We are going to be sending our wedding invitations out soon and want to know how we should broach the subject of receiving wedding gifts and having a list. I have received inserts with the wedding invitation from friends where they have said that a gift is not expected but if you would like to give one please selct from our lsit held at e.g. John Lewis. Advise on the wording to use would be greatefully received.
2006-09-23 05:18:36 · 25 answers · asked by Kelsey J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just put that your registered at so and so place.
2006-09-23 05:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Wedding Gift List Wording
2016-12-12 17:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by owsley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John Lewis Wedding Invitations
2016-09-30 06:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by youngman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very rude to send out inserts telling people where to shop for gifts. Your best bet is to have your bridesmaids and groomsmen spread the word about where you are registered. Your family can also spread the word.
If you really want to send an insert with your wedding invitation consider this wording. Use a small card no bigger then the size of a business card. You should not say a gift is not required then say where you are registered.
"The honour of your presence is all we desire. Please do not bring a gift other then your well wishes."
"A registry can be found at John Lewis for those who wish to bring a gift."
Congratulations and best wishes for many happy years together!!
2006-09-23 06:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by mbjwithouse 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At the bottom of our information sheet we put a short note saying that should anyone wish to purchase a gift for us then we had a gift list with John Lewis. To be honest I have received many wedding invitations with either gift list details or asking for vouchers for a particular store and I have never found this to be rude, so I suppose it depends on the individual. Only you know your guests and how they would react.
If you really don't want to put anything in the invitation, then I would make sure that your parents and your fiancés parents know the details of either your gift list or what you would like if people do ask them, as a guest it would annoy me if I wanted to buy a gift for a couple and had to ask the bride or groom as I know they have lots more important things to be organising!!!
2006-09-24 20:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by Adele P 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We put "We would rather have your presence at our wedding that your presents, but if you would like to buy us a gift then we have a list at xxx". People seemed to like it - and I nicked it off a friend to start with since I thought it was quite a nice way of broaching a difficult subject!
I hated having to put anything at all, but I know from being a guest at weddings that I obviously want to buy my friends a gift, but prefer a list as then I know I'm getting them something they want.
Some people seem to forget that etiquette can change with the times - it is accepted today that if you go to a wedding there is a gift list and that it is in the invitation, particularly in England where we don't have these "shower" things.
2006-09-29 06:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to use strict etiquette rules, then it's considered very rude to even mention gifts on the actual invitation, or even with an additional card. Word about where you're actually registered should be spread via word of mouth, let both sets of parents know, and bridesmaids and groomsmen (although the guys will probably forget), and people will know to ask. I usually ask the parent that I know. If you have a wedding website, then it's considered ok to put that information there as well. Here's a couple of articles about this for you to read...
http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200422&keywordID=221&keywordType=2&parentID=525
http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200347&keywordID=218&keywordType=2&parentID=525
2006-09-23 08:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please do not put any thing about your registries or gift giving in the wedding invitation. ALL of the wedding etiquette sites say that this is highly inappropriate. Although it is nice to say that it is not necessary to give gifts (that's actually VERY nice of you to say), it's still not proper. Allow the word to spread among family and friends that you are registered at certain sites. If you want to... this is always a great idea too:
go to www.theknot.com and create a wedding web site. On that site you can put links to your wedding registries AND also put information about the attire and feel of your wedding, information about accomodations and lots of other useful information. You can also tell people about how you met, your wedding party, etc. It's a GREAT way for people to get to know you a bit better (if they don't know both of you particularly well). You could very tastefully put an insert inside the wedding invitation that says:
"For more information about our wedding, including accomodations, dinner menu and some fun details about us, please visit our web site at www.-----.com"
If people go to the site they will see that you have links to your registries (or you can list where you are registered) and it's a very casual and indirect way of informing guests where you are registered :o) I LOVE this idea and I plan to make a web site myself. I won't direct people to it specifically, but it's an option if you want to do that.
2006-09-23 06:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by PT&L 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You don't ask for ANYTHING in a wedding invite. And invite is simply that...an invite for someone to join you on your day. Info about where you are registered at, or even that you'd rather have cash, is info guest will ask your family & friends about. Maybe even you. But even then you don't say cash. Explain that you aren't registered anywhere. Usually, that's a sign for guest to give cash if they choose to. But guest are not suppose to be told what to get you, even if you ask for cash some may opt to give you a gift. But the bottom line is you mention NOTHING about what you want or don't want in an invite. Let family & friends spread the word that you aren't registered, that you're going on a honeymoon, or saving for a downpayment for a house. Things like that give guest the option of adding to a fund that you need.
2016-03-18 00:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's now expected to have inserts in a wedding invitaiton with regards to a registered wedding list. ppl will always want to give something to u as a wedding gift and i dont think there is anything wrong with a little guidance. Good luck and enjoy ur day
2006-09-23 20:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's so hard! I hate receiving wedding lists in invites. My best friend decided not to mention gifts at all, trouble is she ended up with 8 sets of glasses, 7 vases and a really ugly cookie jar from my Mother!! Have a fab day, I would leave the list idea......
2006-09-23 09:33:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋