I am a college freshman, and I have a crush on this girl I met at Ballroom Dancing Club practices. We have danced and talked only twice, but I know she is the girl I want; she is not certainly one of the hottest girls you can find at my school, but she has a beautiful smile, is intellectual, and is very nice. I think I am really into this girl, and i would like to ask her out sometime next week or the week after. I am Asian, and the fact that most white girls don't consider asian dudes to be datable kinda makes me lose my confidence. However, I am willing to ask her out before it's too late. I wanna do it properly at the proper time so that I can maximize my chance of getting hooked up with her. When is the best time of asking her out, and what I should I be doing until the time comes? Thanks.
2006-09-23 02:49:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about being Asian--I know Asian guys who have gotten with white girls and are in very happy relationships (one of them got married recently).
I suggest to keep things quick and simple and not make it so painful on yourself. Just set your goal: what do you want, just a date, or a committed relationship. Then practice a nonchalant sentence like, "hey, are you busy on so-and-so evening? what do you say we go and (do something fun) then finish off with (dinner at your house or a nice restaurant)". Try asking her in person, but if you won't see her soon enough a phone call should do it as well. If you get the answering machine, just say hi and tell her to call back, then ask her when she's on the phone. Don't chat, just invite, then hang up. You'll have plenty to chat about once you get the appointment.
Then when you sit down with her for dinner, openly explain what your intention is. You can say something as simple as "You're a great girl and I've been thinking a lot about you lately. What do you say we take this friendship forward to a new level?" Minimise the tension by saying "you don't have to give an answer now... take your time to consider it and get back to me when you know for sure." If the girl's had a good time with you, she most likely will just say yes. But if she's a careful thinker, don't get nervous if she does take the few days to come back with an answer. Stay positive, always be nice and open to her, and always act as the man that she truly deserves.
Good luck and have fun!
2006-09-23 03:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mizz G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since she comes off as shy, and you seem a little shy. I advise you to try to make her feel comfortable around you, MAKE sure you don't act quiet around her because it will just get really weird and awkward from there. When you go to her house make sure you just start the conversation to let her know that you're interested in her. And also be yourself, because YOU'RE the reason why she likes YOU so don't act like someone your not. Good Luck = )
2016-03-18 00:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and ask her, Look around you at all the mixed race couples, so don't worry about that, All the girl can say is no, if she doen't want to date you, if she does say no, go on to another! Good Luck!
2006-09-23 02:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to impress her by helping her out in her work but do not let her find that you're doing this for a purpose.
Be gentle and polite to her and others as well atleast in front of her.
2006-09-23 02:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by H a s e e b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start off with some small talk about something you think she is probably interested in. Then ask her if she'd like to go do such and such with you.
2006-09-23 02:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Scott K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her when you are dancing or ask to go somewhere to dance together.
Don't be disappointed we all want gold - but sometimes the cooper is good too.
2006-09-23 02:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no better time to ask her than now.
Just ask her.
Have you talked to her?
Does she seem interested?
If yes, why hesitate.
2006-09-23 02:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time u see her just ask her out even if it just 2 eat. u will never know until u do. dont worried bout what u heard. she might just end up liking u anyway.
2006-09-23 02:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by spades_intimidator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to her as a friend, when the time come you will know it, and also when you are more comfortable being around her is a good time too.
2006-09-23 03:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let things flow naturally...be her friend first...then maybe a day or two later,,,you then go ahead and tell her your feeling
2006-09-23 03:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by funnykindel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋