I was sexually molested and abused by many family members when I was a kid. I couldnt voice these to anyone becoz they treated me like trash when I was a kid and I know no one would believe, rather would start beating me up. Im a 21 years old woman now, the aftermath of those incidents still traumatize me and make me scared of men and women in social circles. They still haunt me.
How can I get over them?
2006-09-22 23:25:47 · 6 answers · asked by thinking 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I lost a dear friend three years ago....she had been abused and raped by every male member of her family as a child...while the greedy mom turned a blind eye to it..they all drank and my dear little friend became a raging alcholic...Of course it still haunts you...They not only stripped you of your virginity...but your own self esteem...as to say you are nothihg...and you are trash and we could care less...to a child..you now grow up to be conditioned into thinking that is who you are...a nobody...someone who didn't count enough to be protected..someone who had to endure pain at the hands of others...But please know this...Our Father in Heaven loves you...Jesus loves you...this is a test to you in a way..you can forgive them and serve the Lord..and find peace in your life and go on...or you can hold onto it like Satan wants you to do and end up self destructing...I pray you chose the first path...forgiveness is hard but it gives you an understanding and takes the pain out of your heart My prayers are with you
2006-09-23 02:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get therapy
join a support group of sexual trauma survivors. Pay special attention to the ladies who are in their 30's and 40's who have managed to recover a life despite the trauma
don't get married or have children anytime soon. You have a lot to sort out first.
read books of people who have recovered a life after similar trauma.
Know that you can recover, but it will take a long time and you have lots of work to do.
Know that what happened to you was not fair, but, sadly, now it is your problem.
Don't seek apologies from those who hurt you. Approaching them for an apology means that you have contact with them. They will hurt you again. Stay away.
A faith system is enormously helpful.
2006-09-23 00:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart...dont be scared of them...even though this happened in your childhood...you can still have these monsters locked up..thing is...they could be still doing this to another poor child...go to the police and get them arrested...they will believe you...i know of a case where a good friend of mine was being abused every single day by her father from the age of 9, she would not tell anyone because the low lie beast made threats towards her and her siblings, he was also abusing her sisters, none of them said a word to anyone because they were petrified of this piece of slime...when she was 23 she reported it...he is now in jail for a very long time, he's lost his marriage, he has lost his children and he is branded a beast...her brothers printed pictures of him and put them in every place they could think of just to let people know that this man was a child abuser...the word spread fast.....you need to get these monsters off the streets before they harm someone else...they cant harm you if they are locked up...you also need to seek some help to get over the trauma...do not leave this any longer....they don't deserve to be on this planet let alone in your family...don't let them hurt you any more...i hope you can resolve this....trust me...reporting this is a good thing...dont be friehtened of them...they are just low life scum
2006-09-22 23:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact a sex abuse counselor. It doesn't matter how old you are. Please talk to a professional and allow them to help you try and get over this and get on with your life. Child molestation is more common than the average person would think. I was molested too.
2006-09-22 23:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots and lots of therapy, or find a body of people you can trust and make one friend and start slow with the trust issues. A good church might help because they are "generally" a loving, moral people.
2006-09-22 23:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a good therapist and possibly even a support group. i was raped when i was 18 by someone i considered a friend. i sought out a therapist and it helped alot.
2006-09-22 23:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋