Cant get my 3 year old to sleep in her own room...?

Question

Any ideas??? She loves to sleep with me and I like her to be with me as well but it;s starting to get old, It breaks my heart when she screams though. Even if she falls asleep and I put her in her room, she wakes up around 4am and comes and climbs into bed.

Answer 1

i had the same problem with my son; you just have to weather the storm. believe me she will grow out of it. don't feel bad about being with her. our son used to come over to our bed until he was about 5, and he just grew out of it. he is a well adjusted independent little chap of 8 now. you are doing the best you can under the circumstances so don't feel guilty and don't make other ppl make you feel bad either a positive attitude is everything. your child needs to sleep in her own room eventually, it's best for her so here are some tips that will hasten the process. these worked for us:
--make her room special to her. let her pick out some special decorations, move her toys in there & her stuffed animals
-- set up an aquarium with her own pet fish
-- a special bed, I"m not sure what they have for girls but we got a bed in the shape of a race car

you could try falling asleep with her in her bed and then go to your room later

soon she will enjoy staying in her room

I will probably get some flak for this advice but it worked

Answer 2

I have a 2 year old, and it's the same story! Except we have a mattress on the floor of his room. I lay down w/him and when he's almost asleep (or sometimes already asleep) I leave him and he sleeps until 4 or 5 am and then comes to sleep with me. I don't mind, I know he'll grow out of it.
SO, while that might be well and good for us, you have to do what works for you. I have gone to a website that has a sleep forum with moms talking about this very issue. They refer to other websites and things that work and haven't worked. You might find something helpful there. I have!
Good luck!

Answer 3

Make it step by step:

1 tell her that every person has his own bed and it's unacceptable to do else
2 join her in her room and you can tell her a story but first make sure she is really tired
3 wait in the room until she falls asleep
Keep doing this for a couple of weeks
4 after she gets used to her own bed tell her you forgot something out of the room or have to change and will come back soon and if that is ok
5 return to the room in few seconds in the first time
6 each day make it longer until someday she falls asleep waiting for you
7 after few days she want be afraid to sleep alone in her own bed which she got used to it
8 make bed time something fun and relaxing
9 changing the sheets frequently and lovable characters painted on these sheets will make her enjoy it even more
10 at last be consistent, when you say no there is no negotiations.
Good luck

Answer 4

This is a bad habit to break. This is what worked for me, I had to 1st put her bed up in my room until she got use to sleeping in another bed, then gradually she would sleep in her room all night, but it took a couple years. Also add a monitor and leave it on so she can hear you, she is use to the sound of your room and you sleeping, as well as the company. My children would still get in the bed with me on and off all their lives, it's a comfort zone.

Answer 5

There are a couple of things you can do. When she comes in to bed at 4:00am get up and take her back to her room. Or you could invest in a child gate, put it up in her doorway at bedtime, if she gets up she will at least have to stay in her room (probably screaming for the first few nights) The reason she screams is that she KNOWS it breaks your heart and if she screams long and loud enough she will get her way. This is where parents go wrong. They THINK little children have no clue as to the world...children know quite a bit more than a lot of parents give them credit for and they are not dumb.

Answer 6

I just went through this with my son. Every evening we started spending more and more time in his room just playing, reading books etc..... I kept telling him how awesome his room and bed were. After a few nights HE wanted to sleep in there. He still sleeps with me once or twice a week, and sometimes he wakes up and gets in my bed. Its not the sort of thing you can fix in one week, it requires constant attention. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

well, i see the numerous answers you got for this, but there are many ways to do it, my husband and i trid the cry it out one night and said to hell wiith that, my son is an only child and spoiled and we couldn't stand it....soo we bought him a new Car's bedroom set, which you don't have to do, then we put his toddler bed in our room, then after a few days, moved right outside of our room, then in the LR, then to his bedroom....gradually is better than drastically at once for their little minds....which are very smart!!! try some different things...sometimes he still wants to sleep with me and i will take a blanket and lay on his floor and sing to him or something til he falls asleep then go to my room, but sooner or later you have to find something that works, because you need mommy, daddy time or just mommy time, whatever.

Answer 8

My mom has the same problem with my little sister who is almost 5. there is nothing they can do about it. Nothing works. She falls asleep with my parents and they carry her over to her bed 20-30min later she comes back. I've even tried putting her to bed with me to see if that made any difference. But she still wakes up usually around 2am. and goes back to my parents.
If you happen to find a cure please let me know. I would really appreciate it.

Answer 9

Tough love worked with my 2 year old.....sleep traing is how i fixed the problem....i put to bed, tucked him in, gave my x's and o's, and then closed the door.....my son cried forever but it decreased over a few days and now he goes to bed all by himself in his own bed!!!! i felt so mean for just letting him scream and cry it out at night but it worked and it took my son 4 nights to realize he had to sleep in his room..... i could bare to listen to his crying so i sat outside on the front porch with the baby monitor and just kept turning it on and off every two minutes to see if he was stil crying or not and when he was quiet i went in to check to make sure he was ok and every time he was fine and sound asleep......good luck in whatever you choose to do to try and fix the habit.

Answer 10

This might work for a week until she's trained to her bed.

Tell her your bed broke and that you're going to sleep on the couch, and see what happens. This will mean that you can't use your bed for a week either, but at least you will sleep by yourself for awhile.