My ex and I started talkin again. He has kept our picture up since we broke up (I've seen it) and even got a tattoo I gave him after we broke up. I went over to his house to discuss that we should start dating, he said I am his first choice, but we need to start at zero, be friends. He wants to see if I can be patient (I don't have much) The picture was not there nemore. His mom and I still talk, talked to her the next day n she said it was there...he put it back up! I am being friends with him but If I was his first choice, wouldn't he make extra effort to hang out and be friends? Found out that he's askin this other girl on a date, dinner and movie. I don't care cuz I'm a friend,I guess I don't understand about this and the pic and he said that I was his 1st choice, but he doesn't make an extra effort to start over and be friends and hang out...ask me on a date and see where it goes. Am i wrong? Does he want to work things out or am I wanting things to go too fast? He is dating...
2006-09-23 03:07:10 · 13 answers · asked by ConfusedK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The big piece of this puzzle would be why you broke up in the first place.
It seems to me that he has feelings for you but he is holding back for some reason. Maybe he wants you to prove how much you want to work things out. That is difficult because you don't want to come across as desperate.
You need to enjoy your life, be his friend but persue your other options. If it does not come together naturally and it takes effort and work....it is not meant to be.
Don't get me a wrong...a realtionship takes work and effort but getting to that relationship should not.
Keep your head up!
2006-09-23 03:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by CLEMVIER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he says he wants to work things out, then he wants to work things out. You HAVE to be patient...patience is a virtue. Maybe he's dating other girls to see HOW MUCH patience you will have through this "trial." If you rush things, you may risk pushing him away again. No, he doesn't need to make EXTRA efforts to hang out with you. You do your thing, let him do his (give him space...as much as he needs, if that's not enough, give him more), you have a life outside of him too, so LIVE IT! Don't act stuck up his behind or he'll feel suffocated, you don't want that. Although you are his first choice, you don't have to sit around and wait for him to call. Follow his lead, he's dating, you date...if it's meant to be between you two, then it will be.
2006-09-23 10:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He said like that because he wants you to be one of his choices. It was him who didn't have that much patience waiting for you. Just let him go and start over with someone else.
2006-09-23 10:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Wanlaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you want to date your ex again? It seems like he's also trying to find someone else. If you really want to be in a "friend mode" to him, then just be a friend. Don't make things complicated for yourself.
2006-09-23 10:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by gummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont mention why you broke up in the first place, which may be the reason he is holding back.
Dont wait for him. He is seeing other people. Theres no reason why you shouldnt as well.
2006-09-23 10:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soz 2 hear ur prob babe but i think u mite b wantin things 2 happen faster den he does.
sit him dwn n tlk bout everythin n bout da other gal
gettin everythin out in da open will help ease ur mind
ask him wot exactly he wants n wot will change
hope dat helps n everythin goes well
2006-09-23 10:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off now . he knows you want to revive the partnership so it's now up to him to seek you out ...if he cares about you .if he doesn't he is happier being single and can date you and anyone else as well and you've just told him that by agreeing to be ''a friend ''.
2006-09-23 10:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like that you want to be back together as soon as possible, but if he keeps you hanging while he dates other women then its not a good use of your time and energy to be with him.
2006-09-23 10:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, just give him some time, you guys won't work out if you force him into liking you again. If he does, and he just needs some time, just let him be for a bit
2006-09-23 10:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by Brad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing to yourself?it is clear where this relationship is going absolutely nowhere! your going in circles,why do you want to start a relationship with someone who clearly does not know what they want for themselves.Its time to move on.
2006-09-23 10:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋