im 18!! and i want to get married to someone instead of dating!! am i too young or rushing the situation?

Answer 1

i think your rushing the situation. i mean your only 18 you've got your whole life ahead of you. just take it easy and go out on some dates and maybe you'll find that "special someone"

Answer 2

I would say you are rushing big time. Getting married is a big thing, and expensive. You need to date to make sure you are compatible, not to mention down the line live with the person first so you can get used to eachothers habits good and bad. Not to mention your age, some cultures find it that you must be married by 18 or you are too old, but, 18 is way too young also what about college, living a little having fun, relaxing once you get some of that under your belt then worry about getting married... But the big thing is Date it is the only way to find out if you are compatible some people will seem ok on the outside but once you get to know them you can find that you love them more or that they are just plain out cruel.

Answer 3

Just because the law says you are old enough to marry doesn't mean you should.

And why would you want to? Do you really know what marriage is? Look at your parents, do they seem to be having a great time?

A wife is a job without pay. Why do you want to start so young?

What are you missing in life that you think a marriage will bring you? Bad reason to get married!

Besides you are not fully grown until 30, so it is unlikely that the person you choose at 18 is going to be right for you at 30 and until you are 90.

Answer 4

More important than the answer (yes you are rushing) is to find out why you are rushing to get married. Usually people who are rushing to get married are desperate and are running from something or hoping marriage will fix some gaping hole in their lives. Usually they rush from a frying pan directly into a fire and are divorced and have a passle of kids before they are 26. 3 kids and divorced. Now what do I do? Can't fix that kind of mess; it's better to prevent it in the first place.

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel. I've always wanted to get married. And it's hard to date in today's society, but it can be done. I'm glad I didn't get married when I was 18. I would have married the wrong person thinking that they were the one for me while only in my first relationship. I'm now 23 yrs old and still want to get married, but it does take time. Figure out your goals and plans on where you want to be when you are in your 20's. Use these next few years to determine what kind of future you have. You never mentioned if you had a guy or not. But either way, make sure you know what type of guy you want. There's a saying that says something like if you don't have a target to aim for your arrows will end up anywhere. So basically plan. I thought I knew what I wanted and who I was and had myself figured out. I was usually always predictable and then I hit 20 and got tired of being predictable all the time and introverted. I changed a lot and couldn't handle that I almost felt like a different person. I don't think you want to feel that way when you get married. But I'm sure it happens as you get older from time to time. Realize the reason why you want to get married. Are they logical or strong enough to carry through into a healthy solid marriage? Can you base your marriage and love on your reasons? Don't just get married to escape your parents house or things like that. There are a lot of other answers to certain problems instead of marriage. Don't use marriage for that reason.It won't work. Just be wise about what you do. I don't necessarily think a majority of things matter on your age as much as on your maturity of things. And your experience in life and related things. Make sure you are focusing on other areas of your life as well and make sure they are balanced and healthy and thriving such as family, school, friends...instead of putting all your energy into wanting to get married. It will happen when you are ready for it. In the meantime, take in all their is for you to learn and understand and don't limit yourself to the same freedom and learning after you are married either. Most people say marriage is a prison and they have no freedom because of the ball and chain. But I believe otherwise. It adds to life instead of taking away things you enjoy. Just know that someone out in the world thinks like you do and knows your same frustrations with dating. God Bless!

Answer 6

Get married, and hurry up. You don't need to go to college, or have any sense of what to do with your money. You'll most likely marry your true love of six months. He'll turn out OK, he'll be working at a 7-11 or white hen, and will be able to buy you anything you want. Christ, they pay 7 dollars an hour. That's more than enough for you and a very nice house to raise your 4 children. If your true love does drugs or drinks a lot, don't worry, it will all work out fine after he goes through re-hab for the fourth time. Maybe you can even work at McDonald's in order to have enough money for your crack and a nice flowered glass pipe to smoke it in. Good Luck

Answer 7

I agree that dating is a tough game. Getting married any younger than 20 something would be a mistake. You should explore all your possibilities first, even if that means staying single and being secure with it. 18 is way too young.

Answer 8

What's the rush? You have your whole life to be married, but the process of dating allows you to learn about what you want and how relationships work. This would allow you to bring more value to your future marriage - and hopefully make for a stronger, more successful one.

Answer 9

yes. i am sorry but 18 is wayyy to young. college life married sucks. SUCKS. if u really love him, and he loves u, then u should both be willing to hold it out until a better time when u r both mature. try moving in together. then u can get a nice feel for how married life would be. make sure u r 100% sure before u make any hasty decisions :)

Answer 10

You are totally rushing the situation. Please give yourself time to grow up a bit and experience life. Go to college, get a career going, live on your own awhile. Then you can think about getting married to someone AFTER dating them awhile, say a few months to a couple of years. You have a long life ahead of you. Go and live it! Please don't rush into such a huge life changing event that requires sooooooooooooooo much maturity and responsibility. Please think of yourself and your career for now. Marriage will come in time.