I had been seeing this guy for about a month (sexually) and I started getting feelings for him. He ended up going out of town for work (1 week) and didn't know until I had left several messages asking to see him and if he was OK. After the last message, I drove to his house to make sure that he was OK and I found him at home. I was greeted with a hug and he said that he was busy at that moment talking to a family member and that he would call me. It's going to be a week on Sunday and I haven't heard from him -- should I just give up hope? Should I call him?? H-E-L-P
2006-09-22 17:29:40 · 18 answers · asked by T M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
call him!!! dont give up until he says to you that he doesnt like you!!! that is when you should give up!!! maybe he's totally busy... i'm kinda having that kind of situation right now... and i'm still waiting for him... we have no communication right now... but when we saw each other, i'll confront him and ask him if he still likes me... if he says yes, i'll let him explain what happened the past days... and if he says no, i'll give up and set him free... well... best luck to you!!!
2006-09-22 17:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by o0psi3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No offense meant, but it seems he is not interested in communicating with you at the moment, but I don't say that he is not interested in you. Give him some more time to do what he is doing lately and give him the benefit of your doubt.
If days passed by and still he doesn't call, don't call him. for you've already fone your part when you gave him a visit at his home that time. And the mere fact that he said that he would call you is a signal that you just have to wait for his call.
Don't give up hope though when he doesn't call you for he may be up to something that really needs his time and attention. If he really likes you, I'm sure that he'll ring you as soon as he is done. If he does not, just believe in your heart that if he is the one meant for you, Destiny will do his share in making you see yourself in that man's arms again and from that time onwards, I'm sure, you too will live happily ever after just like in fairy tales.
However, if you are not meant for each other, Destiny will bring to your path the man who truly deserves your love. All the best.
2006-09-23 00:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously test the waters here. Try to keep yourself busy. as karma usually has it, once you are busy he will try to contact you and won't have time. But, I ultimately believe that someone always can make the time. So the next time you talk tell him that you would appreciate a call daily and he needs to accept that about you. Don't get angry or he will say its too much drama. State your claim and let it be water under the bridge until the next time. In the meantime and in between time while there are no firm rules between you and him, DO YOU..... trust me that what he is doing....
2006-09-23 00:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by CC19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he didn't respond to your messages should have been the first clue. Move on. But next time, try it in a different order. Try dating, then getting feelings, then sex. Relationships usually work better if the emotions are involved before the genitals.
2006-09-23 00:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by swbiblio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact him anymore. Some guys are weird and aren't man enough to tell a girl he doesn't want to see her anymore. I don't want to hurt your feelings but he may be trying to avoid you instead of telling you straight up. Some guys are wimps and can't be honest. Stay away from and if he comes around don't jump to him. Play hard to get. He can't come around only for his convenience. Tell him you have moved on and if he wants to give you an explanation then listen. If you feel it sounds like bull crap then forget him.
2006-09-23 00:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if he would still be around if you hadn`t slept with him? Just a thought. My rule is never wait around for anybody and never expect them to call, so that when they do it is a pleasant surprise. I don`t worry about it either though because i make the rules by which i live my life and i only answer to me, my conscience and my God....i think you have waited too long.
2006-09-23 00:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was full of crap probably talking to a girl - he met someone new and doesn't have the gonads to tell you. Just chalk it up to life experience.
Also read "Why Men Love Bitches" and stop being a doormat.
2006-09-23 00:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't call him! Let him be the one to call you. You already drove up to his house, now it's his turn to return the favor to call you. Give him another week, if he dosn't call forget him move on.
2006-09-23 00:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by LilSo1287 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him point blank. Go with his answer. The truth will come out, sooner or later. Good luck.
2006-09-23 00:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by suckswhen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he didnt let you inside his house then he had another girl over. a girl that obviously knows he moves around sexually. dont count on him to call. you can do better i'm sure. dont swallow your pride unless you know youre wrong... and in this case there is nothing to be wrong about. he is avoiding you. if he really liked you, like you like him, he would do anything to see you and to hear your voice.
2006-09-23 00:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋