do you say / feel towards people who choose not to have children or have kids?
I know afew, and I'm getting conflicted feelings. Esp. since they could take care of kids, but they dont want to. No judgeing just wondering.
2006-09-22 16:32:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi dear
their are different stages of life like when we are kids and then we grow up, get married and have kids. Some people just get struck themselves in these stages and they feel insecure. They get afraid of moving in to the other stage. So these kind of people are usually afraid of getting responsiblities and to prove them correct they decides not to hv kids. Hope this will answer your question!!
take care
2006-09-22 16:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Victor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I absolutely adore kids and am pregnant with my first child. I plan to have 1 or 2 more. I never thought i could be so excited but im definately happy about it.
Honestly, i have no conflicting feelings about a woman who does not want children. Nothing is worse than a parent parenting a child that they dont want. Later on in life that person may hold resentment that they had them in the first place.
Biologically all women and men were made to procreate but at the end of the day because of human intelligence free will comes into play. Some ppl hate kids....it is total negligence for a person who hates children to parent them.
In the long run it is a woman's choice to decide that ultimate decision and truthfully a person who knows they cant handle a child shouldnt have them at all.
2006-09-22 23:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are not the greatest joy of everyone's life! Not everyone is good with kids. Not everyone likes them. Some children are extremely challenging, even for parents who do want and love them. Some of us are right not to have children because we wouldn't be happy as parents and wouldn't raise happy children. If you've read these stories of horrific child abuse that pop up so often in the media, I think you can identify a few people who shouldn't have had children but didn' t know it in time.
What you feel about this is up to you. There's no need to say anything at all about it, as the choice not to have children is a personal matter.
2006-09-22 23:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure because I am one of those that decided not to have any children. There are many reasons that went into the decision that I made many years ago. I just don't believe that they are the greatest joy of a life time. Because if that is the case then why do the parents complain about the things that they have to do for their child and why are not more parents more active in their child's life. Why do they cheat on each other so that sooner or later the child's world is destroyed and their lives turned upside down
2006-09-22 23:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I chose not to have children 18 years ago, when I had a vasectomy. I don’t regret that one bit.
Most people are indifferent to me not having children. The ones that disagree are very rude. They tend to tell me that I am going to burn in hell, and other things like that. Some will call me gay. Still others will call me selfish.
By far, the most common question I get is “What does your religion say about having children”. I am a Buddhist (and that is not really a religion). I just tell them like it is - "There are no rules in Buddhism requiring followers to have children".
When I was younger not wanting children was a major barrier to dating. Many women will not date a man whom does not want children.
2006-09-23 20:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Marvin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a behavioral consultant working with children on the Autism Spectrum and have made a decision not to have children based on my experiences with many handicapped and medically fragile children, I love children and am satisfied with not having any of my own, I love my workand my nieces and nephews with all my heart, however for me it is not worth the risk (and the risk is high... 1 in every 166 children are diagnosed with Autism, that is one child every 20 minutes). I think that choice is up to the individual and respect the decision of everyone, your not better or worse a person because you choose to or not to have children. Everyone has a reason why they do or do not want children of their own, I respect every one.
2006-09-22 23:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go with your heart, dont listen to what others opinions are, you will know if and when you are ever going to be ready for kids, if you have to question it right now, I would say that at this time in your life you are not ready for kids,
having kids is a big responsibilty.
2006-09-22 23:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Christina M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can be a joy if you want them, they are not a joy if you make having them a requirement.
2006-09-23 00:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I don't see what so great about them really.
2006-09-22 23:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋