too close?

Question

My bf and I have been together for a few months, he picked up the pieces of my broken heart. I have never lied to him about anything. He has been talkin about us being closer and doin more together and wishing that he could see more of me. He has been tryin to get closer to me and I was ok with that, but our relationship was supposed to be casual. Both of us were supposed to lead our own lives, we are both very busy. I have been makin time for him and he has been doin likewise. We have been gettin very close and we recently had an arguement about how he thinks that we are "too close". We only see each other about twice a week. I thought that he was tryin to nicely break up with me but later he told me that he was actually tryin to apologize for not spendin more time with me. He said that he didnt think it was fair that he didnt have enough time for me. So was he really tryin to break up with me and changed his mind or was he tryin to apologize? I dont understand what this means. Help?

Answer 1

It kind of sounds like he's contradicting himself in a way, but I think I know what he was thinking. It sounds like he may have been trying to convince you that you were in fact too close so you wouldn't miss him not having enough time for you. Personally, I think he went about this entirely the wrong way. But if you both want to continue the relationship, then you can probably make it work. Just hope that things clear up so you can spend more time together. Good luck!

Answer 2

I am sorry that your heart was broken.
Time does not replace some of the broken pieces.
You two have only been seeing each other twice a week.
That is not what I call "too close".
I think he was trying to see you less, but your reaction told him that would not be in his best interest.
He made up a lame reason that he was sorry he could not spend more time with you. That may have made you more happier and took the heat off him about the argument. In my opininion, he wants to break off the relationship and does not know how to do it without making you unhappy.
Maybe it is time for you to think about things.
I would not want your heart to ache and be broken again.