A close co-worker/friend lost her 23 yr old son last night in a tragic car accident. I want to do something to help the family but what should I do? Her children are her life without them she will be lost she is such a wonderful mother. There is nothing she wouldn't do for those kids.
2006-09-23 01:38:39 · 10 answers · asked by blueeyedgrl79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is nothing you can do right now. The loss of a child is a path you walk alone. However, your friend is going to want to talk about him eventually and this makes most people very uncomfortable because of the anguish they percieve and cannot relieve. Her family interactions will always include this lost son. So when she says, " He would have been 24 today." You can say, " Yes, and the world is a little less blessed today because he is not here." She is going to want to include his presence in family milestones. And you can say," Yes, he would have been so proud of his sister for graduating." Validate the fact that his spirit remains in his family. You can be a source of comfort for her broken heart by letting her acknowledge that he was with them and continues to be a member of her family no matter where his spirit dwells.
2006-09-23 01:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to call your friend and let her know that you are there for her whether it be by leaving a message or in person. If she has younger children, you might want to offer babysitting while her family is taking care of arrangements.
It depends on the person, but I know that if something happened to one of my daughters, a warm shoulder, a fifth of rum and a stay up all night and cry session would probably be on the agenda. Right now is when she's going to need you the most. By the time the funeral comes around, she's going to be surrounded by acquaintances and trying to be polite.
Just make sure that you show up for all funeral activities and that she knows that you're there. If you see something that needs to be done, just do it!!
Sorry to hear about your friend! She must be devastated!
2006-09-23 01:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible. the only thing you could really do is let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk. She will go thru some hard times. Right now is the initial shock, after a week or two she will be going thru the anger stage, so be patient, then after a month depression will set in. Grieving is a very long process, try and find a grievance program for parents who lost a child and give her the number after about a month from the funeral.
2006-09-23 01:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by staydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly there's very little you can do for your friend as far as taking her hurt away & stuff as grief over loss is a process which she will have to go through at her own pace & in her own way. What you can do is be there for her to just cry on your shoulder or whatever - be open with her & express how bad you feel about the situation. Possibly look into some grief counsellors that you can refer her to if she wants to talk with someone. Maybe cook them some dinner & take it over, simple things like that make all the difference when you're trying to plan funeral arrangements etc can often fall by the wayside.
2006-09-23 01:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the moment, the best you can do is take a dish to the house and just show her you are so sorry for the loss of her son. Let her know that you'll be there for her to do all you can to help her.
2006-09-23 03:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to give her calls or visit her to keep her company. Let her cry on your shoulder if she has to. But tell her that no matter what that your son will always be there for you no matter what happens.
2006-09-23 01:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be a good friend / listener. Offer to help with funeral arrangments
2006-09-23 01:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Naomi C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could become very supportive when she need somebody to talk too.
Just you being you (A good trusting friend)!!!
2006-09-23 01:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Alan P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there to support her!
2006-09-23 02:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Steven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take tray offood
2006-09-23 02:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋