How to make friends?

Question

I have depression, not in school, not working. No friends, and don't know how to make friends. I don't even know how to make acquaintance.

I am a client of a vocational service (non profit). They sponsor me to took at course at school. Now I am skilled and job searching.
I am seeing a counsellor, and a psychiatrist.

Why I am giving these information, because I need some good answers.
Please do NOT tell me to: (y? long reasons, hard to tell here)
~see a counsellor
~see a psychiatrist
~go to school to make friends
~get a job to make friends
~go to church
~join some hobby class

Here is a situation: I am taking a career class (how to adapt to work etc), and there is this GIRL around my age. I seen her 3 times, since we classes 4 times (1 time I was sick n cannot attend).

My goal: have some friends that I can hang out with (to have fun). I really need someone to social with, I am so bored and lonely. I am not greedy, I am not expect to jump to close friends, and talk about whatever. I need friends to have social with, so I can have some fun.

Questions:
(with other people in the room)
~how to communicate with her?
~how to talk to her?
~how to start talking to her?
~should I ask for her email first before asking for her phone number?
~how to ask for her email?
~how to ask for her phone number?
~if I get her email, what to write to communicate with her?
~how to keep and build the relationship?
~how to reach to a point that I can ask her out to hang out with her?
~if I get to hang out with her, what should we do?
~I am not too talkative.
~additional???
~other suggestions, comments?

Please after you have answered the questions, to 're-visit' to see if I have any update.

(p.s. I've tried my best to type and lay out in a way that is easy and clean to read)

I don't know what to say.
What can I talk about when trying to chat with people?

Answer 1

i would start up a conversation i know its hard. but if you dont how could you be friends. i know this is gunna sound weird but observe her for a couple days. if she wears music merchandice talk to her about that. for me music is an awsome conversation opener. since your in the same class talk to her about the class. i know im shy to its hard luckly my friends started a conversation with me first. just figure its not gunna get worse if you guys dont hit it off but it will get better if you do!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Most people gain friends from work, school, and acquaintances. If you want to approach a girl (or anyone), just go up and talk to them. What is it that you're afraid of? You have a mouth just like everybody else, and you're entitled to use it ~ so use it. Go up to her and compliment her, ask her how her weekend was, etc.

okay - have to learn to start conversations on your own.

Hi - how are you? My name is ..... What is your name? Give a compliment (whatever makes you interested in them). Ask them if they had a good weekend. Ask what they did. Tell them what you did. Talk about whatever you have in common. Don't ask for phone numbers up front, wait at least a day or two.

Answer 3

Back to smile here is my innovation to creat conditioned stimuli all around for smile.

Start from morning. Make it a point to create conditioned stimuli all around till it becomes spontaneous.

As we meet some one we say 'good morning' 'good noon' or so on. While saying so be sure to add a smile with it. It does not matter whether the other person reciprocates in the same manner or not initially. Continue and go on. Gradually you will find that not only your smile is spontaneously associated with your greetings and partings but also others' greetings and partings get associated with smiles. So in no cost it not only generates endorphin within self but also in others.

So those who have lost their moorings may like to adopt it

Answer 4

if you are in a vocational service then you have common interests with people... you could start by vaguely talking to people about those interests and go from there. i am in a job that has me constantly moving and i know how hard it is to find your niche so just talk to people around you and start building those relationships! good luck!

Answer 5

Short and sweet - talk to people. Don't be afraid they are not going to bite you.
Walk up to them and say hi, my name is ..... , or This is a interesting class don't you think - ask questions to get a conversation started.

Answer 6

what you have is called social anxiey. you need to get good drugs and take some chances in social situations. Learn that not everyone is going to like you, but some will. It's ok to go on without beating yourself up about stuff all the time. Let yourself off the hook for having to please everyone you meet.

Answer 7

Why not try talking to people on messenger first until you gain some confidence in yourself to do it in the outside world!! Feel like chattin? I love to gab away!!! [e-mail]

Answer 8

And im gonna get more depressed reading all the crap you post.

Answer 9

Well, you got it all laid out there. Whats the problem?

Answer 10

u only want girl friends or what ? just b yourself and cooooool it man