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She lied to us (her father and I) about reading. She said she was reading the words in her head (twice in one week!). I am a first grade teacher and I am well aware that children her age are not able to read in their heads. Her father and I are upset that she did this. Our daughter Kayla is a very smart child, she has always been 110% honest with us. She is an only child and gets plenty of attention and love. We are at a lost for what type of punishment to use for this situation. Please advice!!!

Thanks!

2006-09-22 17:17:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

22 answers

My wife and I discussed this topic, concluding that the first diciplin is the most important. This will set a precident for later issues. Hopefully they will remember the first time they lied as a bad thing.
Aaron and Shannon B.

2006-09-22 17:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Maybe she thinks it's true. When I was 5 or so I thought I could read but I had just memorized the words. I didn't really read until I was 7. Anyway, if she has always been honest, you shouldn't punish her, especially since the lie wasn't malicious. Just have a discussion with her about why you don't want her to lie. On the other hand, maybe you might just listen, reflect back her feelings to her, and see if she'll tell you why she's lying, if she is. It's really unusual for a child of 6 to be as truthful as yours, but not unheard of; both I and my daughter were. Actually I was a little compulsive about it; I felt bad saying something untrue even for a joke.

2006-09-22 18:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0 0

I have 5 and 6 year olds in my family. I know just how bright these little people are although they have been in the world a short time. . .Just take away something she really likes for a day or two.(No dessert/healthy treat. No watching Barney video tape.) Or you could make her sit in time out for 5 minutes and repeat out loud "I will tell the truth." Or (and I think this one works the best) you can tell her how disappointed you are. Explain that You thought she was such a honest child that you bragged about her to your friends. Tell her she hurt your feelings. tell her that you hope and will pray to God who Sees and Hears everything that she will not be dishonest again. But tell her that you are just to disappointed to even punish her for it this time. (Your facial expression has to be so sad and disappointed) She will feel so bad and that will be her punishment. Basically, you're letting her off with a warning and some disappointment guilt. She will work hard to put a smile on your face and to please you again.

2006-09-22 17:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First of all, your poor grammar really scares me with you being a teacher and all. . . . .but that aside. . . . .

The first time she does it is not that big of a deal. She is just testing you, as all children do and are SUPPOSED to do - that's the way they are programmed. Tell her that you expect her to tell the truth and the next time she doesn't, she'll be punished with something such as a night with early bedtime or no TV for a day or two. Remember, she's only 6, so you'll need to make sure that her punishments are short and to the point.

2006-09-22 17:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 0 0

She just wants you to look up to her. A child always looks for attention where they can get it, even if it means lying to get it. Ask her to read it out loud next time she says it. When she can not then confront her about the lie and make her stand in the corner for 10 minutes telling her that she has been bad for lying.

More than likely she will tell the truth next time.

2006-09-22 17:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jima 2 · 0 0

Dear Teacher mom

If you saw it "in" another kid would you recommend this~
Well that seems obvious to me- Have her read out loud several times a day to you. At the breakfast table and after school and again at bedtime. Don't punish her- teach her. Maybe its a problem and she needs help. We never want to let our loved ones down- you know. Reinforce the responsibility of doing the assignments.

I was a nanny twenty years prior to having my own kids!
I used to sit with my kids at homework time and read a magazine or newspaper for 30 minutes to an hour of that time. Break for a popcorn or snack- then get back to it.

During that time, ask them about "how's it going". Okay I realize that is hard to do in this busy world. Yet we had early practices and late games, so we did homework at Denny's by the field at times. My babies both recently graduated from college and one with her Master's in May. By high school, they did that all on their own, because they were held accountable for that time. I never stopped checking on them. I used to call them at college and follow up. [sing song] OH Nanny and NOW Oh Mom! I heard that a lot! Yet, its in "the pudding" as my mom said.

2006-09-22 17:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0 0

little ones will attempt the boundries. you are able to desire to be company with the two. It feels like the 5 12 months old is vieing for interest from you simply by fact the three 12 months old is right here. it extremely is quite helpful to attempt ignoring the lie, no longer giving it the attention she is getting, this could take time and it would be very perplexing yet whilst she would not see the reaction from you, she would be waiting to provide up. as far simply by fact the three 12 months old, you are able to not enable her do this. Do the reward equipment for the potty back. cling in there it gets extra constructive as they become older.

2016-10-17 11:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by equils 4 · 0 0

Punishment? Are you crazy or what? How about trying to sit with her and explain to her what she did wrong. Not just,"you lied to us and that's wrong". At 6 years old I doubt that she really understands what lying is. Her little brain is in the development stage. She needs all the positive input she can get. Not punishment

2006-09-22 17:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Justa_Honay_Guy 3 · 0 0

Well, first make sure she understands what a "lie" actually is, then explain to her why it's not a good thing to do.
Also, find out what SHE means by "reading in her head". Maybe she is trying to explain memorizing words, or something like that. It doesn't sound to me, like she is needing punishment, just more clarification.

2006-09-22 17:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by busybody12 5 · 0 0

How do you know she wasn't reading in her head? Perhaps she was making up a story in her mind using her imagination. Have you read the book to her several times where she has memorized the words?


I guess I am confused as to what the offense is.

2006-09-22 17:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1 0

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