is it normal for a 11 year old to cry when he does not get his way?

Question

many times when my half brother does not gethis way h will go silent bow his head and get a big ole lip and just sait there, and other time he will go to his room or our fathers room and cry. the latest example happend 20 min ago. he want in my room and started turning on my PS2 but when i walked in after him i told him not too. i was not trying to be mean its just at 20 i dont want a little kid in my room all the time. so i told him not and told him to go play in his room but he said his cousin is watching a movie and i told him sorry and he just put on the big lip went quiet walked out got his drawing paper and went to draw and pout in my fathers room. the boy is whining over some thing simple and not a big deal so what could make him act this way? is it normal? he oftin does this over the most triveal things and it has ever gotten to the point that when i try and explan why he cant do some thing that i have to threaten him to get him to speek. if this is normal will he grow out of?

we bothet grew up differnt way and i was much more spoiled that he is but his mother does baby him, yet i dont think she does it enough to keep him like this. also he is the only child i know that during the prep for his cirst communion at the church he cried over the story of jesus being nailed to the cross.

i dont give in to a 2 year old being a brat. nether does his mother who sort of babies him nor our father. so yeah at 11 we all give in even less

i live with my father at 20 because the community college is about 2 miles away and i dont go to OSU for 2 years.

he is not spoiled, has no mental illnesses, is slightly babied...so stop calling him spoiled or saying he has a mental problem!

Answer 1

he will grow out of this faze it seems he thinks by using this technique he will get his way,,, remember boys mature slower then girls so he may actually be acting more like maybe 8 or 9 this is a tough age...remember when you were there??

Answer 2

One of my nephews is the same age and does them same thing.... sorry to say but from my experience it is because they get babied. The pouting and crying work, because they get the attention that they want and parents usually defend this child saying they are simply sensitive or thin skinned. Without his dads help to toughen him up and make him act his age I don't know of much you can do. I would try positive reinforcement with him. He probably looks up to you and things you are really cool. So when a rare occasion comes along and he handles something like an adult no matter how busy you are take the time to point it out to him and find a way to reward him. It may only help when you are around but atleast then you won't have to deal with it when you are there.

Answer 3

It is normal for a child to be sensitive. My youngest daughter cries over the simplest things too and she is 9. Im pretty sure it is puberty or senstivity. Here is how to solve this: Make time for him to spend some time with you or in your room, make it like an incentive, if he doen't listen to you or your dad he doen't get to go in you room or spend time with you. Remember only take away the incentive if he isn't listening, not if he cries. Children should not be punished for crying or speaking their mind (unless they are saying bad words) also always ask him why he was sad about something after about 20 mins.

Answer 4

He most likely is in pre-puberty. That is when you get all emotional for the littlest things. My two boys went through that. The crying? I would tell him to grow up and quit acting like a baby. It is ok to cry, but not as a way of getting attention like I think he is. U might want to try being big brother or sister once and a while and give him some attention.

Answer 5

Some people feel emotions deeper than others. He may not grow out of it. Just remember that, to him, it hurts enough to cry over. Also remember that it is a sign of mental instability, people like Ted Bundy and Jeffery Dahlmer had symptoms like this, too. The question is, does he laugh at other's misfortunes, or does he cry for them, too? If he's laughing, then there's a problem.

Answer 6

The kid is either a spoiled brat or he doesn't get enough attention. You're so much older than him, and he probably thinks you walk on water. Can't you be a little nicer to him? He just wants you to like him.

Answer 7

I have a kid brother(he's 22 now)...yes, its normal at his age-boys mature slower, remember? I have a bit of bad news, though-it only gets worse from here....Puberty will be here soon and boys are even weirder and meaner at those ages.

In addition to his really annoying squeaky voice, he will now be locking you out of your room doing God only knows what....just remember this little piece of advice: ALWAYS KNOCK! I don't care if it is YOUR room-trust me, you'll be grateful you did. Also even if you have 3 bathrooms in the house, be prepared to be locked out of all 3...boys in puberty tend to spend alot of time in the can...don't ask....I'm warning you now because what I'm describing to you will start when he's 12, 13...Good luck!

Answer 8

Its more common for boys than girls. Just set boundires before hand and when he crosses them dont yell at him, if he cries dont feel bad he may just be doing that because he thinks if he dose he'll get his way, when he firgures out that he wont he'll probly stop. If not he could have a mild case of Autism.

Answer 9

Is he the baby of the family used to getting his way? If he's spoiled that could be why he's doing it. Maybe he's outgrowing the age where he easily gets his way and thinks that crying will get him what he wants.

Answer 10

It sounds like he has been babied a lot. My niece is 9 and acts this way. It drives me CRAZY. She will stub her toe and cry like a baby because my mom or my sister make a big deal over every little thing. Tell your dad not to baby him.