well my friends daughter was born not knowing her father and thinks my fiance is her dad.with a new baby on the way and a new job and everything how do i tell her that she doe\sen't have a father?
2006-09-22 16:54:16 · 14 answers · asked by ElEgAnTFiShIe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
well she thinks my finaces her father because he acts like one to her.she loves him!
2006-09-22 16:59:16 · update #1
and when i say new baby its my baby.
2006-09-22 17:00:08 · update #2
and i'm sure my fiances not her dad because hes white and the blood test says that the girls father is really black.
2006-09-22 17:05:25 · update #3
You don't . You have no business breaking the news that is up to her mother and your fiance. If this child is under the assumption your fiance is her father and you tell her he is not that will be devastating. Besides she does have a father even if your fiance is not the one. I hope that you are not doing this out of jealousy and resentment towards the child when it comes to her relationship with your fiance... if you are you need to grow up a lot before you consider marriage and parenthood. How is this hurting you vs how hurt would this child be? The best interest of any child should come first and as I said previously it is not your decision or your place to tell her.
2006-09-22 16:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no blood test known to medicine that can determine the ethnicity of a childs parents! When you lie you probably need to know what you're talking about young lady, so that it isn't as obvious that you're bullshitting your way through just about every question you've asked... Why don't you go back to your Fourth grade classroom sit down and study some of that high-school level math and vocabulary, and if you are lucky they'll start mandating that high school level biology be taught so that you can learn something about how a man and a woman make a baby and then you can make up some more lies about the experience you didn't have doing that as well!
YOU NEED HELP KID! TALK TO YOUR MOM AND/OR DAD THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF AN UNHEALTHY PATTERN!
2006-09-24 08:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Rick R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on this girls age, and level of maturity. But really, this is something you need to talk with your friend over. She's the one who needs to step up and explain to her little girl where she comes from. Besides, what do you mean there is no father, unless she is a anonymous sperm bank baby, someone out there gave her mom the business. Truly though, her mother should be the one to explain that although "Uncle" whoever seems like a good candidate for Daddy, he's your kid's daddy, not hers. Sit down with your friend and tell her that her daughter is getting very attached to your fiance, and is asking questions about who is her father, and let your friend take it from there.
Good Luck!>^,,^<
2006-09-23 00:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Malachite Maenad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk over your concerns with the girl's mother. I'm not sure how old the child is, but if she's very young, she's probably just confused and it's not going to scar her to find out the truth - she'll still love him. You shouldn't be telling the girl anything, but you should definately be talking to the girl's mom about what information she's giving her daughter about her real dad. If she's encouraging her daughter to think your fiance is her dad, you better nip that in the bud, and have a serious conversation with her about why she's doing that.
2006-09-23 08:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not hurting anything why can't she stay close to your husband? If this is your friend's child you & your husband are going to be around her anyway. She would figure it out as she gets older.
Are you jealous of the attention that you think she will take away from your baby?
I didn't know a blood test could tell what race a child's father is. Must be some heck of a powerful test!
2006-09-23 00:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does have a father, it's just not your fiance.
It is not up to you to tell her he is not her father -actually shame on all three of you allowing her to continue to believe this falsehood - lying, no matter how innocent, does nothing but cause heartbreak down the road, and the three of you have chosen this little girl's heart to break.
I would suggest little by little he spends less and less time with her, and your friend needs to have her daughter around the grandfather perhaps for a father figure if the real father isn't an option.
2006-09-23 00:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why in the hell have y'all allowed this child to think your fiance is her daddy??? And why are you friends with someone who had to have a blood test to even determine what race that child's biological father is? What are you people.....trash? I love how everyone who screws someone and gets knocked up refers to the father as their fiance. You give both marriage and parenting a bad name.
2006-09-23 00:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Wiccan Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have any business telling her that he isnt her father. The mother of the daughter should...and why break the poor girls heart? Let her think that until she is old enough to understand....wow..i didnt know people could be so selfish.
2006-09-23 00:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not your job to tell her ,leave it to the mother and the man who she thinks is her father ,is she having a baby or are you ,if her its not the time if you then you need to check your priority's because you come off a little self centred.
2006-09-22 23:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does she think that your fiance is her father? Why doesn't her mom explain to her who her father is?
2006-09-22 23:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋