he wants something to happen between us but i dont want to until he knew about it and until he accepts me and my baby.
2006-09-23 00:17:02 · 17 answers · asked by helen ^_^ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You gotta tell him like now.I been single for awhile and have to wonderfull kiddies.When I meet someone wether it be friend or some girl i'm attracted to I get the fact that I have 2 children out there real quick.Some people get turned away instantly by that, just save yourself the heartache and find out how he feels.Just tell him the next time you talk,good luck.
2006-09-23 00:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your baby is the most important person in your life right now. Whether or not you planned on having a baby, that statement is still true. You have a responsibility to your baby, to make him/her the most important person in your life. That doesn't mean you can't have an adult relationship, it just means that whoever you choose to have a relationship with needs to know you have a baby and the full extent of your commitment to your child. Don't expect some guy to come in and sweep you off your feet and relieve you of your responsibility. Having a baby is not glamorous but it is your life so be real and if the guy walks because you have a baby, so be it. Who was it that you "loved" anyway? Some guy that didn't want the real you: a woman with a baby.
2006-09-23 08:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Catherine G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be honest with him. He has a right to know that you have a child. If he feels the same about you that you feel about him, then you having a baby won't matter. You should never have to worry about someone accepting you and your child. You are who you are and no one can change that. If he doesn't accept that you have a child, then he isn't the person that you thought he was. I'd bet that he won't have a problem with your baby. But, make sure that you tell him why you didn't tell him in the first place. Also, let him know that you aren't looking for someone to be your child's father, just someone who is willing to share with you all of the wonders a child has to offer. You just might be giving him a gift.
2006-09-23 07:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way around this honey. You just have to come out with it. If he truly wants you and is genuine with his intentions, your baby will only be seen as a blessing. Otherwise, you have nothing to lose if he doesn't accept your situation. You are better off without a fool like that in your life. ~All the best!
2006-09-23 07:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Helen, You never lie to someone you are intrested in especially about your child! I have three and I tell them up front, because with me comes them! Don't ever be afraid to ashamed to tell am man that. Now you have a lot of explaining to do, just sit him down and let him know you have been keeping something from him. Tell him why you felt you had to keep it a secert. If he loves you he will be upset but he will be back if he doesn't then he is not worth having in the first place. You really should be honest!
Good Luck!
Always Amy
2006-09-23 07:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a hard thing to bring up with a boy, the timing is crucial.
You don't want to scare them off on the first date but you shouldn't wait too long either.
You just have to tell him outright, sooner better than later.
It will come as a shock at first but if he cares enough for you it will be ok.
Stranger things have happened.
If he runs away, be philosophical about it and move on.
Plenty of men out there.
2006-09-23 07:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Yellowstonedogs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
definition of love: when someone knows your deepest darkest secrets and will accept you without condition or reservation . you could start by asking him if he has any children? if he likes kids would you like to see some pictures of my baby tell him how cute smart and funny he/she is. and the next time you two meet for lunch you would like him/her to meet you . if he runs or doesn't call you should for get him and take baby to day care and find a guy dropping off child of his own. then use your best female skills to hook him up and real him in. good luck
2006-09-23 07:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by rogerjimerson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you, Next time you and go out start up a conversation about kids and see where he leads you. If he doesn't know about your kid he will speak truthfully about it unless he is hip to your secret and you don't know it. If he answers good and you liked what you heard then let him know why you brought up that subject. If you don't like what you heard then gradually dump him. Yes it is not fair to him but if he knows what's up he will say anything you want to hear to get in bed with you. Good luck.
2006-09-23 10:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Save yourself stress and trouble later on..tell him now, and tell him you decided to tell him, because you are now sure you love him.Otherwise you will have this cross hanging over your relationship always.
If you never loved him, it would not matter that much anyway.
Whatever happens, better to have it happen now , i think if he really cares, he will accept.
2006-09-23 07:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by Featherman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you are so smart you want to him, but on your conditions, its very easy for lady to accept a guy with kids but for a man it is very difficult, tell him about your truth but don't force him to accept your kid too,let your love grow and become that much strong so that he can accept all in your past.
2006-09-23 09:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋