am 17 years old, friendly and I smile a lot, and on random situations where there are a ton of people I can be a little bit shy. The only guys that ask me out are guys that come into my job and are older and creepy, or a group of guys that are jerks like saying "oh look at you hottie, you fine piece of ***" as they said a few days ago. It sickens me and makes me feel like crap. I was dressed in loose black slacks and a t-shirt. Nothing revealing at all. I almost feel like all guys are like that. I have had a few guys ask me out, but it just didn't work out. My guy friends and male co-workers tell me I am beautiful (but always end up going out w/ another gal), which I don't feel at all and I have a horrible self-image b/c of this, which I know I shouldn't let the way guys approach/don't approach me affect my self-esteem..but after a while it does, . I am a Christian and I plan on saving myself until marriage, which I know isn't too "cool" to most guys. What's wrong with me?
2006-09-22 19:46:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, when I am interested in a guy, like I am now, I am friendly to him, but I tend to stay aloof because I don't want him to know that I like him if I'm not sure he likes me. Is that a problem to most guys....if you think a girl doesn't like you.....do you even pursue her??!!! THANKS!!! :)
2006-09-22 19:46:52 · update #1
well, as a guy, i put a lot more effort into going after a girl if i think she likes me already, why waste your time on someone you don't know likes you if you have someone who you know does? it's just playing the odds, you're more likely to be successful as a guy getting a gf if you go after the girls you know like you. get after guys you want to date, we like it (i do at least). guys are going to be much more interested in someone who isn't really aloof. sex really shouldn't play a huge role in whether or not you go out with someone, not at first at least. anyways guys don't tell girls that they're beautiful if the girl is ugly, just doesn't happen.
2006-09-22 19:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by C_Millionaire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get discouraged. You're hanging with the wrong people, that's all. There does not appear to be anything wrong with you from what you've said, it just sounds like you work with a bunch of perverts.
I cannot speak for all guys, but I can speak for myself and I am certain that there are many men that think like me. If a girl does not show any interest at first, I do not pursue the matter any further. So, try to help the guys you like realize that you like them! Be reasonable about it (that is, try not to come off as a psycho), but definitely give them some indication that their advance is welcome. Talking to them would be a good start. Good night!
2006-09-23 02:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...from what i got out of your question ... the answer is very simple dear .. just control your self in a way .. that u actually show a guy that you like him !... you don't have to say it direct for him , but you could at least give some hints ! ... if he's interested ... he will get encouraged to know you more , if not , then you have at least preserved your self respect ... and got the idea that he's not interested !...
2006-09-23 02:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you said about acting stuck up / aloof. Big mistake, if you like him. No matter whether he is into you or not, there is a good chance he just wont bother if you are acting like that.
2006-09-23 02:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋