I have been in a relationship with the same man off and on for 11 years. He is a good provider, but has some area's he needs to improve. I love him, but I have met this other person who treats me just as good as my partner and who loves me just as much and who also has hang ups, but is working on them for the sake of the relationship. My partner doesn't know about the other person ( female person ), but she knows of him and thinks we are knoe longer together. She is a stud female who treats me better than the average man I've met in a long time. My plans are to stay in atlanta to be with her due to my partner not acting according how he promised me in this relationship, but all of a sudden he needs me, his family needme, and honestly love me as one of there own. I'm caught up in a state of confusion. My female friend has expressed how in past relationships she has been lied to, deceived, and cheated on. I can't do her that way. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 03:54:55 · 7 answers · asked by REDDVELVET 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, it sounds like they both want you. but the real question is what do you want? not only for right now, but for the rest of your life. this is a very important decision, like a fork on the road of life. you have to weigh in all pros and cons from each. there are more details that is not written out. and also think of all the consequences. forget about how will they feel for now. think of how you feel and what makes you happy and content. it might not be with any of these two choices. take time for yourself and see things clearly before you make your decision.
2006-09-23 04:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say hi, but being honest in GOD eyes that is a sin there is no perfect man or being but GOD, so if I was you give that man a chance because your not perfect. Sometimes we feel that it's always the otther person sometimes it's actually us, every time I turn around a woman always talking about a woman knows what a woman wants and needs, get over that it's the devil telling you that mess . It's that woman are emotional beings and are not, that why GOD put man on earth to be in charge, knowing women are emotional and situations needs a take charge person, this how yall make decisions in everything , so take time out and read1 Corinthians chapter 11 verses 1-12 and email me back at woodywood_uno@yahoo.com
2006-09-23 11:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not 100% clear here, but there are two issues it seems
1) You need to decide if you're attracted to Men still
2) If you are still interestd in men, take a long hard look at your relationship. 11 years is a long time, you are integral parts of each others lives, can you be confident this new woman can provide you this kind of support? Do you really even know her well enough to make that sort of decision?
The important thing is to be honest, both to yourself and to your partner(s). And so far it doesnt seem that you are to either.
2006-09-23 11:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by SillyQuestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come clean with everyone. Does your b/f know your a lesbian/bi-sexual? He might be more understanding about that than if you were leaving him for another man. There's no reason why you can't still be his friend and be there for his family. Do you love this woman? Are you ready to be with her? Be honest with her and tell her the truth! The truth hurts, but it's better than being lied to, and if you want to have a relationship with her, you need to start out being honest. You'll feel tons better if you tell everyone involved the full truth! If you're unsure of who you really love or who you should be with, then you may need to take some time away from being in a commited relationship.
2006-09-23 11:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing all the choosing without thinking about your other partner's needs. What criteria do they have for you? Do you care or is it just your needs that have to be met. First of all, do you need two people in your life? Second, you might want to determine your own sexuality. Lesbians often hide behind men cause they don't have the courage to come out. Third, you have no obligation to anyone else's family, only to yourself. Need is not love. People's pasts are also no concern of yours. Other people have to get over their past and determine their own futures. Dont listen to other people's sob stories if they are trying to manipulate you. Make a choice. You can't keep burning your candle. Eventually the wick runs out and you get burned.
2006-09-23 11:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first one is better.
2006-09-23 10:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word """ threesome """ i live with two women and i like it ...
2006-09-23 10:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋