whenever I start talking to my mom she says something, it can be the littlest thing, and it makes me cry. Like I feel inferior to her and am just a huge dissapointment. I really want to go get help, but I don't know how to go about it. I was adopted at birth and my parents had a child that is theirs when I was 10. Since getting into my teenage years I feel like my parents dont want me anymore, the family says its not true, but I can't seem to get the thought out of my head. If any of you have had a situation like this I would really appericate your advice, Thank you!
2006-09-22 19:45:24 · 10 answers · asked by ktschwabble 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you are loved, being adopted creates many doubts. remember you were adopted, which means you have a family. thinking is our worst enemy. when we are born, we do it alone, when we die, we do it alone. between these times we make friends, we lose friends. life is about how much love you give, the more you give, the more you receive. don't think about it, just do it, you'll be much happier giving if you don't think about love, just do it. You have been given the gift of life, unfortunately you birth parents were not capable of sharing their love. be grateful for what you have, an opportunity to share yours. I married an adoptee, she will always have the same questions you have. love yourself and many more will love you.
2006-09-22 20:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, ask your mom to take you to a family counselor for individual and group counseling. Look for someone that specializes in dealing with adopted families so that they will be sensitive to your needs.Be encouraged honey. I'm sure your family loves you and wants you. You're just going through some things you need a little extra help with right now. Be open to the counselor and your family helping you change the way you think about the situation. keep your head up and keep a journal. it will help you express your feelings when you need to. Best wishes.
2006-09-22 19:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...sounds a little wierd to me. For ten years, you had their complete attention. Now there is another kid in the family, it might just be that what you feel is normal sibling jealousy. I have 3 sisters, so I know it happens. One of my sisters kept asking if she had a different father.
I guess you have told your parents. Maybe tell your church group, or a councellor, but don't talk about it with your alleged friends at school. They will make it into something it is not. hey have no better knowledge than you do.
2006-09-22 19:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Too Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a mom says something it the best interest for you ,because mom always concern about things happen to u and other family members.u should appreciate on what she is doing do not offend or disappoint her.Parent wants all their sons or daughter be at their best.
2006-09-22 19:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are ready to take the important step of finding help for yourself. Speak to your parents about how sad you feel. If they aren't able to help you or they are uncomfortable for some reason, your HS guidance counselor can help.
There are so many professionals who will understand what your going through and genuinely want to assist you. Its great to express yourself in a forum like this, but please seek the help of someone who is truly qualified to help you work through your feelings. Take care!
2006-09-22 20:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by sj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the family doctor first he/she will help you find the help ,you may need medication ,don't be afraid of this as it may help but you will also need a councillor .you are depressed .I cant tell about your family but if they say they want you ,it could just be the depression making you feel that way.
2006-09-22 19:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to get over it is talk with your family.
If that doesn't' work, ask your doctor if he can recommend any body that you can talk to.
This is a serious problem that wont go away with time unless treated.
2006-09-22 19:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to talk with a couselor, i think you need to get some things off your chest so you can start feeling good about yourself
2006-09-22 20:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see sa counselor, you have depression.
2006-09-22 19:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR DEPRESS YOU SHOULD GO TO A COUNCELLOR WITH YOUR 'MOM'
2006-09-22 19:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by johann l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋