My son has been in my care since he was 18 months , his mother left at seven, never to return and he has grown up with me .
His natural father has seen him three times for a day at a time in twelve years
He is my own
All his school records carry my name , as do his sporting records.
However his medical records don't . Due to legal reasons I have always kept them legitimate .
He is sick of the confusion, As I am and, would like to leagally change his name .
When can he do it with out his natural patents consent .
He is 14 years old .
Cheating here getting two questions for the price of one
Is it morally right in your opinion for my son to change his Sir name .
He also wants to add my middle Christian name to his
2006-09-22 20:20:52 · 24 answers · asked by kevin d 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Consult a lawyer . thats the best !
2006-09-22 20:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don’t see anything wrong with your son wanting to take your last name and middle name. It is clear you are this boys father and his biological father has clearly had very little to do with him. I applaud you any man can make a baby but it takes a True man to be a father.
As some have said you should talk to a Lawyer and see what your options are. You might even be able to annual the parents rights, really a mother that has abandoned her child, that’s what is when you take off for 7 years , a “father” that has seen his son 3 times in 12 years that is not parents , surely any judge would see that.
2006-09-23 04:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the legality of when he can change his name varies in every state so you might want to check with your state to find that answer. You might want to call the city hall in your city and get the legal response. If you have legal custody of the child and are his guardian then you might have all the authority to ok the change.
As far as the other question goes, I think morality has no place in the matter. Both of his bio parents had a moral obligation to stand by their son and neither did, I commend your son for wanting to respect you that way and feel that he should be able to make his own decision in this matter. He IS your son as you said and should feel as close to you as possible, and if that takes a legal name change then I think he should do it... Good for you and good luck.
2006-09-23 03:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with the morally right issue. He should pick whatever name he is most comfortable with. Egg and sperm donors do not equal parents. I just would not mess with his name change at this point. I wouldn't do anything that might get the legal folks involved resulting in you losing him. When he can go to court and be considered an emancipated minor, then he has the rights of an adult and change his name. Even tho I said no legal - I meant like CPS. You should contact an attorney for info and they cannot turn you over to CPS.
Your love for this boy comes through loud and clear. You are a good person.
2006-09-23 03:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 14, if parents are divorcing, a child can choose which one they want to stay with, so I think your son could and should have the right to choose to take your name. I would pay a visit to your local Citizens Advice and get a free half hour with a solicitor. I wish you and your son every success, I think he is a very lucky young man to have such a caring and loving father.
2006-09-23 03:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Grannygrump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer about this.It sounds like you you have some legal ground to stand on here since his natural parents have abandoned him.Another alternative is to wait until he is 18 which is considered adult in most cases.
As for the morality issue of a name change,I see none here.You are his father.
2006-09-23 05:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by hungerforknowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't got a clue about you first question but i just wanted to say that in my opinion it is morally right for him to take your name. Your his dad! I wish you all the luck in the world with getting this sorted mate. Bringing up somebody Else's baby since he was a year and a half old- Your a top bloke!
2006-09-23 03:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jason S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation, I think this is not the place to resolve your dilemma nor should you look for advice from people who might not know what they are talking about, I would suggest you to find a lawyer and ask him about it, in my opinion it should be possible since the parents are such ***holes. I think it is moraly correct for your son to want to change his name to whatever he wants to be called, it is not like he had it easy in life and he can only count on one person in the world.
My stepfather , to me, is my real father since the biological one abandoned me and my mother. I use his last name.
2006-09-23 03:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kevin D, I would like to personally commend you for being a true man in every sense of the word...You raised a child that wasn't biologically yours, that shows there ARE "DADS" out there who are making a difference, and not just fathering children....There are deadbeat moms, only the men seem to get the criticism....Kudos to you Sir!!!!!!! Good luck sincerely!!
2006-09-23 03:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all states are diffent.just like in florida its between 15 or 16 and also how the judge feels about the reason.but there is also a law called divorceing a parent.but if you can get the parents on nagleat then you have a case.good luck/
2006-09-23 03:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there...well to start off with "WHAT A MAN YOU ARE" congratulations and well done for the total love,respect & dedication you have given your boy, I admire & respect you for what you have done and are doing. Try looking at the deed poll site on the net, I am sure you can change his name by deed poll without much hassle. Hope this helps
2006-09-23 03:42:17 · answer #11 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋