How do I ask a girl out if I'm shy?

Question

I am 15 years old and am considered a nerd at my school. I never been on a date and the one time I found enough courage, the girl lied about liking me. I've also never kissed what do you reccomend?
please be senisitive and honest at the same time)

I also don't have enough money to buy things or the time to be able to work out. I will be having about 6 activities holding me down, but I still want a girlfriend. Please comment on the kissing part 2. Thank you for all your help. I really appreciate it.

I also probably don't dance good. Could you also give first date suggestions.

Answer 1

coming from a girl there's nothing wrong with being a nerd. All the means is that you're smart and that's a good thing if a girl does like you because she's smart to like a guy like you. i know you're shy and it's no sin but you need to break out of it even if just a bit. True girls want a guy that can take charge here and there and you need to get out of your comfort zone. If a girl really likes you and she sees the efforts your willing to put forth for her, then she'll go for you. But if you stay shy and don't try to even attempt to ask her out, she'll think you're lame or that she's not worth your efforts

You don't have to ask a girl out in person but there's other cute ways you can do it. Choose a special date and present her with a rose maybe in her locker of give it to her leave a note on the rose, a poem or a card to ask her out or compliment her or something. Don't forget to leave a way for her to respond back to you.

Think creatively. You don't have to communicate in person if you're not ready yet. Just don't attempt to full the girl into thinking you're someone else. Make sure she knows its you so she can react to it accordingly. Don't use your "nerd" reputation as an excuse to shy away from girls.

good luck w/ that and tell me how it goes!

Answer 2

Ok Joseph, you are wasting your time with being shy. Now that I am older I can say that, but when I was your age I had the same issues with being shy. The point is that, the answer "no" you already have, but the answer "yes" is what you can get. Rejection does not feel good, but it is not the end of the world, you will still live! If you don't ask, just to avoid rejection, you will not achieve your goal of dating that girl. So get out there, ask her (preferably when nobody else is around) and if she is interested she will say yes. If not, she might not be the one that was meant to be and thankfully there are plenty of other girls, who might think you're the bomb. Be patient and find one who really likes you for who you are and the kissing will come naturally.

Answer 3

properly he has a weigh down on you and if he wasn't shy about it then you extremely ought to easily be yet another female to him yet considering he's shy you're not any further :D yet merely supply him more than a number of hugs and attempt to get it to the position that's genuinely you and him and if he receives shy and tries to leave carry his hand and smile and say yet i desire you to stayyyyy. merely attempt to make it important that you want him in case you do and he ought to get the point and which will make him a lil bit a lot less shy yet you won't be able to do some thing to assist him no longer shy to asking you out.

Answer 4

well my friend what you should do is be yourself start working out girls like guys with good grades,who are athletic, Im more of a loaner but i got good grades i play sports, and im not shy you need to get to be friends with the girl you like joke around see what she likes to do also your personel hygene B.O. major turn off, uncut dirty nails uncombed hair,acne your duds buy some things from hot topic Pac sun, get a nice haircut also if there is a girl who picks on you who acts mean to you odds are she has a thing for you also dont give up hope you still have time life is long and there are more fich in the sea

Answer 5

Hello Joseph M,

You have to bite the bullet and walk up to her and ask her out to a movie or to dinner. Romance is not for the faint of heart. Just say, I've been wanting to go see this movie, would you like to go see it with me next Friday night?

The worst that she can say is no, Joseph. Once they say no, you move on to the next girl and ask her the same thing. Eventually, you'll get a girl that will say yes. You just have to keep trying, man.

Also, you need to check out the Tom Leykis radio show to learn more about what you should do. You definitely need to learn a little Leykis-101 to get more women in your life. Find out if this show is broadcast in your area. Here's his web site:

http://www.blowmeuptom.com

I hope that this helps you. Good luck and happy hunting.

--Rick

Answer 6

Umm... get a makeover! Being a nerd is not exactly being smart so be smart and cool, girls like that!!! Go to the gym and get contacts or something. When a girl gets asked out by a guy that is a nerd they go like ewwwww, but by a normal guy they either say yes or turn u down nicely. Im not like an old woman or anything, im 14 so TRUST me. i cud be asked out by a zillion guys i wont care. and anyway when im asked out by someone who really likes me, i kinda find it romantic!

Answer 7

I am shy too so i would like to know just as much as you, i wouldn't consider myself a nerd cause i play sports and have lots of friends, i just freeze around the girl i like. I feel your pain.

Answer 8

Shyness in your age and in such situation is normal.. Try to date her in steps , for instance to invite her for peppsi, ice cream etc. after the school while you are going home. If this is not possible find astep that you be alone with her even if for five minutes.

Answer 9

Like a dummy use your body language.

Answer 10

do some shots get a good buzz