do u think some people are better off single why does it seem marriage is an obligation instead of choice?

Question

b/c im the loner silent type guy i like solitude i no its wierd who likes being by themselves well i do

Answer 1

The single life is a vocation, just as the married life. You must discern what is your calling.

Answer 2

In Asian cultures at least, in the old days, marriage was a "pressured" obligation to continue the bloodline. ( think arranged marriages... forming alliances of powerful families and such ) It was mainly cultural pressure and also for practical purposes, because back then women did not have careers, and having a husbad to depend on was high on a "must do list". Nowadays, I find women are most dynamic and dare I say, there are more men depending on women than vice versa compared to say 20 years ago.

These days it is portrayed a s a choice, but in many Asian cultures, the pressure to tie the knot is still subtly there. A single women, succesful in career and all, when attending family gatherings.. most assured will be asked... " Are you married yet?"

Not sure among other cultures but social and cultural pressures are sooooooooo TIRED!

Answer 3

The notion of "man and woman" in solitary pairs is not the sole way of parenting nor of relationships. I would not defend polygamy, but I would defend polyamory.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory

I do not mean polyamory in the sense of people wanting multiple sex partners, but rather in the sense of the African saying, "It takes a community to raise a child". Human communities are more capable of communally raising and caring for children (others' and not just their own) because of our intelligence and socialization, yet several species of animals are known for doing this better than us (wolves, elephants, dolphins, chickens, etc.).

Back to the issue of relationships: Some people don't feel the need to get close to any one particular person. It's uncommon, but it's not unsusual or weird. I'm single into my thirties, but that was a conscious choice because of my income and trying to build a nest egg first. For you, if you're happy alone and have a circle of good friends, then don't worry about what others think.

And if somebody tries to tell you, "Marriage is a good idea," tell him to go get married. (If they say, "I am", then tell 'em to shut up.)


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Answer 4

No, I think it is good. I am married w/kids..and although this works for me I know that it is not the road for all, how could it be! It is not an obligation, and if it is then you should not do it. Many great men and women choose different paths and have done so much for our world.
Back to reality
If you are feeling pressured to marry because you have kids...well don't, however take care of your babies, you did create them
and if no babies, float on child

Answer 5

This is not meant towards you or being single-- good for you if you choose it. It is much wiser and you weighed out the single/married life then.

People that Should Remain Single: (for good reasons)

Severely mentally ill people,
A person with severe addictions: gambling, drinking, drugs,
One who can never hold a job or refuses to.

These types should remain single as a rule.

Answer 6

Some people definitely are better off single, and if you don't want to get married, you shouldn't. It can seem like an obligation, I suppose - parents and friends good-naturedly asking when you're going to settle down and produce children. But they don't have to live your life, and marriage definitely isn't something you should do to please other people.

Answer 7

It IS a choice, not an obligation. If people are pressuring you, they want you to be happy and have children, since they have found happiness that way. People who think like this are like religious people who have found THEIR happiness in religion and want you to join them, as well. Do what makes you happy.

Answer 8

I think your just not ready yet and when you are you may feel differently otherwise marriage isn't made for everyone and if you can handle being alone the rest of your life I say more power to you!!!

Answer 9

People who struggle in relationships to the point that they cannot stick, will never be pleased by the people of the same sex as their former partners.

It's time for them to admit and defeat, and come out of the closet.

Answer 10

I agree, but, its in our nature to seek a mate with which to reproduce so that's why people get married, and yeah it feels like its an obligation but its not, just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean you have to.