hi im a mom of four boys been there primary care taker for 10 1/2 yrs.there ages are 16 14 13 my oldest is now 18 .
ok i was only recieving 50 aweek in support for four boys cause when he left he said if i would sue him for support he would give up his rights well i didnt know he couldnt do that so he said he would give me 50 aweek i said fine as long as you see your boys.
well one day he grabs his son by the throat hurts him so the two little ones decided they didnt want to see their dad anymore .yes i reported the incident to the doctors ,school counsler and women in crisis i should have called the police and children and youth .
so when the kids stopped going he stopped his support so i sued him then he sued me...
he never wanted theses kids before he only had them on his ordered weekends he was suppose to take them every wednesday but dropped wednesdays cause he said it was too much ..i had them boys all the time did everything took them to all there appts.
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4 days ago
so i finally sued him for full support now he wants to take my sons . i am a good mom i dont do drugs i dont go out party i am a full time mom ...here for my sons all the time .
everytime i use to ask him to help me with something for the boys he would tell me i have plans ...or if i would have to run our sons to the er cause they got hurt in sports
he is like oh just call me and let me know what happens you know what after a while you dont bother.
he got married a second time to a great lady they had a son together then he bagged her to get pregnant again and walked out on her one nite to go to a bar and never came home.so she called me crying and scared thinking he was dead ..he wasnt dead he was with another women he was shacking up with her so he left his second wife with a 2 yr old boy and 5 months pregant ...it seems to me he isnt a family man left two families already.
now he is with this women and her kids in a 2 bedroom home her kids are 1o and 5
4 days ago
the 10 yr old has his own bedroom the 5 yr old girl sleeps in with my ex and his gf and then when he gets his kids from wife number two there also in the room wit the ex and his gf and when our sons go there on the floor in the living room no beds for my kids .nice isnt it.
now we are going thru a custody battle ,,,,we are going to have a home evaluation soon i hope.
i do everything i can for my sons i take them to all there docs,dentist,everything
he never ever took them to anything .
when my son would get hurt in his care he would wait till the kids came home and had me take him to the doctor.
then when we were at the court house for support the lady got mad at him cause here he had insurance for my sons and never told me nor gave me the cards for my sons.
she is like you never gave your ex the med cards he said no ...she is like you never took your sons to any apptments he said no that is her job she has custody and the lady said its your job to provide medicial
4 days ago
he is something that upset me this past sunday my 13 yr old walked up to the football field where his dad was coaches other kids at a game ,,he was suppose to keep the boys till 2pm dropped them off at 1130 cause he had football which he didnt spend anytime with them all weekend ,
but anyway my son was at the game went up to his dad and said dad can i have money for a drink and something to eat his dad looked at his watch and said its after 2 pm you are no longer my responsibility,
i couldnt believe he said that to him since when is there a time period for your kids there my responsibility 24/7 no matter if there with there dad or not,i would give him the last of all my money ....that really made me angry .i told my son he should have came home to eat something or money the football field is only like 5 blocks from where we live.i just couldnt believe he said that my 13 yr old told me this i was in shock .he said to me dont worry mom i will remember what he said.
4 days ago
my question is can someone who has taken good care of her kids for 10 1/2 yrs lose them .i dont do drugs ,i dont beat my sons ,i feed them clothed them and take care of them 24 /7 .go to school meetings always talking to guidance counslers doing this there whole lives....i lived on my own for 9 1/2 yrs raising the boys just moved in with my fiance last year been with him 10 1/2 yrs him and only him ...if you are wondering why we waited so long is cause my kids were my focus and they are whats important i wanted to take care of my boys on my own and not put it on someone else but the boys and i talked about it and we all decided we were ready to live together with my fiance ,they call him there step dad cause he was always there for him i mean they call him by his first name not dad ..
they have a dad i guess if you want to call him that ,,sorry i am just upset and angry
2006-09-23 04:44:42 · 3 answers · asked by tinalee1972 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey Girl-
I have 2 kids that are not from my current husband and their "sperm donors" have NEVER had anything to do with them. Honey, you won't lose your kids. The judge will see the problems and will make the decision that is in the best interest of the child(ren).
You just keep doing what you have been doing with your boys and in the future these boys will see their "father" for what he really is..... A DEADBEAT.
My kids appreciate my husband and myself for always being there for them. They know that my hubby is not their "fathers" but he is their "Daddy".
My soon to be 18 yr old just recently started a 5 yr prison term and he told the judge that it wasn't from bad parenting that he got in trouble. He told her that it was from not talking to his parents before making the choices he made that got him in trouble.
Your kids know that you love them and that you have (and will continue to) do anything in your power to protect, nurture, support, and be there for them.
You need to keep a journal of all the visits ie: time they were picked up and dropped off, how the ex responds to the kids, any probs that the kids or ex presented before during or after the visit, any and all records from counselors, doctors, teachers, etc that have known you and your kids and can give a professional opinion. You also need to show proof that you have not been recieving substantial support for 4 boys.....$50 a wk for 4 boys? That is just plain ridiculous! How the hell are you supposed to make ends meet with that?
Good Luck ! Email me if you would like about your future happenings with this..... I'm curious to see what the outcome is.
fankhausermichelle@yahoo.com
2006-09-23 05:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off, your kids are alot older now to decide their feeling about their dad on their own, if they dont like him dont let them see him, if you actualy took it to a custody court you would win, ur kids would side with you and the judge would see that. That way the court will designate how much he has to pay to you or else his *** will be jailed or f'd,. plus they take it out of his paycheck anyways. If you have a good new guy and ur kids like him, forget the old dad, your kids are much better off losing their fuckedup biological dad and just having a new nice family then keeping his mentally rude messed up *** around them. Your kids shouldnt resent you if they dont like him anyways, plus if they do wunna ever see him, thats their choice and let them, but you still have full custody and full child support pay. I wasnt quite sure what your question was, but this is just my opinion.
2006-09-23 11:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they want, he just wants to scare you so you want sue,go on with your life he is no good,you boys see that,He would never show up for court, the judge would laugh,you have done a great job just keep it up
2006-09-23 11:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by mensert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋