I think i'm a really nice guy (25) and i have no problem saying that i'm better looking than the normal guy...i don't smoke, drink and i would never take advantage of a girl...ever. I try my hardest in all things i do and all that. now here's the question. Me and my girlfriend were very serious and we dated for about a year before we broke up. It's been a month and i still am not over it and cant bring myself to date other people. How long should i wait before at least trying? I have girls that would want to go out and all, but i still have hope for my ex...what should i do?! if you dont' know where i'm coming from...look at my other question to get a better background...thanks again...
2006-09-22 14:57:20 · 22 answers · asked by i travel often 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you date, she'll see that your good enough for another girl, maybe your good enough to try again.
Honestly, she's out with other guys...lots of other guys. You probably don't want her back after all that action she's been getting.
2006-09-22 15:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dealing with a similar situation (check out my Q's)..different only in that I moved from Delaware to Utah for my ex that I'm still not over and it's been 2 months. I want to meet new people, guys, but I dont want to be all hugged up with a guy until I feel comfortable. I'm guessing (hoping) that I'll just know when that time is cause I wont have any doubt about the time I spend with that person.
2006-09-22 15:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Redneckswoman0121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt want to be the girl that you go out on a date with... while you are thinking about an ex. Get over the ex... with time, getting into other interests (work, school, friends, exercise) and once you aren't thinking of your ex all the time... could take a while ( a month or two) keep your eyes open. No one likes to be the rebound person... and everyone deserves the honest truth. Good luck and enjoy being single. There are plenty of perks!
2006-09-22 15:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are on your way to being secure while you're single. TRy that first before you start dating again. It wouldn't be fair to start dating if you're not over your ex because you will compare all of them to her and be miserable. It's going to take a long time to get over her but if you throw yourself into your job, hang out with friends and network, when you're least expecting, someone will come your way. You're young and have plenty of time yet. Stop hoping for your ex; you broke up for a reason.
2006-09-22 15:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man its too bad but there are sometimes you have to cut things short and get on with your life. If you have the opportunity to date some other person then do so; you are not obligated to wait for your ex.
Lets say for example things get better and you guys get together and she dumps you again and again and again.
Are you going to keep waiting for her to come running back to you.
Hate to sound mean but its her loss and sometimes it is best to just get ahead and move on with your life without her that way she knows she has no power over you.
Because right now she does.
Hope it helps man.
Stay strong.
2006-09-22 15:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by OJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it more time till you are ready. There is no time scale. It is not fair to the other girl that you have someone else on your mind.
Good luck. Spend time with the guys and before you know it you will be back in the swing of things. It is hard to get over someone you really care about:-)
2006-09-22 15:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were to get in a relationship after only being broken up for a month, it would not be fair to the new girl... Plus what if your ex still has feelings for you? That cuts off all possibilities with her, dont you think? (And what does better looking have to do with it?
2006-09-22 18:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by malaiagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, we all know its hard. getting over ur ex(even if u initiated the break up) is a pain in the ***. just take it slowly. dont go until ur comfortable! cuz that results in awkward situations. try going on double dates or group dates. that way u can test it out by spending time one on one with a girl and if it gets awkward, well then go back to the group!
2006-09-22 15:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you are comfortable to date other people. If you and your girlfriend broke up a month ago- she might not be coming back. Don't wait for her to live your life. Good luck.
2006-09-22 15:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by lonelykuroinu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why did you 2 break up? if its for reasons that are really unforgiveable ie beastiality, incest or murder than you have no chance of reconciliation, if however the "offence" committed by you or her is of a wholly forgivable nature give your seperation another month and start talking to her again... if she wants to be with you 1 month should be enough time for her to have decided. If she does not want you back than you gotta move on... give yourself enough time to feel yourself again and look to enjoying your own company again while looking out for a suitable partner to share your life with...
2006-09-22 15:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by darthmawler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋