If Islam degrades women...?

Question

Why did countless women become Muslims? Read the book from my sisters lips by Naima. B. Robert

http://www.islamicgarden.com/article1006...
http://www.islamfortoday.com/converts.ht...
Why did they want to choose Islam if they are treated badly?
Why did Yusuf estes (that priest from America) become a Muslim?

Why does "paradise lie under the feet of thy mother"
The Prophet Muhammad put a stop to the burrying of baby girls and the slaughtering of them during the early times in Arabia?
The Quraan mention the rights of women

http://www.islamreligion.com/index.php?searchword=women&searchphrase=all&option=search&fromform=1&modifier=entire

I am a women and i know Islam doesn't degrade women. So many Muslim women (new and old) are happy living as Muslims so who is the media or people to tell them that they are terrorized when they perfectly happy? If you like pasta nd it doesnt harm you who am i to tell you that you don't like it and you get stomach aches by eating it?

None of my family is muslim...I'm not married to a Muslim but i'm still muslim and i am a women

Answer 1

At a time when the hostile media is incessant in its attempts to defame and ridicule Islam and the muslim woman, to portray her as oppressed and abused, the following facts should be enough to prove that the disbelieving nations are more worthy of the accusations they throw at others.

"They Don't Treat Their Women Very Well"

An American Woman married to a Muslim man (visit her website) writes: I can't tell you how many times I heard that phrase, over and again, from well-meaning friends, when they found out I was going marry a *gasp!* Muslim! I was also warned that he was just marrying me for a green card. To add insult injury, when I was planning a trip to Pakistan with my baby and to meet my husband's family, I heard all the "Not Without My Daughter" horror stories. "Aren't you afraid they'll try to take your baby?" I would ask, who do you mean by "they?" The Government of Pakistan? The general populace? My husband's family? Are you telling me that my husband's family exists to totally screw me over and take my son? People have always been afraid of what they don't understand. To make things worse, the perception of Muslims and Islam in western society has been totally skewed by movies and the media.

"Glass Houses". We all know the adage, "People who live in glass houses should not throw stones." When you hear someone say something to the effect that "muslims don't treat their women well," then it's time to say, "Oh, and Americans do?" Here are some statistics on spousal (or significant other) abuse, murder, and rape that men commit against their women partners, here in America, in the twenty-first century.



VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN IN THE UNITED STATES

MURDER . Every day four women die in this country as a result of domestic violence, the euphemism for murders and assaults by husbands and boyfriends. That's approximately 1,400 women a year, according to the FBI. The number of women who have been murdered by their intimate partners is greater than the number of soldiers killed in the Vietnam War.

BATTERING . Although only 572,000 reports of assault by intimates are officially reported to federal officials each year, the most conservative estimates indicate two to four million women of all races and classes are battered each year. At least 170,000 of those violent incidents are serious enough to require hospitalization, emergency room care or a doctor's attention.

SEXUAL ASSAULT . Every year approximately 132,000 women report that they have been victims of rape or attempted rape, and more than half of them knew their attackers. It's estimated that two to six times that many women are raped, but do not report it. Every year 1.2 million women are forcibly raped by their current or former male partners, some more than once.

THE TARGETS . Women are 10 times more likely than men to be victimized by an intimate. Young women, women who are separated, divorced or single, low- income women and African-American women are disproportionately victims of assault and rape. Domestic violence rates are five times higher among families below poverty levels, and severe spouse abuse is twice as likely to be committed by unemployed men as by those working full time. Violent attacks on lesbians and gay men have become two to three times more common than they were prior to 1988.

IMPACT ON CHILDREN . Violent juvenile offenders are four times more likely to have grown up in homes where they saw violence. Children who have witnessed violence at home are also five times more likely to commit or suffer violence when they become adults.

IMPACT ON HEALTH AND SOCIAL SERVICES . Women who are battered have more than twice the health care needs and costs than those who are never battered. Approximately 17 percent of pregnant women report having been battered, and the results include miscarriages, stillbirths and a two to four times greater likelihood of bearing a low birth weight baby. Abused women are disproportionately represented among the homeless and suicide victims. Victims of domestic violence are being denied insurance in some states because they are considered to have a "pre-existing condition."

SOURCES:
"Violence Against Women: A National Crime Victimization Survey Report", U.S. Department of Justice, Washington, D.C., January 1994.

"The National Women's Study," Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center, Medical University of South Carolina, Charleston, SC, 1992.

"Five Issues In American Health," American Medical Association, Chicago, 1991.

Bullock, Linda F. and Judith McFarlane, "The Birth Weight/Battering Connection," Journal of American Nursing, September 1989.

McFarlane, Judith, et. al., "Assessing for Abuse During Pregnancy," Journal of the American Medical Association, June 17, 1992.

Federal Bureau of Investigation statistics, 1992.

Sheehan, Myra A. "An Interstate Compact on Domestic Violence: What are the Advantages?" Juvenile and Family Justice Today, 1993.

Sherman, Lawrence W. et al. Domestic Violence: Experiments and Dilemmas, 1990.



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* Domestic Violence accounts for a quarter of all reported violent crime. [Working Party Report, Victim Support, 1992]

* Each year 100,000 women seek treatment in London for violent injuries caused in their homes.
[Punching Judy, BBC TV Documentary, 1989]

* Domestic Violence is not limited to physical assault. It includes sexual abuse and mental cruelty which undermine a woman's self-esteem. [McGibbon and Kelly, "Abuse of Women in the Home", 1989]

* Research conducted by Police found that 2/3 of all men believed that they would respond violently to their partners in certain situations. [Islington Council, 1994]

* Almost half of all murders of women are killings by current or former partners. [National Working Party Report on Domestic Violence, Victim Support, 1992]





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From OASIS - "Opposing Abuse with Service, Information, and Shelter". You can visit their website. Adapted from the American Bar Association.

Every day 4 women are **murdered** by their husbands, boyfriends, or ex-boyfriends after reported abuse.

An estimated 2 to 6 million women are battered annually in the USA.

Battering is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15-44.

One out of four pregnant women are battered. The battering may start or excalate during pregnancy.

Medical expenses from Domestic Violence total at least $3 billion annually and businesses lose another $100 million in sick leave, absenteeism and productivity.

One out of 7 girls is abused by her boyfriend, and many will be abused by their husbands.

Every Day four women are murdered by their husbands, boyfriends, or ex-boyfriends after reported abuse.

Courtship violence is wide-spread and underreported by both men and women. 30% of High School students have experienced physical or sexual violence in dating relationships. 37% of Men and 35% of Women have inflicted some form of physical aggression on their dating partners.

Women sustained more injuries than men, and they were two to three times more likely to experience unwanted sexual intercourse.

95% of violent crime on Campus is alcohol or drug related.

37% of the assailants and 55% of victims of rape had used alcohol or other drugs.

Husbands and boyfriends commit 13,000 acts of violence against women in the workplace every year (United States Department of Justice, 1994).

Over 1.7 million women were physically abused in 1995 by their male partners, one every 12 seconds (Federal Bureau of Investigation).

There were approximently 4.5 million violent crimes against women in 1992 and 1993. (The Justice Department recognizes that this is an under-estimation of domestic violence and violence against women). (Bureau of Justice Statistics’ National Crime Victimization Survey).

50% of all women will be involved in some type of abusive relationship in their life time. We could be talking about your daughters, your mothers, your wives, your girlfriends.

In 95% of VIOLENT CRIMES on campuses, ALCOHOL OR DRUGS WERE A FACTOR.

30% of High School students have experienced physical or sexual violence in dating relationships.

37% of men and 35% of women have inflicted some form of physical aggression with their dating partners.

For every 1 rape that IS reported, 10 are NOT reported.

By the most conservative estimate, each year 1 million women suffer nonfatal violence by an intimate. (Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report: Violence Against Women: Estimates from the Redesigned Survey (NCJ-154348), August 1995, p. 3.)

Other estimates suggest that 4 million American women experience a serious assault by an intimate partner during an average 12-month period. (American Psychl. ***’n. Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family (1996), p. 10.)

Nearly 1 in 3 adult women experience at least one physical assault by a partner during adulthood. (American Psychl. ***’n. Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family (1996), p. 10.)

In 1993, approximately 575,000 men were arrested for committing violence against women, approximately 49,000 women were arrested for committing violence against men. (American Psychl. ***’n. Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family (1996), p. 10.)

Domestic violence is statistically consistent across racial and ethnic boundaries. (Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report: Violence Against Women: Estimates from the Redesigned Survey (NCJ-154348), August 1995, p. 3.)

90-95% of domestic violence victims are women. (Bureau of Justice Statistics Selected Findings: Violence Between Intimates (NCJ-149259), November 1994.)

Much of female violence is committed in self-defense, and inflicts less injury than male violence. (Chalk & King, eds., Violence in Families: Assessing Prevention & Treatment Programs, National Resource Council and Institute of Medicine, p. 42 (1996).)

47% of men who beat their wives do so at least 3 times per year. (AMA Diagnostic & Treatment Guidelines on Domestic Violence, SEC: 94-677: 3M: 9/94 (1994).)

In homes where partner abuse occurs, children are 1,500 times more likely to be abused. (Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Assistance, Family Violence: Interventions for the Justice System, 1993.)

26% of pregnant teens reported being physically abused by their boyfriends, about half of them said the battering began or intensified after he learned of her pregnancy. (Brustin, S., Legal Response to Teen Dating Violence, Family Law Quarterly, vol. 29, no. 2, 333-334 (Summer 1995) (citing Worcester, A More Hidden Crime: Adolescent Battered Women, The Network News, July/Aug., National Women’s Health Network 1993).)

Female victims of violence are 2.5 times more likely to be injured when the violence is committed by an intimate than when committed by a stranger. (Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report: Violence Against Women: Estimates from the Redesigned Survey (NCJ-154348), August 1995, p. 4.)

Domestic violence is an ongoing cycle producing increasingly severe injuries over time, battered women are likely to see physicians frequently. (Children’s Safety Network, Domestic Violence: A Directory of Protocols for Health Care Providers (1992) p. (1).)

65% of intimate homicide victims had separated from the perpetrator prior to their death. (Florida Governor’s Task Force on Domestic and Sexual Violence, Florida Morality Review Project, 1997, p. 47, table 17.)

88% of victims domestic violence fatalities had a documented history of physical abuse. (Florida Governor’s Task Force on Domestic and Sexual Violence, Florida Morality Review Project, 1997, pp. 46-48, tables 14-21.)

44% of victims of intimate homicides had prior threats by the killer to kill victim or self. 30% had prior police calls to the residence. 17% had a protection order. (Florida Governor’s Task Force on Domestic and Sexual Violence, Florida Morality Review Project, 1997, pp. 46-48, tables 14-21.)




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From the YWCA of San Diego and the Domestic Violence Research and Training Institute. You can visit their website.

A female is battered every nine seconds. [California Alliance Against Domestic Violence, 1994]
It is estimated that one third of all high school and college students will have been in an abusive relationship by the time they graduate. [Levy, 1992]

Relationship violence is the number one cause of injury to women ages 15-44: more that rapes, muggings and car accidents combined. [Center For Community Solutions, 1997]

There are three times as many animal shelters in the United States as battered women shelters. [Senate Judiciary Committee, 1990]

63% of all boys ages 11-20 arrested for murder, murdered the man who was assaulting their mother.[Center For Community Solutions, 1997]

As many as 15 million women have been abused at some time during their lives. [Former Surgeon General C. Everett Koop, 1989]

As many as one-quarter to two-thirds of battered women report abuse during preganancy.["Battered and Pregnant: A Prevalence Study," Journal of the American Public Health Association]

In a prospective study of 1,200 white, Hispanic and black pregnant women, one in six reported physical abuse during pregnancy. ["Abuse During Pregnancy: A Cross-Cultural Studyof Frequent and Severity of Injuries," J. McFarlane, 1991]

The average battered women is attacked three times each year. [Intimate Violence, R. Gelles and M. Straus, 1988]

22 to 35 percent of women who visit emergency departments in the United States are there for symptoms related to on-going abuse. ["Domestic Violence Intervention Calls for More than Treating Injuries," Journal of the American Medical Association, 1990]

Families in which domestic violence occurs use doctors eight times more often, visit the emergency room six times more often and use six times more prescription drugs than the general population. ["Domestic Violence: A Community Crisis Waiting for an Effective Response" Seattle Domestic Violence Intervention, 1989]

Answer 2

Where does it say that Islam degrades women? Women are more special in Islam than men. Women have more rights than men in some cases. So that is probably why a lot of women prefer Islam. It is the media who makes it seem like Muslim women are degraded. Media makes it seem like that in Islam a man is allowed to beat his wife. That is highly insignificant, in the Qur'an it only says you may tap - TAP - your wife on the shoulder, and even that is the last resort to any problem. So I do not understand why, that even though people know the media is incorrect, they still tend to believe it. But thanks for your excellent information on Muslim women!

And Ramadan Mubarek to Muslims all over the World!!!

Answer 3

Hi. I'm a muslim girl, living in the middle east and i can definitely tell you it does not :) it actually teaches males to respect women and ESPECIALLY our mothers. I'm perfectly happy, i have a choice to wear the hijab or not, i go out with my friends, and i wear whatever i want, as long as its not skimpy ( i like wearing clothes that look good but are not tight and all, it depends on each person) maybe it (degradation of women) happens in the really poor countries where there isn't enough education and information about these matters.
And by the way, the reason prophet Mohamed married most of these women is because they were widows or very poor and he married them in name only to be able to support them!! Its really disgusting how some people think. oh and when he married ayesha, who was nine, it was very usual for men in Christianity and in Islam and in whatever religion WAY back then in to marry very young women. i was reading a book on medieval history, and this girl who was FIFTEEN was getting to old to be married, so its all about the customs back then.
And i actually like avoiding the sun most of the time. Who wants to get skin cancer of premature aging?
:)

Answer 4

I am also a muslim girl, I do totally agree with you :-) let the other people say whatever they want, don't we have to discuss about our religion in such places, you know there are many people here, who just wanna insult us (it's a shame they haven't learnt to respect people *Sigh*)
I believe in every culture, men have the better place, don't really know why... like in every nation only men were allowed to vote many many years ago (just an example) I also believe that in a few Arabic countries such as Saudi Arabia, men don't treat women, and it's all about the cultue, not Islam.

Answer 5

Peace be with u, sister.
i m glad that finally a woman spoke abt the rights of women in Islam. do u know that abt two-thirds of convertees to Islam are women in europe and usa. Islam doesn't degrade women, its a Myth/Misconception spread by the church and hatemongers. Islam actually elevates the status of women. according to Islam, men and women are Equal though Not Identical. like in a quiz of 2 questions 10 marks each, student A and student B both got 18 marks, but on examining it was found that, A got 10 in Q1 and 8 in Q2, but B got 8 in Q1 and 10 in Q2. Men and Women are different and its a FACT, so just face it, but difference doesn't mean any is lesser than the other, we are still Equal. Peace to All.

Edit in response to *brotherMichael* : i have answers to each of ur points, but can't answer here, as this is someone else's question. i can ask u if u ask question urself, or u can contact me through my nick here.

Answer 6

Ya you are right
Islam does not degrades women but there are some people in the world who are trying to degarde Islam by picking out a issue for example that Islam is degarding women e.t.c
But this is not true thats why most women are adopting Islam these days

Answer 7

I have started thinking that it is not Islam that degrades women. It is the culture in those parts of the world to a great extent.

Answer 8

media always tries to go to a country and find out few cases related to "degrading women" being influenced of Culture rather then Islam. i wonder media have never shown lot of cases related to "degrading women" in India, Srilanka, and lot of other coutries. even in west, women are tortured mentaly.

Answer 9

It is not Islam, but cultures that degrade women.

You will find it a cultural thing, not a religion that degrades women.

Not all Muslim cultures degrade women, just as not all Christian cultures degrade women, tho some do.

Answer 10

I totally agree with u. I am a muslim women too and i have never been degraded. Jennifer, i think there r some wierdos in this world who just cant keep thier stupid and idiotic comments to themselves!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

some Islamics degrade women, however some Christians degrade women too.. the people who do this are clearly not getting the message of their religion.. the world sees them behaving this way and starts making stereotypes about the religion..