I have no problem talking to guys or being myself once Im talking to them. As long as THEY make the first move and talk to me first. More often than not, Im usually disinterested in the guys who talk to me. How can I get myself to go talk to a guy I am interested in? And how do I get them talking? I feel kinda weird just walking up and saying hello. What should I do or say?
2006-09-23 03:46:59 · 12 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to a man's world!!!
Conversation starters are hard for both sexes, I suppose. In a man's world though, we are expected to make the first move.
The answer is the same for both. Don't be the one to talk; be the one asking questions and LISTENING to answers. How else are you going to find out if you are really interested in him? Of course the conversation will bounce back and forth, but typical questions: How was your day? What do you like to do in your spare time? Where have you traveled? etc... lead to subjects and topics of common interest.
I've never randomly walked up to a woman and just said, "Hi," like at a concession stand at a ball game. I have done this coming out of church where most people would feel a little awkward. Introducing yourself and making small talk about what you have both just seen/done is the commonality to start with.
"Hi, I'm Joe. Can you believe that last dunk by D. Wade? .... Oh, you didn't see it because you were on the phone with your boyfriend. If I were him, I'd want to be at this game with you on my arm. Don't you think his priorities are messed-up?"
You just never know where conversation will lead. That's half the fun. So, relax.
2006-09-23 04:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by i_cycle_hard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you know them, go up and nudge them and just get real close. Just be like "hey" with a more intrested sounding voice, thats hard to explain there but yeah.
then look at what hes wearing, or if you do anything about him, start talkin bout that. like if he has Emerica's, try talkin bout skating, if he does ask him to teach you, if he dont skate just be like well those are cool shoes and move closer, by now a guy should get the hint unless he's retarted. and he may start talkin alittle more, and you should to. just be comfortable.
2006-09-23 03:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Adam D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am also like that....at first talk to someone that knows him and then that person would introduce you to him...or whatever
and you have to know what he's in to .... try music and you can talk about yourself...but mostly boys LOVE talking about themselves....
when my friend introduced me to a guy i liked ..he was very shy
so maybe that's why they don't make the first move....they are shy
good luck
2006-09-23 04:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by mimi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i like a guy i just will jump right up to em and say hi and stuff cuz otherwise they don't know im alive. let them know you're there. if you think like this, 'they'll NEVER know im here if i dont say hi, and if i don't, by the time i DO, they'll already be taken'. so go for it!!! it doesn't hurt.
2006-09-23 03:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Janeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!!i am in the same situation and i've asked like a million questions about this. and just talk to them like oh can i borrow a pencil..or do you know what page is it?? and then be like..oh i like your shirt..i like your eyes then just start a conversation starting with what you have in common. like if you both like to play basketball and stuff.
2006-09-23 03:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by iloveducks_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!!
Even we too have that problem as well.. Sometimes, but we need to face it.. Just be kind and be you so that you will not be having a hard time..
2006-09-23 04:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go up to them and just start talk to them about anything that you can think about. if your friends no boys ask them if they will help you to talk to them
2006-09-23 03:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by justina l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to your acquaintances regularly and improve your communication skills for better with new persons.
2006-09-23 03:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it, Sweetie. Do it with confidence. Don't be shy about it. It's all about the attitude.
2006-09-23 03:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a long breathe !
You act as a very best listener until you get ready to speak to ...
thats all ..........
Athi says.........
2006-09-23 03:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋