Ok, me and my boyfriend broke up. It's been two weeks now, but we were together for a year. He has made it clear the relationship is over and hurt my feelings pretty bad. In other words, there's no going back. A guy friend and his cousin asked me and my sister to go out tomorrow night. It's the same club I know my ex was at last weekend. We said yes cause is should be fun. So why am I having these feelings of not really wanting my ex to see me hanging out w/ someone else? He's made it clear it's over between us. Yeah, I've got some lingering feelings for him but he made it real easy to get over him w/ all the nasty things he said. What do you think. I mean, we're not little kids. We're both in our late 20's.
2006-09-22 14:55:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because even though u know its over, it still hurts and just to see him again will bring it all back. so go to the club, get a few drinks and make him feel the pain ur feeling, by acting like everything is ok
2006-09-22 15:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is ....you still are a little attach to him which is something normal because you been in a relatioship for about a year ....so in my house we always say.....i do not feel well I have sadness in my soul ....which means sad for the break up ...I would wait for hang out with other people, not because of him , because of you....I did that with someone and he was pretty worry about me ...he would not see me anywhere and he would ask everybody about me ....the less he see you the most he will be worry about you .. even that he told you bad things do not play games if you are an adult just ignore him, keep your life ...hangout in other places make a life in another way ....another enviroment ....if you keep hanging out on the same place he is ...you will see things will hurt you more....do not play games and stay away....he might regret what he done but he will never if he see you with other guys because he will be sure he was right to dumped you
2006-09-22 22:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the break up is fresh, its still on your mind, ofcourse your going to be uneasy about seeing someone else, its normal, dont be ashamed. But instead of going to the same place you kno ur ex wuld be at try going somewhere else to start off with, somehwere you kno your ex wont be so you can try to get him off your mind and be normal on your new date. The EASY thing would be to go to the same club and b a b#tch when you saw ur ex and show off your on a date, but like you said, we're not children anymore. So i recommend you try a new place with a new date and start new memories. Goodluck! Hope all goes well..
2006-09-22 22:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by roxybeach793 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it's over but you don't want it to be over. By not wanting to go out in public with another guy and possibly being seen with him by the ex, you seem to be afraid to let your ex think you're over him... because you're not. It sounds like you want to be back with him despite those terrible things he's done. Who knows, maybe he was your rock during a tough time, maybe you were comfortable with him, maybe you loved him and it makes those terrible things he said/did to you seem a little easier to overlook right now. It's going to take awhile for those feelings to change. It'd probably be best to go somewhere where he most likely won't be because otherwise, if you do run into him, it could ruin your night... you'll be thinking of him and be wondering what he is thinking of you, should you go over and say something to him, is he noticing you, does he think i'm following him, etc? Tons of logical and illogical thoughts will pop into your head and it's not worth it - you're going out to have FUN... so go somewhere else.
At some point, you'll be ready to see him in social settings, but it doesn't sound like it is time yet.
And don't just go out with a guy where you know the ex will be to rub it in his face. that's immature and i'm sure you know it.
2006-09-22 22:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by miss_alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you do have lingering thoughts.....if he's made it so clear.......you better go on out and enjoy yourself. That would be your best response,if he is at the club, seeing you honestly having a good time.............think about it. On the real tip girl, you must be a good catch if you stayed with a guy for a year......stayed loyal too.........I wouldn't worry, some guy is going to notice you and scoop you up! HAVE FUN.......LATER
2006-09-22 22:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by veteranpainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, whether you like it or not you are going to feel some attachment to him, I mean, you guys were together for a year it's only natural. I think you're just getting over him and need to give it some time.
2006-09-22 21:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Gorgeous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think about that jerk and just try to have fun with your friends. If that means avoiding him and going to different places, so be it, you'll be much better off in the end after you sort your feelings
2006-09-22 22:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by storyteller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get over him have some fun dont dwell anymore alright but im sorry and im 14 but i know what im talking about i dated a female for a year and a half
2006-09-22 22:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by kevbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go and rub in his face what he gave up. Sure he said nastly things, but with time you'll realize he said those things not because they are true but because he wanted to hurt you. Go, get drunk, have a good time, dance with a sexy guy and let him seeth!
2006-09-22 21:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Redneckswoman0121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you were good only until he found some one else and even though he broke up with you he is still living his life so suck it up and move on and have a good time good luck PS: He ain't tripping over you so move on
2006-09-22 22:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋