I wouldn't bother asking a bunch of strangers if I wasn't in deep **** or really desperate. I'm 15 and iv had this friend (16). Where really tight so anyone who tells me to give up on him is wasting there time. His mom died of cancer when he was 9 and his dad got into alcohol. Anyone with common sense could tell something was ****** up in that house. Than the marks got worse and he was getting beat everyday with something. Last night we had a party at his house and things got broke like at all parties. I didn't know he was going to be in the emergency room. His dad said he fell down the stairs it didn't make any sense cause corey had marks from a metal pole and a belt, falling down the stairs doesn't do that to you. The hospital looked past it because his dad was the one that called the ambulance. When it happened he was helpless cause he was drunk. So when he was in the emergency room I asked him about his dad. I told him that he’s got to call DYFS of something. That didn't make him happy because he had big plans and that would **** it up for him. We started screaming and yelling, nothing new. Than i said, “corey your just like your ******* father” and he pushed me aganst the wall than he realizd what he was doin. That was the only time that's ever happened. The problem is he's becomin his dad, drunk and abusive he's so much more than that. He's got goals. He was the one that freaked about it, got in his car, and drove to the middle of nowhere. They found him passed out drunk laughing sayin how he was never going to drink again. I have a lot of questions but now that he's at home again with his dad i gota no what the hell do i do to help him? If this is abuse what will happen to him if his dad’s arrested? Why was he so upset after he hit me and why did he touch me like that? Sorry it was so long this is the summary...
2006-09-22 18:51:29 · 5 answers · asked by sara c 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you can't help him tell he wants help I know I have brothers and sisters I tried to help but couldn't tell they asked
2006-09-22 18:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by jbmasterdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend going to ala-teen. It is really difficult to know how to REALLY help an alcoholic without enabling them. I think one of the main things is not to lie or cover up for them. It is important that they face the consequences of their destructive behavior. The sooner the better. Does your school offer any sort of counseling or do they have a school psychologist? Does your church have a youth minister or counselor who can help? These are the kinds of people that can help you in these situations.
The most important thing to realize though is that his changing is really his decision. There isn't a whole lot that you can really "do" for him.
2006-09-23 01:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by anabasisx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love your compassion. You are a wonderful friend. BUT (and this is a big but), YOU cannot help him. He absolutely needs PROFESSIONAL help. I don’t know what form that will take in his circumstances, but I DO know that if you pray for him, he WILL get the help he needs. Please, even if you don’t normally pray, I can tell you want to help him. But you are only a teenager, and he needs adults to help him now. Only an adult can stand up to his dad. You can help him the most by just being his friend and being there for him. May God bless you for your love and compassion for him. That is truly one of the most precious things on the face of this earth.
2006-09-23 02:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by motorcyclegrandmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run. Seriously.
Call social services on the dad and get away from the your bf for a few years while he recieves mental health treatment. If it was meant to be, it will be, but if you stay now, you will suffer and his suffering will continue longer too.
2006-09-23 01:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a stupid bictch dump him alredy
2006-09-23 01:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by ite hear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋