Was I wrong?

Question

Today I was talking to my son's father. He has a7 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We have a 1 month old son together. He was telling me that he sent her some shoes today and a coat Tuesday. Her mom just bought her some shoes but she wanted some black ones as well. She already has a coat but the mother told him the girl didn't like the one she already had so he sent another. The only thing he bought my son was an outfit and a pair of shoes he's gonna grow out of in a few months. Am I wrong for telling him about himself. I told him that he's buying **** that his daughter wants and not the things that BOTH of his children need. So he got mad and hung up the phone in my face. The babymama and the daughter live 800 miles away. But almost everyday she calls and says her daughter wants something. The mother does nothing but call and starts drama with him and then turn around and call bak and says her daughter needs something. Is it me or is she playing him like a fool? HELP!

Answer 1

Girl it ain't you! He's getting played. You have so many men that are like that. He is the type of man that will have to find out the hard way and when he does he is going to be feel so stupid that he won't be able to tell you.
Girl, you were not wrong telling him that he needs to give that child what she needs, not what she wants. She sounds like a spoiled brat. All he is doing is pacifying her and she is 7 years old and does not need that. There are so many kids that don't have anything and when you said that her mom had already bought her a coat and she didn't like it and wanted basically what she wanted, she is spoiled and ungrateful. You need to give that n**** a list of the things that you need for your son. Okay make him see, you know what we all learn differently and some men need to see it, instead of hearing it. I would write his a** a letter and give to him stating all the things that my child needs and exclude in bold all the things that he might want to buy him.
Most men spoiled the mess out of their first daughter and that is what is happening but you have to constantly remind him that ya have a child together and by the way are you going out with him? Are ya still together? Cause if ya are you need to closely rethink ya situation. First of all who is his babymoma calling? Is she calling your house? Girl, no you can't let ex's call your house. If he has a cell phone than tell him to direct his calls from her and family to his cell phone. I am just being real, I wouldn't let an ex call my house, please now if I am staying with my boo or something and he tells me that, that is his babymoma and that is his daughter, girl, he got to pick between me and that ex. Now don't get me wrong a man is suppose to take care of his kids. I am happy that he is doing that. But if ya are serious it seems to me like she is trying to break ya'll up and he is going to be the laughing stock in the end. So girl, I wouldn't even trip. Everything is going to work out and that's the way it is. God works everything out for the good. You remember that and you will get far.

Answer 2

I don't think so he should be treating all his kids the same. Do they have a good friendship or is it just a because we have a child we will still keep in touch relationship? Depending on that answer He may feel obligated to get more for the daughter because he is competing with the mother.

Answer 3

Don't deal with the bs.... If its staring already chances are hes going to be a shitty father, Tell him he better step his game up that your son is in more need.... at such a young age its needs not wants... Th other babys mom needs to not call as much the daughter is old enough to dial on her own let him know how u feel don't hold it in you'll explode.

Answer 4

If she is playing him for a fool he is allowing it to happen. It sounds like he has a problem with both of you but not your fault I think he is afraid of her or still loves her.I wonder why he hung up on you? Maybe because he didn't like hearing the truth.Sounds like he's a poor excuse of a Father and a man.

Answer 5

There isnt anything that you can do about that part of his life, it has nothing to do with you. Just concentrate on your child, and if you need something-sounds like telling the daddy isnt a bad idea. She's obviously playing him, but if he's going to be dumb enough to let her then whateva.

Answer 6

His ex really knows how to drama. I suggest that you should not show that you are upset with him or about anything. You do the drama too. Don't get mad. Get even.

Answer 7

The COURTS should mandate his child support payments to each of his children. (is he not paying child support?!!!)...and outside of that child support - it's up to him what he wants to buy what child or the other...you really have no right to tell him that UNLESS he's not paying child support. If he's not ...it's up to you (for your child's) sake to take him to court to do that - he should work two jobs - one for each child - if he has to. But then you can get your child what he needs out of THAT...and if he wants to buy him more above and beyond that (or not) that's completely up to him. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

She is playing him like a fool

Answer 9

Yep.....you were wrong. As long as he supports his child that the two of you had together......what he does with his money is none of your business.

You sounded petty and jealous by what you said.

Answer 10

i think the woman is lonely! To be honest my dad tried it with me all it is is buying her love! The dad feels bad for not being there and doesn't know how to make it work.