What is the proper etiquette?
I know some one who is having her 2nd child and would like to have a babby shower , but she was told that it isn't proper since she had a shower for her 1st child (4 years ago).
Am I missing something here? I though a pregnant a woman could have as many baby showers as she wanted
2006-09-23 04:43:43 · 32 answers · asked by atomictulip 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The first child was a boy the 2nd will be a girl. This mom also gave away alot of the things from the first baby.
2006-09-23 04:52:13 · update #1
It's perfectly fine to have a baby shower for the second child. Every baby deserves a celebration, not just the first born.
2006-09-25 08:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Roberts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe etiquette indicates that the baby shower is for the first child.
Personally, I wouldn't feel offended gifting at a second shower. After all, the gift is really for the coming baby and not for the mother.
Perhaps society could come up with a new solution for this dilemna, another type of celebration. After all, if someone has had a child in the past few years they may still have the large basics such as a crib, carseat, etc. And probably still toys and such. So the need would be more toward baby clothes (again, may still have these, but could need more), and the basic necessities of diapers, wipes, etc.
If we could come up with a new definition for "showers" of later children, it could even help the gifters to understand right away what items are needed.
2006-09-23 04:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. As rules of etiquette blur more and more each year, I think this is okay. I had 2 showers. But I also had a boy and a girl and my friends INSISTED on the boy shower for me since I was so desperately hoping for a 2nd girl. So, it was great to get the blue stuff. It was low key and just my closest friends. I would not have done a second shower with my mom, in laws, aunts, mom's friends, neighbors, etc. So that is the deliniation to me. I was recently asked to a 2nd shower for an acquaintance having her 2nd girl in 2 years and I thought - why? I have also been invited to diaper and wipe showers for 2nd babies. That is fun -- less pressure, and makes it more of a fun get together.
2006-09-23 06:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can have as many as she likes, but it doesn't mean anyone has to come.
If you want to throw her a shower, by all means you should.
The etiquette guidelines have softened, and I am sure that she needs more than she did for the first child now.
Gadjets have improved, or been removed fronm the market, diapers have improved, a whole bunch of things that this mom could benefit from.
My girliriend, Dawn was having her 2nd child (7 years later) and I threw a small party at a local restaurant for her and about 9 guests.
She was very appreciative, and so were her other friends and family.
2006-09-23 04:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by Fitchurg Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it's a good idea for someone to give this lady a baby shower because she's having a different sex child. Plus it has been 4 years since her first child was born.
I don't think it's a practice to give a baby shower for each child. It's more common to have a baby shower for the first one, but my niece had a long gap between children and we had a second baby shower for her.
2006-09-23 05:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see now reason why not to have a shower.. each baby is special. It doesnt matter how far apart you have them. Have a party... having your loved ones over with you friends.. Be happy for the mother and child.
Besides people today are having one shower for a boy and another one for a girl..so why not... they need different things...
Also, after 4 years you do need new stuff because most likely you got rid of some of it..
Have a blast and best wishes to our friend....
2006-09-23 04:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by lovelyaque2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely great to have a baby shower for each child. Since the shower is usually given by friends or family, it's their way of expressing their joy at the pending birth of the new baby. Also, a great excuse for a get-together.
Another thing a shower accomplishes - It's about the last time the mommy gets all the attention before baby comes along and steals all the thunder! Plus, at a shower, mommy gets to be pampered and waited on one last time!
About me - 3 kids, 3 showers
2006-09-23 04:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by Tina R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went to the old school, one baby shower. However, I have learned that now people are having showers for each child.
I think etiquette dictates that a shower or welcoming party for a new baby is just fine. (It does not have to be the first child)
2006-09-23 04:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
babies are a reason to celebrate no matter how many a mom has. If you are really worried about it put no gifts please on the invite. Or have a gift card party and set a $10.00 limit. So no one feels that they have to spend a lot of money. Her family will probably get her the big stuff any way. I see no prob. in another shower for the 2ND child. I would probably raise my eyebrows though if the 1st child was under 2yr.
2006-09-23 04:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by magan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people who say she should get another baby shower. Each baby should be made to feel special by the people who are going to be a part of his/her life and nothing is better then a baby shower. After 4 years, mom is going to need some new girly, foofie things for baby and I think mom needs to feel celebrated also.
2006-09-25 02:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋