Get my parents to see me as an adult at 18 yrs old?My parents have always been extrmely over protective never letting me do anything in high school and middle school. I was babysat up until my freshmen year in highschool. I was never really bad and i never failed classes but since my parents were never around i never had a social life out of the classroom. When my mom came home junior year of highschool i made two attempts too see friends and both ended in my mom giving them and there parents the 3rd degree and humiliating me! Senior year was better i was allowed to go to homecoming where i met my first bf. We started going out and my parents had to now every detail of the relationship. I fell in love with him but my parents were really strick i rebeled and had sex with him that cased a mess and my grades dropped from stress at school home and the relationship. It is my first year of college now and i am still being treated like child and am starting to hate my parents!
2006-09-23 05:42:49 · 9 answers · asked by Melanie o 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I told them i was going out it was only to the movies and dinner with a new female friend from school. I was physically stopped and forced to give details about who, what when. and where. and then told no because it was 9:00 on a school night!!I am in college and had no classes till 2:00 the next day!
2006-09-23 05:46:28 · update #1
They pay for half of my college tuition so i try to give in but this is crazy i have begun looking for a job a new person at school said she could help me get a job as a watress were she works my mom told me no because there is a bar in the resturant! and any job i have has to be approved by her!
2006-09-23 05:48:46 · update #2
I dont have money to move out because they would not let me get a job how do i talk to them i am going mad!!
2006-09-23 05:49:45 · update #3
I do live with them still i have to wait till next year to dorm.
2006-09-23 05:56:35 · update #4
You need to take control. You're 18, your parents don't have any control over you anymore. Do what you want. Your parents shouldn't be able to stop you when you're 18 and you want to go to the movies. The only problem is that it sounds like you're still living with your parents, and if you disobey them, they might kick you out.
2006-09-23 05:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by TopSpin 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is very hard to let go of your child. You are so afraid that something bad is going to happen to them that you could have prevented. I know, I had three daughters and letting go of each of them was the hardest part of raising them. I was never as bad as your parents but I did have a few problems with it.
What we did as a family as each child came of age, my husband and I sat down with the child and had a talk. We would tell them what the curfew was on any given night and I told them the reason there was a curfew was because I couldn't sleep until everyone was home and in bed. We would all come to a reasonable time and we would stick with it. There were times when things would happen and they wouldn't make it home but as long as they called and left a phone number I was alright with that.
It will require some give and take on both of your parts but it is well worth it in the end.
I feel for you. You are legally an adult and need some freedom and you live in your parents home where they set the rules. If they will not talk about this with you then it may be time for you to look for another place to live.
2006-09-23 06:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it u live at home and go to college? Ok first of all u r an adult over 18yrs old. They shouldn't tr y to be sooo controling over u. They have a right to set a curfew even tough u an adult. U live in their home unfortantly. But they can't control u forever. Stand firm and sit down and talk to them about this situation. Let them know how u feel and that ur not a little girl anymore. Your going to have bf's and they shouldn't face that and stay out of it theres no need to know everything in it including when u have sex. I would just leave and go to the movies with ur friends what r they going to do?? GROUND U? HA HA come on now. they want u to sucede not fail don't let ur class grades fail prove to them that u can go to school get good grades and even a job and still have fun with friends. Do u ha ve a car?? U need to seriously talk to your parents about this before it gets worse whats next they want to go with u in dates and b in the bedroom when u and ur bf has se* put ur foot done and be real with them i wish u good luck
2006-09-23 06:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by lovergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out! I know your in college and all but you have to get independent. Find a roommate. I've been on my own since I was 17 years old. It's not that bad at all. You learn to budget time and money. They won't take you serious because they know you need them. My mom and I fussed all the time and to save our relationship I moved. Ever since we've been really closer. You've got to gain independence.
2006-09-23 05:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by numommie06 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
are you still living at home? if so they can still have house rules. Can you talk to them in an adult manner? Try to make good, mature choices to show them how you have became an adult. Turning 18 doesn't make you an adult. You need to show them you can make good decisions for yourself, with still respecting them. Remember they love you and this is a crazy world you never know what can happen.
2006-09-23 05:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you're going to college, please go talk to a counselor there. They may be able to get you the help you need. I'm sure they have dealt with similar problems. The fact that they are physically stopping you from leaving the house (and you're over 18) is could indicate abuse.
2006-09-23 05:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a lesbian love affair or get knocked up by someone who is on parole and destined to return to the klink. or get head to toe tattoos, or you could develop a nasty drug addition, that always puts a little distance between overzealous parents and rebellious children, no seriously hang in there it will be over soon cause eventually they will die.
2006-09-23 05:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by April N 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to take control of your life. I know it seems like it will be impossible but you must take a stand. Listen to Because Of You by Kelly Clarkson then take a leap of faith you will fall hard, but you will be free.
2006-09-23 05:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well my parents are the same sorta, you are an adult now they have the right to give you advice but not the right to run your life.
2006-09-23 05:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by ohh babyyy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋