I'm in my twentys and I've dated several guys now, some casually and some more seriously, but they all have seemed eons away from wanting to "settle down". It seems that when I really start to get interested in some one, and think he could be "the one" I find out that he is not "ready". I'm frustrated with dating "boys" and I'm ready for a "man" . That is, if they still exist. Do guys ever grow up.... Hello why can't they just say their not ready for a commited relationship from the begining?.......
2006-09-22 16:01:50 · 9 answers · asked by Linny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would you continue seeing them if, in the beginning, they admitted that they were not "ready?" Probably not. And what, in your estimation, is the proper amount of time a relationship should develop, before realistically considering "settling down?"
And from another perspective: how many women are scared off, when a guy wants to become serious too soon? Is that a timing issue, or simply one of control?
Bottom line: when a relationship is solid enough to bring it to the next level, some deep discussions need to take place. Are both of you ready for dedicated commitment? Do you have common goals and dreams? Do you have a vision of a future that you can map out and share? Can you approach it together and at a similar pace?
For this to occur, you must both embrace the adventures and responsibilities of that thing called "growing up." It isn't until you're each on the same piece of sheet music that the song will harmonize . . .
2006-09-22 16:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by alchemist0750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30
2006-09-22 17:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think there is a certain age range. It can vary from person to person. Some are ready at a younger age than others.
Don't be in such a rush. Hopefully, you have plenty of time to find the right guy and settle down. Enjoy yourself while you are young, save the family thing for a little later.
Best wishes
2006-09-22 16:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I have 2 brothers. One got married at the age of 18 and have been faithfully (that I know of anyway) married since 1980.
My other brother has not committed to any girl. Was into a "commom -law" marriage for 12 years. But that didn't last. They split. This one is a BIG TIME play boy and I don't ever seeing committing to anyone. He isn't the marring type. Girls have tried! Trust me!
So..some commit and some don't. It depends. The middle child (brother) is right...a child still. He needs to grow up! HE STILL LIVES AT HOME WITH MY DAD! The other (older one) is successful with 2 homes!
(Footnote..I am the baby of the bunch/ the youngest..lol)
2006-09-22 16:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by sdrose17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men never grow up but they start to want a committed relation ship when things start to sag horrible isn't it?
2006-09-22 16:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by tamara s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though I'm a girl, I want to say 25-30.
2006-09-22 16:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to grow up and stop wanting for THE ONE since u were a lil piece of s h i t.
2006-09-22 16:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by hejhs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
linny you are in twenties go have fun and enjoy life
2006-09-22 16:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies guy to guy.
2006-09-22 16:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Butterfly Kisses♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋