We've dated for 5 years and I know shes lieing to me, This is our 13th time dating and I everytime we break up she makes me feel bad so I take her back! How can I tell her its over and not have to deal with amy guilt afterwards? She doesnt trust me, I've been told she talks **** behind my back, and she tried to talk a guy at the homecomming game tonight into beating my ***! I'm sick of her **** but she's made me too soft hearted! What do I do?
P.S. Jubal, if your reading this, it was nothing personal bro but I told you it was gonna happen! I told you to never doubt me!!
2006-09-22 19:12:54 · 19 answers · asked by Brandon A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She sounds like a control freak to me. You just got to tell her and mean what you say, and say what you mean. This will be a good lesson in other areas of your life later on. Get on with it. She did not make you soft hearted you were probably that way anyway. But, you are getting angry and fed up. Get on with it. You need something better.
2006-09-22 19:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look baby, it's been five long years and we've had some good and bad times together. I know that I have grown from the experiences we've shared together, but it's time to call it quits and move on. I have given my all to make this work but we are on two separate pages here. The things that I need, you don't have to offer. Go ahead and move on, enjoy you life. I know I will. By the way, I forgive you for everything. Not because you deserve it, but because I need to for my peace of mind. I hope you find happiness and I am definitely seeking mine. No hard feelings, ok?
See you around...
2006-09-23 02:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's really no way to tell her without hurting her. Just tell her and let her play her little guilt trips and don't take her back this time. She will get over it. You'll just have to harden your heart. Trust me it will eventually harden toward her anyway over time. You will eventually not care whether you hurt or not. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 yrs.(we were engaged for 2yrs)and he begged me to stay with him, so not to hurt him I did for about 3 weeks. I gave him that long for some things to change, but of course they didn't. To make a long story short it took me 4 times to finally completely break it off with him, and by the time I finally did accomplish that, I didn't care what I said to him or anything. I didn't do it to hurt him, but I was just hurt and it came out that way. This girl apparently don't love you anymore. Get out while you can.
2006-09-23 02:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, you're almost crtainly going to hurt her. If that happens, you probablyt WILL feel guilty for awhile. but you know what? 12 break-ups is 11 too many. go with your gut. i can tell that you're feeling guilty right now, but EVERYBODY gets that feeling when they think about a break-up. The only way to get through it is to just go through it....and come out stronger at the end, whatever you choose.
you have my sympathies. i just had a painful break-up a couple of months ago. i'm really sorry, man. i know you must be feeling totally sucky.
2006-09-23 02:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way. she will get hurt. but you both need to break up, its not helathy to be in this kind of relationship.
No one makes you soft, you let yourself become that way.
Think of the fact that by staying with her when you dont want her, you are hurting her by stealing her chances of meeting someone that does like her. And tell her that the love of her life could be around the corner but as long as she keeps obsessing over a failed relationship, she will be too blind to see it.
2006-09-23 02:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO possible way to end a 5 year relationship without someones feelings being hurt. Love is pain and this my friend is a prime example of that.
2006-09-23 02:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. What you really need to do is break up and then not talk to her. Cut to the chase and get it done and over with. Her words shouldn't have an impact if you are so sick of her.
Good Luck.
2006-09-23 02:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way for you to tell her is to her face, be a man about it. Just let here not that you are tried of the DRAMA, and it is time to move on. Dating is fun only we both parties are having fun together. You both have more to life and dating id not that important. Enjoy life....
2006-09-23 02:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by single2mingle22000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid of hurting her. She sounds like a first class jackass. Just tell her you're through and you are going to move on. Do not let her talk you into going back to her. After 5 years, it should be obvious she will not change.
2006-09-23 02:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do it will not be easy and she will be hurt. But if this is what you want and you think that you will be better off then do it now and get it over with now. Make it short and you might want to have someone there with you just tom make sure everything goes smoothly.
2006-09-23 02:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋