I am currently going through a devorce, I have 3 little boys and I want to get myself clipped. My ex-wife doesn't want me to because she wasn't ever able to give me a girl, and she thinks that I will have more less of a chance of getting someone else down the road because I can't produce anymore. So, my question to you females is....should I go ahead and have the procedure done or should I wait until I am with someone that knows for sure that they don't want to have anymore children?
2006-09-23 03:33:21 · 25 answers · asked by Novotny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want no more kids, but my ex-wife thinks that since I always wanted a little girl of my own that I would want to later down the road. I don't right now because of finances and I know that right now that by the time I am 42 yrs old...my boys will be 18 and old enough to get out of the house. I just don't want to be 50 before all of my kids are out of the house.
2006-09-23 03:44:05 · update #1
By the way I am 25 yrs old....I have 3 boys and all under the age of 3 yrs old.
2006-09-23 03:45:55 · update #2
You may meet the woman of your dreams and want to have a child with her. Or the woman of your dreams may have no children and want one. You don't say how old you are, but chances are you will marry again. Wait and see how you feel them. In the meantime, always use protection. Always.
2006-09-23 03:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would wait if I were you. The emotional time during divorce is usually not the time to make decisions. The sex of the child depends on the male. Do some research, there is a lot of factors. If you are sure you don't want any more children, then fixing is the right choice for you. The next person in your life may want more children, but maybe not. Reversal is possible, however, if you REALLY want kids later. Use condoms and spermicide (or celibacy) for a time.
2006-09-23 03:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by gina s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay she is a ex-wife that means you could possibly marry again & want more kids with the new woman. Sounds like the ex is still in control & i see why you made her an ex. You are about to go into a brand new life let go of the past & prepare for your future. Still love her cause she gave you 3 boys but you be the Dad to you r boys & start your new life with your own choices.
2006-09-23 03:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell us your age. But your ex-wife has a point, that being you may meet someone and want children. I would give it some time before you go ahead with the procedure.
2006-09-23 03:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if you want any more children. When I get together with my husband he had two kids and I had two kids, We didn't want anymore, but by some freak thing I ended up pregnant. we are both thrilled. it's a really hard decision. you might meet a woman who has never had any children, you just never know. until your sure I suggest using protection and leaving the "boy's" alone.
2006-09-23 03:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by morninglight83 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a strange thing to decide right now. Your life is in turmoil, and you are thinking about that procedure? Not only do I think it's wrong, but mainly I think it's really bad timing. For the sake of the next girl, please make it clear you don't want more kids.
2006-09-23 03:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by chante 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Don't get it done until YOU and your future partner are absolutely SURE you're done having children. The procedure CAN be reversed, but why go through all that?
2006-09-23 03:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours. If you don't want to have anymore children, you need to do what is right for you. However, are you really sure? What if you find a really lovely lady and you two really love each other. You might want another child.
2006-09-23 03:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait at least 6 months to a year before making an irreversible decision. That goes for anything.
2006-09-23 03:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by LaCosaMasBella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This answer has to be yours alone ,but I was fixed at 29 and regret it so I have 3 boys no girls and im now remarried and have no children by him I would like to of had one for him ,so you have to decide this one .But you can use protection instead .
2006-09-23 03:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋