recently watched a program on utv about slapping children i would just like to know what people think of punishing their children!!!
2006-09-23 04:11:17 · 16 answers · asked by EMMA O 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Punishing a child does not neccasarily mean physically hitting them.
In my opinion, a child needs to be disciplined. I do not hit my children, but I have a variety of techiniques that I do use.
If we are in public I will use the counting to three thing...althought they don't know what happens when I get to three they don't ever make it that far. Also, some people are afraid of making a scene in a public place. I am not concerned with what other people think. I will raise my voice to get my childs attention and don't care if ten people trun around to look.
At home, I will send her to her room. Take away toys. Go to bed early.
For the most part she listens well.
I just stick to my word. If I tell her something then that is what I do. I don't cave because if you do it once they will know you will do it again.
2006-09-23 04:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in spankings for serious infractions only. But punishment/time out is just as effective. Slapping a child is never okay but a few swats on the butt never hurt anyone. I think as a result my children are more well behaved than most, they know their limits and boundaries, so it creates a more peaceful environment for my family. Children need boundaries as the world will not bend to their will so they can have their way. This is learned in the home taught by the parents. My kids now know their limits and what will constitute a spanking or time out or toys being taken away and as a result they are well mannered, respectable, and obedient.
2006-09-23 11:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A punishment should only be held if a child has hijacked a plane or something. Well they would be dead. But the child execution in the United States has increased over the years. Since the 1960's [black] children have been hanged for stealing. Satanic teens have been arrested and sentenced to the electric chair for murder and drug use over the Internet. Recently a 17-year old kid killed a lawyer's wife and is currently in prison. Kids have also been caned to death in foreign countries. Punishment of children over a small crime is not appropriate. Slapping is a felony in some states and can send you to jail. Discipline, like a "go to your room" is acceptable. "Go to your f**king room," is not. Smacking your kids is not good. Just remember, kids should not be punished over a little thing like being stupid.
2006-09-23 11:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in punishment, but it has to be related to the misbehavior. For example, if they are careless with their toys, they get their toys taken away temporarily. If they throw tantrums or mistreat other people, they get a time out. I do believe that a light spanking is okay once in a while, but only until they are old enough to understand rules and consequences. If time-outs (or some other punishment) are just as effective, spanking should not be used.
2006-09-23 11:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in hitting. However on the occasion where my daughter put herself in danger I did spank. When she was quite young I took away her cartoons. To her this was worse than a beating. Each time she asked to watch I would explain what she had done again. I liked to reason with my daughter and explain the reasons why the behavior wasn't acceptable. She grew up great and is now 20.
2006-09-23 12:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely... and I believe that a switch on the legs or bottom can do more good than all the 'time out's" in the world... a child does NOT operate at the same mental level as an adult and physical punishment is all the understand... so... SAY IT WITH A SWITCH.
That's what's wrong with all these undisciplined and out of control punk kids in America today... they have never learned self discipline... until they end up in jail or dead.
2006-09-23 11:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Children need to learn limits and discipline. However, the punishment should "fit the crime". I don't believe hitting is the answere though. They need to learn empathy and responsibility. That's hard to do when THEY are getting hit. Children today need to be taught to use their minds not fists.
2006-09-23 11:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never punished or slapped or spanked my children.Misbehaved children are discouraged children who need support,understanding and help.If you punish the child,he/she just decides you are a bad or even dangerous person and you make him/her be revengeful,
2006-09-23 14:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for the most part with my 7 yr old son we use the consequences for good or bad choices. he earns stickers for good choices and for doing his chores. when he doesn't make good choices he loses a privilege, such as watching a movie or playing his video game. but on occasion he does get a butt swat...not a beating just a swat on the butt with the 19 month old we do tap her fingers and tell her no or go put her in her room.
2006-09-23 11:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by ladysilverhorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in punishment as a consequence when a child disobeys or misbehaves.
I don't believe in hitting a child.....ever.
If you can't hit a stranger why in the world would you want to hit a child especially one that you love.
2006-09-23 11:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋