He seems very whiny to me. If he doesn't get what he wants, he starts to whine or cry loudly. We have a hard time getting him to do what we want him to do. Are these unreasonable expectations?
2006-09-23 03:06:24 · 11 answers · asked by Neal H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You will know he is spoiled if he just cries just to hear himself cry. He will be changed, fed and everything will be fine and he will just start whining or cying loudly. If he does this, pay attention to his actions. If he puts his arms up gesturing you to pick him up, do it sometimes but not everytime. Also, this is a good time to start saying small phrases to him so he can learn to start talking. If he cries, ask him what's wrong. Even though he is not going to tell you what's wrong, start talking to him about what could be wrong with him. Say things like are you sleepy? Do you want to play? Eventaully he will catch on and he'll start saying small words. He could be crying because he wants your attention, so if he starts crying, go play with him for a while, sing or read to him to show him you are available. If he still continues to cry after you have played with him, it may hurt your ears for a while but let him cry sometimes. Also, ignore his whining because he is wanting attention and if you've played with him and spent time with him, then he should be content for a while. But since he can't talk this is how he communicates and gets your attention. So to let him know this is not acceptable, you have to ignore it but only if the crying is for no reason.
2006-09-23 03:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by chocolatebabycakes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 16 months you cannot spoil a child. Worry about it at 2 years.
What are his wants food toys mama? Give them to him.
If he is taking things from other kids or people perhaps to some degree you may need to intervene, but other than that, come on.
What about naps? Make sure he gets his napping in on a regular schedule or there will be crying and whining.
2006-09-23 11:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child whines and cries because he is 16 months old and in his mind, the whole universe revolves around his needs. All children are like that! It'll get better. But what things are you trying to get your 16 month old to do? Pick up his toys? Eat his peas? Some things you can't expect him to do. But if he doesn't listen, punish him. Say "Son, if you don't do as I say, I'm going to have to take away your favorite toy." This WORKS!! But it has to be something he REALLY loves, and it can't be something like his security blanket or stuffed animal. Be firm, fair and kind.
2006-09-23 10:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, spoil that child all you can cause before you know it he will be grown and gone. Then you'll be wishing you had spoiled him more. Right now they may be times that you get upset with him but think of all the good stuff you can tell his gf later in life. Enjoy him all you can. I know I have 3 grown children and everyone of them was spoiled rotten and I would not do it over. They have turned out to be great kids and never have been in trouble. Good Luck...
2006-09-23 12:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your child's doctor what is appropriate behavior in a 16month old. Since you apparently didn't do any reading about parenting before you had this child, you need to check out some age appropriate books and see how your son's behavior compares to his age group. He's a baby and needs consistent direction. You are the parent, take control.
2006-09-23 10:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A whinning 16 year old boy? Crying because he doesn't get what he wants when he wants it? Send his little young *** out to get a job. McDonalds, Burger King , the grocery store whatever. Have him start buying his own things. You should be trying to raise a young man that can take care of himself.
2006-09-23 10:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he/she throws a temper tantrum every time. That is when your hand meets his/her behind. 1 quick pop on the bottom should help that.
2006-09-23 10:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by rerebaby_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play with the baby to often. Nothing can help you.
2006-09-23 10:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the parents of this child ever got angry with him b4 ? you need to show this kid that he is wrong !
2006-09-23 10:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not ask a childcare doctor..
2006-09-23 10:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by funnykindel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋