Ok, so this one girl i really like, she has a great personality and we seem to get along very well and have similar personalities and tastes. I'm attracted to her a lot but it feels like more than just physical attraction. However, i'm not really sure whether she feels the same way. Although she might, and there are times that it seems like it but at times it doesn't.
This second girl i like, we don't really have a lot in common, but i am very sexually attracted to her. She is so hot, and she seems to be a lot more interested in me than the first.
Problem is i just left my country a few months ago and probably won't be back in 6/7 months. Maybe thats why the first girl is so reserved. But the second one doesn't seem to care about the distance at all and may be willing to wait. Help! What do i do?
2006-09-22 16:45:58 · 21 answers · asked by undecided_guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha I wish I could help you but in my case I am the second girl to your story cuz my ex and I are having the same problem...but tell ya what I am gonna do which might surprise you because I am still very very interested in my ex and him in me.and the second girl to your story is a spitting image of me and my ex..but he is being undecided like you and im fixing to give him the boot....so just be sure you dont bet your money on the wrong gal. Good luck
2006-09-22 16:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...the second one is merely a physical attraction for you. Since you're a young free guy, you have the option of 'being with' the second girl and seeing if it blossoms into anything more than physical attraction. Be aware, though, that it may cause you to lose your chance with the first girl. A big risk, since she's someone you seem to already have emotional feelings for. That's a BIG thing to throw away for a fling...but that's how life is. Good luck!
BTW, I have a feeling that the second girl will be around whether or not you're with the first girl...usually girls like that are around to grab at crumbs from someone else's cookies. That's probably why you have feelings for the first girl...she has more substance.
2006-09-22 23:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..so ive had this problem before, but with guys, cuz i am a girl...lol...alright, so just because you have the same interests as the girl doesnt always mean that things will work out, you may end up butting heads a lot quicker in the relationship because you are so much a like. and being sexually attracted to a girl isnt enough normally...but you could always give it a shot...if you know you arent gonna be back for that long a time, and the girl is willing to wait...i say...why not, but if neither of them really feel like waiting, its prolly time to move on and find someone else...or see if they are still single when you get back..its about the only thing you can do...hopefully all works out for you tho...best of luck
2006-09-22 23:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't this obvious???
The girl that you have a lot in common with actually likes you for you, and has enough feelings to not want to get hurt with you moving away for awhile.
The other girl doesn't care what you do, but is hot.
You seem like an intelligent enough guy at least, which is why I am even responding to this, but if you need advise about which girl to choose...you are in fact stupid enough to just go with the girl who doesn't care about you.
Sorry, don't mean to be so rude, but I just can't believe you would even ask this question.
jeez.
2006-09-22 23:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by kc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you havent told the first girl how you feel like you did in your question, then go for it. there is absolutely nothing to lose. see if she does care about you more than just phisically.ask her what is on her mind. the second girl, sounds a lot like someone to just have fun with. You dont have much in common with her, so basically her "hotness" makes up for everything else- perhaps even brains. and honestly, she probably wont wait on you in the terms you would like. i would go for the first one, maybe shes just shy. or perhaps she has been hurt a lot.
2006-09-22 23:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go off of the sexual attraction. Looks only go so far. You just need to straight out ask both of them how they feel about you and then go off that. If I were you i would go for the one that you are attracted to more that just physically. It will make for a really fun relationship rather than just a sexual relationship.
2006-09-22 23:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction would be to go with girl #1. She has everything that's in common with you while the other one really doesn't girl #1 will eventuallly come around and be interested in you just give her time.
2006-09-22 23:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by LVieau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got the same problem, but with guys. i like 2 dudes, and there both super awesome- so many decisions, so little time. and then if u break the other ones heart, ur afraid they'll hate u for it. u dont wanna hurt either one of em, so u come to the conclusion of, "why bother?" lol
2006-09-22 23:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one you still find waiting after you return is the right girl for you. Simple
2006-09-22 23:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by jade60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for the one who calls you first this week.
2006-09-22 23:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋