I was in such a relationship and would like to hear from guys and girls... I did leave him eventually, when he hit me twice and tried to drown me in the bath tub?
I would appreciate it.
2006-09-23 04:28:13 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether you are in a relationship or not, if you say no, you mean no and if they do anything else then it is rape.
It's a pity you didn't learn fast enough when he raped you. You should have gotten out then.
2006-09-23 04:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for leaving him...I am just so sorry that it took violence to get you out of there. No one should be forced into having sex even if you are married or not. What if he didn't want sex, would that give you the right to force sex on him and rape him. No, it wouldn't. He should have been respectful of the fact that you didn't want sex and should have waited until you wanted it. I understand that sometimes we just don't feel like having sex and that sometimes we are just not ready for having sex. Don't let anyone get away with trying to get you to do something that you don't want to do.
2006-09-23 04:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by Novotny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "what do you think"? If anyone is cool with that, they're sick. My ex-husband was like that. I'm glad you left. I know it's hard, but it's definitely the right thing. You can't be afraid to stick up for yourself. I know that's what people say to try to help. When you're in it, though, all you are is afraid. I say speak up. Just putting this out there might help someone realize they're not alone. Sharing your experience can save someone's life! Bravo!
2006-09-23 04:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Amy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move on mentally. if this relationship is over... why are you still discussing and thinking about it. you may need counseling to deal with this issue. you did the right thing by getting away from him. and you should never never never even talk to this guy on the phone or meet him for two seconds. and you should make sure you do not get invovled with someone else just like him. you know the signs. however.. i again stress that you need some professional guidance..to get past this.
2006-09-23 04:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE should ever be forced to do anything that they don't want to do, what he did is a crime. There was no love, this consists of brutality, control, cruelity, rage, and on and on. You were abused sexually as well as physically (emotional, mentally and spiritually). Self- destructiveness will keep us bound. You did not deserve this nor should you tolerate being treated this way again!! Learn to love yourself enough to know you deserve a healthy, happy relationship! Much Luck
2006-09-23 04:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the police and press charges... that is some bull shyt and you don't have to take it.... you did not the right thing by leaving him.... but now my sister you need some healing..... counseling or something... you have to get past this and not let this take control of who you are as a woman and a person... you live and you learn... But you need to learn what it is that you are looking for in a Man and a companion.... God loves you... talk to him and see what he says!
2006-09-23 04:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an epidemic of folks not requiring their intimates to respect and honor them, their bodies, and their needs--especially females. It makes one want to gently shake them and say "Don't let anyone into your life unless they treat you properly. Your lover belongs in jail and (pardon this) you belong in therapy for allowing it to get to the point that he hit you.
Now, I'd like your comments on what we as a society or individuals can do about the problem. M me if you like.
2006-09-23 04:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any which way you look at it,,,its called rape and abuse. Im glad you had the sense to get out before he killed you. Dont ever go out with anyone unless you truley know him. Hope you find a good man that you deserve.
2006-09-23 04:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is rape, sexual abuse, and physical abuse. I would think that he was also emotionally and verbally abusive. In short he is a very abusive man. This gets worse, not better.
Great that you left him. Don't even think about going back. If you can prove these things, you could prosecute. That may just make him mad. He was not your lover, he was your abuser! If you see any of his traits in another man, run as fast as you can!!!
2006-09-23 04:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Cara Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does that, why is he your lover? It's easy, if someone forces you to have sex, don't date them! Pepper spray him! I assume since you're asking this question that legal action is not an option, but it is NOT ok and no one deserves that. How can progress any further in life with someone like that? You're better off by yourself.
2006-09-23 04:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by jbrowning001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋