guidance counselor, though he might rat you out to your parents. Sometimes being able to control the pain seems a reason for this behavior. Just think about why when your wearing a long sleeve shirt in hot weather. The things ppl I could say here will not be as affective as one on one with a guidance counselor, your parent, or a friend. It's good that you recognize this is a problem earlier in your life.

Answer 5

No, it does no longer be seen "reducing your self". it would be seen self-mutilation and that doesn't could consistently take place with cuts. you're style of contradicting your self right here. First you're saying which you're feeling tousled on the interior and you get bullied at college, and which you decrease your self. yet you're happy at college and the various time, and are not depressed. that's it? you would be feeling notably blended up. you're actually not insane or stupid, you're in all probability purely perplexed approximately your life and the type you would be feeling. in case you may inform your mom which you have been self-mutilating and want to get help, then tell her. do no longer hassle approximately how she is going to react. sit down her down and tell her promptly-up which you have this undertaking. She might react by ability of brushing it off; lots of mom and father do. that is once you bypass on your college counselor and tell her, or tell yet another grownup which you have faith to make her pay attention to you. And get help. Self-mutilation isn't a sturdy element in spite of everything.

Answer 6

First off, if you are trying to be funny then shame on you. If you are, in fact, being serious then maybe the best thing is for your mom and/or your teacher to find out so you can get the emotional help you need. May I ask where your dad is? Is he in your life?

Answer 7

I know what your going through, i've been self harming for over four years now.. You shouldnt do it!! I'm left wit horrible scars all over my arms and legs an you can notice them so bad because they go blue.. I woud stop hun before you get to carried away like i did.

Answer 8

Try to wear long sleeve shirts and jeans, it's what helped my friend to hide his scars.

Answer 9

sweetey my bestfriend is going threw this same problum right now,this is for both of u stop it till urself how pretty u are and what
your doing thats all i can tell u the rest is up to u.

Answer 10

sweet heart, are you serious, you need to get help before this goes any farther if you are in that much pain and hate yourself please try and talk to your mom or someone you can talk to,you are to young to be in this much pain and deal with this alone.
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