i knew my family was always i little off, but damn, am i in trouble?

Question

I got a stepdad a mom and my stepbrother whos 16, im 15. I started wondering about my life when i was on the fone with my girl. And she was listening in the background and she asked me "ash is there a ******* wrestling match going on in your kitchen? am i missing something?" I told her that corey and his dad where just having it out again. So she told me "You know that's not good right?" I didnt get it at first i was so used to watching corey's dad hit him and watching corey swing back that it didnt make sense that this might not be good. The deal is that my stepdad needs beer as much as he needs oxygen and corey's a rebellious troublemaker. I only moved in a month ago and i wanted to know if i might end up like corey with the marks and the cuts and everything. And does this happen in every family?

Answer 1

Honey, why do you think Corey is rebellious? Could it have something to do with the way he's been raised?
You need to get out of there, you need to get Corey out of there, and you need to get your mom out of there before your stepdad gets drunk & starts swinging at her!
Call someone, a family member, the police, anybody just to let them hear this in the background over the phone like your girlfriend did. I can't believe your mom lets this go on. Is she used to abusive relationships herself?
Good Luck, and GET OUT!

Answer 2

No, honey, abuse doesn't happen in every family.
Your step-dad is physically abusing Corey. And, possibly mentally abusing him also - does he call him names and call him stupid? That's mental/psychological abuse.
Since your step-dad "needs" beer to survive - he's an alcoholic. Alcoholics tend to be abusive.
Could he start treating you the same way - yes, he could.
Do you and Corey get along? Could you talk to him about how what his dad is doing not being right? Might he be able to tell a teacher or parent of a friend? If not, how would you feel about talking to someone about it? That's a lot to put on you, but abusers don't stop. They don't see it as wrong. And they have all kinds of excuses for doing it. "He knows better than to......., so that's why I hit him" That sort of thing. --- Has your mom seen this?
You need to be very careful around this man. Abusers don't tend to stop. He may branch out and begin to hit you or your mom.
Talk to your mom, at least. Find out if she's aware of what's going on?
What an awful situation to be in. Be careful. If he would start to hit you - TELL, if not your mom, a teacher, your pastor, the parent of one of your friends. Tell so it doesn't happen a second time.
Good luck - My heart breaks for you.

Answer 3

Your step dad is a drunk and will most likely use you/your mom as a punching bag when your stepbrother isn't around. This does not happen in most families. If you can move out, that may be the best thing for you. At the very least, find a local Al-anon group to help you understand what is going on, and how dangerous it may become. See link below.

Answer 4

No, it doesn't happen in every family, but, Ive heard about some screwed up stuff happening in alot of families. Nothing is ever going to be perfect, instead it's going to be real. It's going to have real people with real problems, real successes, and real loves and hates.
No, it doesn't sound like you will end up like Corey. Just be sure that you protect yourself and your future. You need to be doing well in school for yourself. Go to College. Soon you'll be out there in the world and you'll need to be able to adapt and cope, live and love.

Best wishes

Answer 5

You've moved into a bad situation. NO MOST FAMILIES DON'T HAVE FIST FIGHTS at all and certainly not on a regular basis. The alchohol is definitely a problem. You may end up going to blows with one or both of them but it will likely come up when you catch him beating your mother. You need to talk to your mom and if she doesn't respond, then go to a counselor at school. Living like this will stay with you your whole life. There is no easy answer here, you just need to understand that it is wrong and it is not your fault.

Answer 6

Not normal, doesn't happen in every family. Try to keep out of it, you may need to speak to counselor, but be careful of that, too. Can you speak privately with your mother about this?
I hate to recommend bringing in the authorities because of unexpected side effects.
Alcoholics Annonymous has a group for family members. You could attend some of these meetings without your step father knowing, and they can offer better advice.
There is also a group, Adult Children of Alcoholics, you are about old enough to try that one, also. Check the Internet or local city phone book.
Good luck.
J

Answer 7

This is only typical in a family where theres an alcoholic. Maybe you should talk to your counselor at school and see if she can arrange a way for your step dad to get some kind of help. If things don't change your step brother is going to grow up acting the same way his dad does, since he thinks its normal. By doing this you would not only be helping your step brother, you would be helping your step dad get the help he needs.

Answer 8

Yes you might be in trouble because if he argue's with Corey when he is drinking than what makes you think he won't eventually start an argument/fight with you? Also you have to remember if him and his son have physical fights than this means they don't have respect for one another and let alone respect others. so i say be careful and try talking to someone you can trust besides your girlfriend who can help you out of this situation because this is dangerous.

Answer 9

No it doesn't. What happened to Corey's mom? If it's tragic maybe that's the problem.

Answer 10

i do no longer think which you will finally end up like Corey provided that he has been in this concern for fairly sometime. And no, no longer all families are violent. communicate on your mom while issues get out of contol or call the police while this happens formerly somebody gets killed!