should i have sex with my boyfriend that i went out with for 4months
2006-09-22 17:21:11 · 26 answers · asked by babyblu 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
if you need to ask you are probably not ready
2006-09-22 17:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity when I was 18 to my boyfriend of over a year. Nine months later I got pregnant. He spent my entire pregnancy cheating on me, then officially left me when our daughter was not quite a year old. We were together for almost 4 years. He just admitted cheating on me a few months ago when he found out I'm getting married. My point is, I've known this man for almost 10 years and I'm just now finding out stuff about him that turns my stomach. 4 months is not enough time to know if you can trust someone. But at the same time, you're the only one who knows if you are ready for something so emotionally powerful. The best advice I can give - if you think you are ready, be completely honest with yourself about why you want to have sex. If it's because he wants you to, or simply because you're curious, those are both reasons you'll probably regret when you're older.
2006-09-24 18:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by charlottesparkles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 16, I had sex for the 1st time, and I had been going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Wait. I know it sounds stupid, but if he loves you or cares about you, he will wait. There are so many things that you can do. If you jump right in and have sex, there is really nothing else to experiment with. I would also recommend going to the doctors and getting an exam and birth control(if your religion allows it) Learn all you can about protecting yourself.
By the way, I am now married to my 1st time and we have two beautiful little girls. Good luck
2006-09-23 01:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!
First off, the physical gratification from really good sex isn't worth it when you consider the consequences of pre-marriage sex. You could very easily get pregnant and have a child. You are not ready to give up being a kid, give up college, give up a future career, and make it harder on yourself to find a loving husband, for the sake of a 30 second rush.
Second, good sex takes practice, and no matter what he tells you, at his age, he hasn't got enough yet. Most women don't orgasm from sex anyway. Stick to masturbation for now sweetie. You'll enjoy it more, and be safer.
2006-09-23 11:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by farfromfl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, 4 months is not long enough to actually KNOW this person. Do you know what his mother's favorite color is? What was the song his mom and dad danced to at their wedding. If he has any siblings what are their individual favorite colors? Where did his father go to high school? Once you can answer these questions and other's like them without having to ask him or his family then you will know him well enough to have sex with him...then ask yourself if you want to be tied to this person for the rest of your life, because even if you never marry, if you have a child and then wake up and can't stand one another you will still be tied to that other person throughout the life of that child. There will be, school plays, graduations, going to camp, to college, getting married having grandchildren. So do you REALLY know this person well enough to give him your body?
2006-09-23 03:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not, and for many reasons.
But since you are asking the question may I reccomend a book called "Mars and Venus, In the Bedroom" by John Gray. It tells of the differences in Men and Women when it comes to sex.... not the obvious anatomical but the not so obvious until its too late kind.
2006-09-23 10:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with everyone who said NO and i also agree if you have to ask then your NOT ready. I'm 29 and still have not had sex yet..you may think me werid or something but i haven't been ready for it and i don't regret it now one bit. Now i meant a guy whom i love very deeply and I'm so glad that I have saved myself for him. I used to feel the way you did but give it some time and i am positive you will be glad you didn't do it OK?
2006-09-23 11:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by sammy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO how old are you? if you have to ask someone then definitely NOT I got pregnant when I was 16!!!!!! remember that and NEVER EVER believe a guy when he says he can't have kids. if you are even thinking about it then you need to be on birth control and use protection . I know you will not listen when someone says not to do it but at least be cautious of the consequences!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 23:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? How old is he? If you have to ask this question you are not ready for sex. I don't care how often he tells you he loves you. This is an old ploy to get into your pants. If you are under 18 wait. Sex is not a game and you don't sound ready for emotional turmoil it can create.
2006-09-23 00:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you feel ready then have sex with him , but u need to trust him 100% and feel sure that hes not just gona want sex from you and then thats it
2006-09-23 07:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no four months is not long enough plus you sound much to young don't make a mistake you can't take back you will regret it almost everyone does ask and you'll see
2006-09-23 15:21:09 · answer #11 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋