WHEN, I MEET A MAN, HE TURNS OUT VERY NICE THEN LATER INTO THE RELATIONSHIP, AFTER I HAD GONE TO BED WITH HIM, HIS ATTITUDE WILL CHANGE TOWARDS ME, HE WILL NOT WANT ME AROUND ANYMORE I WILL LIKE TO KNOW WHY, AND HOW TO MAKE IT STOP, COS I REALLY WANT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.
2006-09-23 04:11:47 · 28 answers · asked by CHINKEM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont have sex too early. Get someone who wants you for you and not just for sex. Hold the sex out on them, if they are still around when you want it, then they'll probably stay.
2006-09-23 04:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kid A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold out and stop giving up the goodies...men will sleep with you but as soon as they get home, theyre thinking you give up this soon to all the guys, even if thats not the case, they are thinking it , Men think they are the only ones that can get away with that behavoir, and it sounds like your choosing the wrong men from the start, thats what the" wrong" men will do for you in life...make you think its your fault or something "your" doing wrong. They did you a favor by not coming back around you, now you know what not to do or choose again. Once you make the "goodies" harder to get thats when you will find a serious relationship,make em' work hard for it, self preservation is a good thing.
2006-09-23 04:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by brite star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex w/ these men until u learn the proper ways to get a man to want to know the person u truly are. U have to let them know that u intend to have more than just a bed fellow relationship w/ them. Most guys will hit and quit it if they feel that u r that type. Try a different approach; play hard to get. If they get bored and run, let them go. U can never go wrong if u keep ur legs crossed and ur feet on the ground. If the guys r going to leave, let them go empty handed, not holding a piece of ur dignity.
2006-09-23 04:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be your attitude. If you really need a man they can sense it. It looks like you are just jumping into bed with men that are not that into you. They probably see you are desperate and use it to get you into bed.
Take some time to work on you. You need to be happy with yourself and love yourself more. Make a lot of friends so you will not feel the urge to jump hard and fast for the next guy. Practice balance. There is nothing wrong with you, just your approach.
You are probably a really great person who just needs to work on some things. I feel confident that once you stop needing a man, one will come along.
2006-09-23 04:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well then be serious, don't sleep with them the first time you meet them because sounds like u pick the ones that just want sex
Play a little hard to get, shop around a bit and have fun. Wait until you can trust them before jumping into bed with them.. You need to learn how to read them, unfortunately they don't come with a manual.. Put this one down to experience and please stop shouting Ive got a headache today
2006-09-23 04:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey calm down don't think of running at the same time as your walkin'.
1.sure you need a man but your not looking for the right one in the right place.
2.don't just think of a man in your life for a serious one because they are all not ready to stay,it's because your too easy on them honey.
3.sorry honey i don't think you got a problem it's the men the just don't see the good in you,they just useing you and dumping.don't think your wrong for looking i wish you do find some one who will be the mr perfect
you dont rush to fast the longer you keep them waitin to get into you the better it will,it's not worth it to put yourself out thinking that will keep them with you.iut dont work that way honey.
just hold back for as long as you can if you give in trust me it will be over before it started.good luck honey.
2006-09-23 04:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sex guru on tv the other day told a woman not to have sex before the 5th date as a rough guide and i would agree.
It's a hard thing to judge but if you give in too soon they'll be gone because they they're thinking, 'well if she gives it up that easy to everyone,,,,,,,,,'.
Make them wait if you want to hold out for a boyfriend rather than just sex, it might be 2 weeks, it might be 4 months, only you will know but give in too soon and he's history.
2006-09-23 04:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps You shouldn`t chase them then.Watch that film 'How To Lose A Guy I n Ten Days',then if He`s still interested You`ll know !! Lighten up.There`s always guys waiting 4 just sex.
2006-09-23 04:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi CHINKEM,yes i suppose its hard to give an accurate answer to your on going problem without having all the facts,i have read through your answers and there is some good advice there,i would suggest to slow down a bit,because from experiance all good things are worth waiting for,and "all good things come to he (or she in your case) who waits" I think if someone truly likes you they will respect your wishes and wait untill you are ready.i wish youu well on you quest for happiness and im sure you will find it.
checkout myspace.com if u havent all ready its a top place to chat to folk and its free!
best wishes Dale J. (MY PROFILE IF U NEED A FRIEND http://www.myspace.com/dalejay)
2006-09-23 04:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Dale J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make them wait a few weeks before you sleep with them, let them get to know you as a person first, maybe the old fashioned way is best, maybe guys don't want a long term thing with somebody who jumps into bed with them on the first date, give it a go maybe you will strike lucky
2006-09-23 04:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some good advice listen up...... dont give him NO SEX until you know he is right for you he got what he wanted made you hear things you wanted to hear to get you in bed then its the usual story where he has moved on to the next victim. you are worth more let men chase you never be so keen even if it kills you
2006-09-23 04:15:01 · answer #11 · answered by xxSHORTYxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋