Hi, I now I am in Dubai just 3 and half month ago and just 2 after of my marriage. My wife was my cousin and we love each other very much. Her parents, sister and everybody in her family was not agree. But my parents managed my marriage at any cost. Now from the last 15 days she is with her parents and trying to call me back and saying she will commit suicide and moreover she is missing me a lot and fell sick there. I am very worried. I am working in good company. I have just finished my training. The company will not leave me because it has invested lots of money on me. What I do. Pls guide me plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz I am on the verge of death.
2006-09-22 20:10:53 · 37 answers · asked by khan_asim7862002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IT IS VERY BIG TROUBLE BUT YOU WILL HAVE TO OVERCOME. BETTER YOU TALK HER ON PHONE AND TELL YOUR EMERGENCY TO STAY IN DUBAI. YOU TELL HER THAT LIFE IS LONG FOR THAT YOU NEED MONEY. IF YOU WILL LEAVE JOB HOW YOU LOOK AFTER HER AND YOUR COMING GENERATIONS. TRY TO CONVEYS HER POLITELY. THERE IS NO FAULT OF HER SHE IS NEWLY MARRIED. SHE ALSO NEED YOU.
2006-09-23 16:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First tell your parents to take the help of local community leaders and bring her back to your home. At the same time, her parents have not done any harm to her. Only problem is she is missing you too much and you too. Both of you are going through that trauma of seperation after marriage and also the need to hug and console each other.
Immediately, if possible take a visit visa for her and atleast you can stay together for 2 months. Only thing is you have to find a single BR apartment temporarily. Above all, call her parents and talk to them directly. This will help a lot, coz after sometime she will miss her parents too.
2006-09-22 21:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by indiananytime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just worry much ,better you talk to her and explain your problem that the company which has spend a lot of money on your training is not going to give you leave and after all this is the question of your carrier, you just can't run away from this. She have to understand it if she really loves you . Now question about her missing you a lot ,it happens newly married always miss each other if possible for you call her and keep her with you .
2006-09-22 20:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by sanjay j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down calmly for ten minutes and write down on a sheet of paper all that you remember about this problem. Keep it aside for six hours. Meantime take a good sleep. I know it is not easy, but it is possible. After you wake up , check the sheet and arrange all the items in time sequence- first things first. When you finish, read the whole text again. By now your solution will appear clear to you. DESTROY THE PAPERS AFTER YOUR WORK IS DONE.
2006-09-22 20:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your cousin, which means equal to a sister??? and you made her your wife??? Never mind!
Now whats her problem if she so very much loves you? Ask her to understand & help you with your future, and not just add on to the pressures!... Loving a person doesnt merely mean to marry the person, but it also means accepting him and living with him as he is...
Why doesnt she understand that your future lies there? and for what joy is she living with her parents, when she was supposed to be living with you, or if not, with your parents... This all sounds crazy..
Her parents might have poisoned her mindabout the whole issue... Try and make her understand things and bring her to live with you.
2006-09-22 21:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Little Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not resign your job , it is for your future and her future and the future of your children. Try to be a husband with a strong character and do not think much of the situation as negative. Explain to her the situation firmly but tenderly confirming that you love her and would like to be with her more than she does but you must continue in Dubai because of your future & her future whereby in the long run no body will help you financially like a good job...
2006-09-22 20:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear now matter what country you're from you shouldn't marry your cousin. It's gonna cause lotsa family problems, Just how old are you, you should know better. And I'm sure you're not on the verge of death, chances are you WILL wake up in the morning.
2006-09-22 20:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by anne2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend its life and death problem. But u have face it. First u sent ur parents or ur friends to convince her parents and give her mental support that is very very essential. U can use even ur friends to explain her how she will be happy with u in the future ahd how much u r loving her. I think her parents pressuring her to leave u. But it is not that much easy in Indian society. One thinng is that u have to convince her not to go for suicide by contacting or throgh ur friends.
ALL THE BEST
2006-09-22 23:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear take an emergency leave and go to your home first, study the situation there first instead of making noise or asking for help to others, and if you want ask some suggestions from your relatives. You must inform your parents about this story, etc. and inform them the purpose of your emergency leave, etc....
See, after marriage if you are separate immediately then some confusions come across, it's due to the nature, I mean its natural...I do not want to explain all here now...(contact me I will tell you in details)...
Here, don't bother about anything anybody... go ahead and do what fit for you....see clearly...because you need a clear “view/vision of future”...if anybody is against your vision...avoid...try to get a better married life... remember your girl is young there may be some confusions with her also, just understand it...deal with it..
You are qualified, matured and employed. You can take the best decision instead of asking other girls on this "Yahoo Answers"..you are a man with all abilities and capabilities to handle a small family life...what is this yaar?...nobody married in this world?....nobody see a girl or deal with a “*******-girl”?...may be you are more stressed due to your work there.
See I am not bothered to shout at you, even if you do not select me as Best Answer!
I am matured man of strong nobody can ****-me up, do you know what I mean here? think as man... See - man has to do several things to control and make his family life…
According to me all what you explained is happed because of your absence...and so many other people played here unnecessarily....first kick them out...go ahead with your wife, if she is interested to stay with you or if she not-interested, kick her out first…why you have to die?
Be a strong-man....did you see a man crying in this world, if he cries he is the BEST FUCKER-accordingly to me... deal with it dear...
Again, my advice is to keep your wife with you-my friend...If possible take her to Dubai in near future...May be you have to spend little more...bear it...See life is not so simple of ******* and enjoyments, it is difficult also....Take things as it come...Take serious initiatives, stay, face it, develope then enjoy it..live life like others...show others how you live?...can you do it? It is a challenge before you baby?...then I can atleast agree that you are a boy or man...
Best of Luck
2006-09-22 21:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by SA-bic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make a big gesture to her family so they will know you deserve to be with their daughter and make peace with them, that will be the first key, then both of you must keep consistent, then they will have to take it as it is and do what you both want, just build a relationship with each member in her family individually, it might take time but it's worth it, it's for a life time.
Good luck
2006-09-22 20:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by aseelmikdam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if ur wife really loves u then she'll definately understand ur prob....try to convince ur parents n ur father n mother in law to tac care of her at all levels.....she shud not do all dis just bcoz u r not wid her....u shud atleast give her a day n go to her n meet her try to convincing her.....u shud tell her that u r doing all dis bcoz of her n 4 ur future...u arent doing sumthing wrong...... go to her n call her netime u feel like but frequently so that shes relaxed....i knwo u r in a midddle line whr u cant move ...if u move then sum or d other wud face a prob ......u r facing a prob on both sides dear.......i think if shes not convinced by that THEN I THINK U SHUD LEAVE UR COMPANY>>>>RESING IT>>>>> Coz if u think that u r doing all dis 4 ur family then i think the main imp memeber is ur WIFE n if shes not thr then for whom r u doing all dis? pls.....i think u shud stay away from ur company.....resign it!
2006-09-22 23:33:15 · answer #11 · answered by Neha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋