A two-part question:
I know the dangers in meeting someone in person that you've only talk to online (so no need in getting into that), but my question is this: You talk to a guy (or girl) for months, get to know them, share pics. You meet and this person is who they say they are, same person from the pics and is pretty much truthful about what they shared online as far as you know. You meet up a few more times, hang out - would it be bad to begin a relationship with that guy (or girl) or do you think it's only good in the beginning and the real person may come out later on (which could apply to anyone you meet, and not just people form online)?
I'm not experiencing this, but I'm just curious about what people think. Would you do this or would you NEVER consider it? And would you be embarassed about it?
Part two:
What do you think about a 21-22 year old and a 35-36year old together? Good? Bad? Nasty?
Again,not me. Just gaining opinions.Thanks for answering my wacky questions
2006-09-22 19:47:08 · 10 answers · asked by meyouokay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And I'll definitely take the time to pick a Best Answer. Thanks again!
2006-09-22 19:47:38 · update #1
Okay, picture this.
You see a guy on the train and everything about him seems sweet and honest. You talk to him and you end up getting his phone number.
Talking to someone online is at least learning a little about them. Who they are in real life is different from who they are online, but if you liked him on the internet and you like him in real life, then there's absolutely no harm in at least trying a relationship, is there? It's not greater risk than meeting a friend for the first time. I'd do it- no risk, no gain. I would probably be nervous but I'd at least try.
As to the second part, I think that if the 21yo and the 35yo loved each other, then nothing should stop them, least of all something as trivial as age. If they're both mature about the relationship and know what they're getting into, and if there is love, then there's no reason why things shouldn't work out. Personally I'd for for someone closer to my age, but you can't help who you fall in love with.
2006-09-22 19:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Link 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with meeting people online and starting a relationship, just think about it, you probably know < not you but whoever it is> this person more than someone you might see in the mall and exchange phone numbers with, my piont is there are all sorts of people everywhere, good and bad nice and evil, so use your intuition and judgement to figure out which are good ant which are bad
and second part, age is nothing but a number, if the people involved are happy than society should take a back seat and that couple shouldn't buckle under pressure, if those 2 have chemistry than it should pursue if they think that they have anything special between them
2006-09-23 02:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by dil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have said in the begining is pretty much right.
and yes people can at times change but one must understand that we are individuals and we are constantly changing through out our lives whether you see or not. so what may change today may not be what just all of a sudden appeared, it could have been grown or could have been brought along by unforseen situations in the persons life.
just cause you talk to a person everyday or whatever the case may be does not mean you will see what dictates his or her life today or tomorrow.
well i have done i met two women online and face to face. Both i really cared about.
one of them i fell in love with, they are both intelegent women and deeply rooted in the beliefs of what is right and wrong.
so personally in my opinion i lucked out i met two decent women online.
would i do it again i have no idea if it happens then but it probably wont happen.
part two: if both the people are over 18 then its really not ones business, whether its good, bad or nasty is for no one to say.
they should let those two do as they wish if it works out then it works out if it does not then it doesnt.
oh and what would it matter if it were you or not
2006-09-23 02:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to meet his parents and ask him to meet yours. Parents are a good way to judge a person. If he refuses, dump him. If he agrees to both, then go from there. I think a 21-22 year old woman and 35-36 year old man would be okay. But not vice versa. Keep in mind that he will most likely be set in his ways and what you see and hear is what you get.
2006-09-23 02:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me answer the the second questions by saying: Age is just a number. As for the first question, there many happily married couples today that met on-line. Also, I'm 28, but If knew that my happiness is with 40 year old, I would go for it. It's my happiness that I'm concerned about. What others say or think, doesn't make me happy.
2006-09-23 02:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online dating is safe, but you have to be very careful for obvious reasons. find someone you like and tell him that it will start very slowly because you have doubts. asks lots of questions. if he's able stay with you then you know he likes you. don't have sex in the relationship for awhile. you need to put the man to the test to see how strong he is.
if you're 21 and he's 35, then that is creepy. just think, when you're only 30 he'll be 45 and going way downhill physically. even worse when you're 50 he probably be dead of cancer.
2006-09-23 02:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to try to meet people online but never had much luck so i had to call it quits. Id get my hopes up and then that glammer picture they show u looks nothing like what they are in person.. And with the other part if u are over 21 date who u want age shouldnt really mater
2006-09-23 02:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by Shea B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. I'm meeting allot of people after we get to know each other on-line, and I should tell you , its not that hard really to understand whether what you knew on-line about the guy is true or not after a meeting or too !
... it didn't turn out to be that they're all serial killers or anything like that ! :) ... so don't worry ... but always .. stay alert of choosing who to meet !
2006-09-23 03:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seen both good and bad, mine good :-), meet my gf online at myspace.com but we live in same town, its going great. My aunt on the other hand had bad experince. #2 it depends on the people.
2006-09-23 02:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by tacohead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! it is like a blind move. It can be risky and it can be very lucky also,,,,,,,,,
2006-09-23 02:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋