I have recently ended a long term relationship that was on the decline for quite a long time (about two years). Basically, we had become different people over the course of our time together and ended up being mutually incompatible. During the past year I have met a woman who stirs me to my core and who makes my day, each and every day.
Since the end of my previous relationship I have made my feelings much more obvious to her and she has intimated to me that she has similar feelings. I really want to be with her, but I'm afraid my previous relationship may be creating reservations in her mind. I realize many people believe that there should be time taken between relationships to avoid the "rebound" issue.
Is there a timeframe for these things that should be adhered to strictly, or do you just have to do what feels right and take the chance of getting hurt in order to see if this is, in fact, the woman of your dreams?
2006-09-22 21:42:14 · 17 answers · asked by Lovestruck? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel that strongly about her why are you talking to us and not her?! communicate with her! If you feel that it is too soon (and yes these things are based on feelings not strict timeframes) then take it slowly, court her, take her out for meals,to the cinema or if your feeling cultural the theatre. Prove to her that she isnt the rebound and that you do feel that strongly about her.
2006-09-22 21:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by dreama_120987 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was on a 'decline' it doesnt mean it's forgotten. People still have a tendency to cling to what's familiar than to proceed forward.
You can see it and hear it even in this Q&A forum. Risk to move forward is always that...a risk. But that's what makes the world go round!
It takes longer to pick up a new relationship and make it good if the last one was troubled and you dont make lots of space for reflection.
I think a year is probably a more reliable time to engage in a new relationship with clear lessons from the past. ;)
2006-09-22 21:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance, sounds like you have a great thing going with your new love. Your previous relationship was on a decline anyway and you say you met another in the past year...I`d hardly call that being on the rebound. From what you write, I`d say there is happiness on your horizon, grab on to it and see what develops. Best wishes for a bright furure !
2006-09-22 21:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend, my ex ended our relationship after being together for 2 months and she got with another guy 3 weeks after our relationship so i think she is rebounding but really there is no time to say that u wouldn't be rebounding. Your only rebounding if u still think about the ex all the time or talk about the ex with your new partner or if u r trying to make your ex jealous by being with your new partner then you know your rebounding. Give it some time with the new person don't think that he or she is the one just let it happen,if it happens it happens, if if doesn't it doesn't.
2006-09-22 22:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Doug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh pal, you need to take some spontaneity lessons. Time frames? Reservations in her mind? Rebound issues? Adhere to strictly? Woman of your dreams?
You need to get out of the house and experience people just being people. You are a walking pocket protector. Stop thinking about all that crap. Take the broad out and see what happens. It's easy, see?
2006-09-22 21:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear i think that you should get over your past not all the people surrounding you is the same my advise for you is to go ahead and start this relationship but start slowly do not rush in to things until you are 100% sure of your moves and always stay open with the one you like or even love to get the real support and understanding you want do not hide your feeling do not be afraid of the future just go on
2006-09-22 21:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in one way or around it's the same thing. for sure there will be one who's going to get hurt. my question is, would you want to be happy and be with someone that you think you really love? then if your answer is yes go on and choose the one you think that was the woman of your dreams! don't think of the "rebound". you don't have to feel guilty coz your not doing wrong your only trying to get real about your feelings! face it! be your self and for sure you'll not regret what will you choose!!! goodluck....
2006-09-22 21:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by honeyko_japan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to her, explain to her that you'd really like to get closer to her, but don't want to ruin things by setting too fast a pace. Then let her take the lead. Whether it will lead to a new relationship for you or maybe a friendship, only time will tell.
2006-09-22 21:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 12:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to give your self some time to heal from the previous relationship , and when you feel like its all clear in your head , then move on to the next !
anyway .. in the mean time .. i suggest you spend some time alone !
2006-09-22 21:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋