My boyfriend has done pot for 4 years now and since then his mom has been trying to get him to stop and now he's not allowed to see his only friend because his friend had supplied pot before. My boyfriend will be 18 really soon. Also his mom is a very Christian women.
2006-09-23 01:08:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My boyfriend has done pot for 4 years now and since then his mom has been trying to get him to stop and now he's not allowed to see his only friend because his friend had supplied pot before. My boyfriend will be 18 really soon. Also his mom is a very Christian women.
His mom has known about this n has sent him to an out patient thing n called the police on him. I am completly against pot big time n i want him to stop too. but i kno its his decision upon that. but his mom is drillin it into him to the point where he gets suicidal and crys. hes the first ive dated that had ever done pot but i cant leave him because of another sin that i am ashamed about but will make it through. im tryin to figure out wat to tell his mom so then my boyfriend wont be all suicidal n i kno shes doin the right thing for tryin to get him to stop but in the end it is his decision....all i can do is pray n n for his mom to pray. ugh this is so confusing...
2006-09-23 01:24:13 · update #1
My boyfriend has done pot for 4 years now and since then his mom has been trying to get him to stop and now he's not allowed to see his only friend because his friend had supplied pot before. My boyfriend will be 18 really soon. Also his mom is a very Christian women. His mom has known about this n has sent him to an out patient thing n called the police on him. I am completly against pot big time n i want him to stop too. but i kno its his decision upon that. but his mom is drillin it into him to the point where he gets suicidal and crys. hes the first ive dated that had ever done pot but i cant leave him because of another sin that i am ashamed about but will make it through. im tryin to figure out wat to tell his mom so then my boyfriend wont be all suicidal n i kno shes doin the right thing for tryin to get him to stop but in the end it is his decision....all i can do is pray n n for his mom to pray. ugh this is so confusing...btw ive been with him for a 1yr 5mnths he is a good guy
2006-09-23 01:25:44 · update #2
He is a christian but just does stupid things, i understand wat u all are saying n im just in the middle between him n his mom i understand both. his dad is a butt hole n i kno wat that is like cuz i was abuse for many years n i use to do crap to myself to relieve stress and he just wants to do the same but w/pot which sucks.... im just tryin to find advice on wat i should do and wat to tell his mom. how she has been with him is affecting him n now me in a stressful related way. i dont kno wat God would say about this. isnt there something about free will in the bible?
2006-09-23 01:34:53 · update #3
What would Jesus say?
2006-09-23 01:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think his mom is trying to keep him from the pot, and doesn't really know how else to do this. She's just being a mom.
I wouldn't stop someone from doing a bad thing. I'd advise them to do different, but the decision is in his own hands. And the consequences too.
If he were my son, I'd definitely talk, beg and a whole lot more, so he'd realize that pot isn't the way to go.
2006-09-23 08:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET IT BE, LET IT BE, There only is one answer. Or smoke with him. Now don't get all judgemental, but I had a similar problem with an x-girlfriend of mine.She was totaly against weed, but after 3 long hard months, we were smokin together and laughing instead of fighting, she liked it. She even found out shortly after that her(like best friends) Mom was a smoker too. You know many times it's the stubboren and unaccepting who create the worst problems.
2006-09-23 08:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What mom is doing is mom's job to raise her son the best she can and to stop him from doing stupid things. Has mom known for the last 4 years or did she just recently find out. I would guess that she just found out and wants her sonn to have a better life than the drug scene. Go MOM put your foot down and show your son the ils of his ways. I will pray for you be strong.
2006-09-23 08:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to prevent one's son from ending up in jail has little to do with christian faith. It's just good parenting.
Geneally speaking, one gets punished for breaking the law, not for "sinning". If sinning was the only criterion, everyone would have a police record. I must admit though, that the christian population in the USA these days would love to see OTHER people incarcerated for sinning, just not themselves.
2006-09-23 08:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the parents of any minor children have a duty to rear the child in the ways of the laws rules and mores of the Culture and Society in which they live. when the child is not of legal age the child is still required to listen and obey the parents. when the child becomes an adult then they are still required to obey the laws rules and mores of the Culture and Society. when adulthood is reached the person faces more severe punishment for the same offense because they are adults.
2006-09-23 08:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. As a parent his mom is legally responsible for anything distructive he does to his body, mind, or any property around him. And is very valid for trying to get him to stop smoking weed, it is illegal. But once he is 18 and if he decides to live on his own, she is no longer legally responsible, but if he moved out and I knew he was smoking pot I would call the cops on him. In the end no one can really make him quite but himself.
2006-09-23 08:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by brian_richard20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his Mom is probably worried because let's face it ...pot is illegal and I'm sure she doesn't want to see her son go to jail for being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I don't think it's a sin for her to take care of her son and do what she feels is best for his safety.That's a Mother's responsibility.
2006-09-23 08:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is probably the silliest thing. Of course his mom has the right to tell him to stop. As long as he lives in HER house, he has to live by HER rules. Even if he is 18 years old, she pays the bills, feeds him.... HER rules apply.
He'll be 18 soon, he can move out and do what he wants.
2006-09-23 08:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to do pot he will do it.,
He has to want to stop.
Smoking pot is illegal but I don't think it is a sin in your terms
Smoking is harmful to your health which maybe a sin in your terms
you have to believe in the concept of sin. I only believe in right and wrong. Wrong is when you or someone else gets harmed by your wilful actions
I only stopped smoking when I wanted to stop, no one else could make me do it
2006-09-23 08:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by n2mustaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you can't really do anything to stop this. The real question is whether or not you are a Christian, because if you are you would find a Christian boyfriend, or better yet wait untill the time is right.
God bless!!
2006-09-23 08:27:57 · answer #11 · answered by Sky_blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋