My 5 year old son & I live with my mom right now. I work as a receptionist & am currectly saving up to move into my own place & also get a better car. I know my mom is generous to let us live here and to watch my son for me & she is a good grandma for him & loves him.
The problem is that she is always telling me what to do. I went to the store the other day & she came to me later with a receipt that she dug out of the garbage and said, "Shelly! You spent $12 on honey! You don't have that kind of money! You have very extravagant tastes!" & blah blah! She does this all the time! It's my money! I should have a right to spend it how I see fit. It's a 20 oz. jar & is raw honey. I thought it was a steal.
Recently, I took my son to the show & again she comes to me with the ticket stubs she got out of the trash & starts her nagging again. "This is a waste of money! Julian has movies he can see here! He doesn't need to go out!" I will throw my receipts out in a public trash from now on!
2006-09-22 18:34:45 · 9 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is true. I should have mentioned it. Yes, I do pay rent. I pay $500/month.
2006-09-22 19:06:47 · update #1
Your mom sounds quite controlling, at best... I mean digging through the the trash??? But I guess for now, anyway you are stuck there, untill you can move out. Perhaps you could just look at her and ask, "What are you hoping to find in the trash?" Or I guess, like you said,use a public dumpster, amd wait till you can leave. Either way, to some extent, you are at her mercy, as you are in her home. I hope you can leave soon!! GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-09-22 18:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by TJG 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom is wanting a good economic condition for you. She probably feels that since you are staying with her in order to save money that you should carry out your objective. On your side it is okay to spend money to an extant to have a quality of life. One should always watch where their money goes. You could possibly keep a record of expenses and sit down with your mom and show her how you are saving money and show her that you have set aside a particular amount of money each month (maybe ten percent) for things that make you and your sons happy to have or do. As long as you are spending money wisely, explain to her that you do need some money to spend on things that help your quality of living but on the same token are saving to be able to be out on your own.
2006-09-23 01:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by souplane21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's trying to help you tighten up a bit more on your spending. Do you think she might be wanting you to reach your goals a little faster so you will be able to reap the benefits of a higher Self-worth that comes from being financially independent? Just another way of looking at things. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-09-23 01:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by drkdreamr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you say you live with your mother, you don't say whether you pay any rent. If you're not paying rent then you should. That could be why your mother was so upset over the honey, that you don't have the money to pay rent but you have the money to purchase overpriced honey (I know I'd never pay that much for honey, never have seen it that much even).
2006-09-23 01:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that's one of the repercussions of living at home with your mother.. Its becoming 12 again !! They all do it I don't know its just nature i guess. The only way that will change is for you to move out on your own sorry to say.
2006-09-23 01:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by kathygd1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is trying to pound one thought in to your life.
Thriftiness is next to the pain in the neck.
I would do everything you can to remove how much things cost out of her sight.
Things will go smoother that way and the pain will subside as well.
2006-09-23 01:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me if I find your plight funny... I think simply you have to tell her exactly what you've said above. You'd be surprised how people can change if you just tell them what's on your mind. You're right and she's treating you like a child. Just tell her. See what happens.
2006-09-23 01:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mike, Kate, Piper and Porter :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's nice of her to let you and your son live with her. But she is being protective of you, like she was in the old days.
2006-09-23 01:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by cassie05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a polygamist. Come live with us and I'll share my husband with you. lol We're probably as old as your mom, but we have fun.
2006-09-23 01:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋