Can't Stop Crying... Advice Needed?

Question

I started my freshman year with no friends and ended it with no friends. It feels so bad not to have friends nobody 2 talk 2, Almost feel rejected I use to have appointments with the school counc.I remember when I use to come home and cry til I fell asleep because I had no social life at all and all the ones I try to builded felled apart In real life and on the computer.Now it's my sophmore year and I decided that I wanted friends So I thought I made friends with two girls.When prep rally camed around they left me all alone on the bench by myself Like I wasn't there.I cryed my *** off this afternoon,from my walk to school until I feeled asleep I'm so stupid uguly and useless It's all most as if no one wants to be my friend. and I really need a friend A good friend and I can't get that. I have been rejected since I moved to New Orleans 2 years ago til now here in baton rouge after hurricane katrina No real friends are anywhere I don't feel like doing anything anymore. not even eat.

Answer 1

dont worry friends will come!!!! for now get gr8 grades, join a church, and with the good grades get into a good college and make freinds ^_^. most of the time high school freinds dont last anyways. Also just keep trying

Answer 2

Okay, now honey, calm down. It's tough but you're gonna make it through it.

Step 1: Get a tissue and blow as hard as you can.

Step 2: Stop being so negative and smile more. Have better thoughts and hold yourself together like you don't need friends--you just need the inner you.

Step 3: Be friendly--talk to ppl. Find common interests and find ppl that feel the same way you do. Try to talk to ppl. Try to have a few aquatenses for a change. It's hard to find a best friend, but it isn't impossible to live without a friend!

Extra Step: I am usually very good and friendly with ppl. And I wish I could come and make you will better. However, I don't live in New Orleans--I live in New York. So if you want to, email me to [e-mail] and we could chat sometime. I'll be your somebody to talk to. Oh, and if you don't get an immediate answer, don't worry. I have a lot of homework as a junior in High School and can't be on the computer daily for this. So dry your eyes and start from a new page. Be kind to ppl. Help Freshmans, do something nice to ppl and get something better back--joy of helping and being a friend. Goodluck, kid.

Answer 3

First off all u r not the only one out there that feels the way u do! Also Katrina messed upalot of peoples lifes so again u r not the only one who is suffering. That being said, You need to face up to the facts that yes life is hard, and things don't always go the way we wish they would, so the best way to deal with it is to change your attitude. Stop with the poor me crap and put a smile on your face! If u start giving off a happy possative vibe then people will pick up on that and want very much to be around you! I know it's very VERY hard to just change the way u feel and put on a act, but it will work!!Stop thinking only negative thoughts, it's very hard but if u think possative things, then possative things will happen! People don't want to hang with someone who is always negative and yes people do pick up on that kinda thing. And start taking some chances and risk! When your friends got up and walked away, then get your but up also and go with them! This is your life to live and u are VERY lucky to be living it in the USA where u can do anything u want and be anything u desire. I don't want u to think I am being mean but sounds like u need to hear the truth instead of just telling u its ok and things will get better... The only way things will get better is if u make them!! Now, get up, put on a smile (even if it's fake) and go out and do something u normally wouldnt do!!! Your only job in life is to have fun and do whats best for u sweethart, cause remember,u only get one ride!

Answer 4

Keep your head up and dont push the issue. Try your best to let people know your alive. Wear a funky hat or join a group that will draw just enough attention to get you noticed. And dont be so hard on yourself. Before you know it you'll be 24 with such low self esteem you cant answer the question of why you get up in the morning. It will get better, but you have to put yourself out there more! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Remember this: whatever you say about yourself, you speak into existence. how you perceive yourself, is how others perceive you. you must start you day out right. smile, be friendly and be assertive. HS is NOT the best time of your life...college is! I never "fit" into the groups in HS. Don't worry about having friends and doing dumb stuff. Get good grades and own your own business. When your HS reunion comes, they'll be envious.

Seriously, you can't go around being negative. People feed off of that and they can tell that you're not confident. Go read "The Magic of Thinking Big" by David Swartz. That will help you with your train of though and your self image problems.

Answer 6

Perhaps you could talk with the counselor at your new school. Maybe she/he could introduce you to some kids who need friends. Ask the counselor if she/he could invite a group of kids who all have social difficulties to be in a group counseling session.

You seem to feel rejected and abandoned and you are currently lacking in confidence. There are probably kids in the same boat as you are. There are wonderful kids who are rejected in school because they are obese, dorky, handicapped or very slow. Maybe if you looked around and picked a really nice child who is rejected for one of these reasons, you would find someone who would really value your friendship and wouldn't reject you.

Answer 7

How can I know my mind?
An alert mind is not a problem; an unaware mind is. The mind projects the future to be fulfilling but misses the beauty of the present. If you are rich, you want to be richer; if you are strong, you want to be stronger; if you are beautiful, you want to be more beautiful. Such a mind does not make you live life but leave life.

Such a mind creates false prayers. You make a ritual out of prayer and pretend to pray. Such prayer becomes an empty gesture.

Why am I so greedy?
There is a visible world and there is an invisible world. There is a visible self and an invisible self. The visible world is a world of diversity and the invisible world is a world of oneness.

If we live on the periphery we will feel incomplete but completeness is one’s nature. This incompleteness wants us to be a complete person. But the only track it knows is greed, wanting more. The enlightened masters give us not a dogma but a device to reach this state of completeness.

We should stop fooling around with life. Just thinking to be happy is not enough; just thinking to be wise is not enough. It is a luxury to think but it is wisdom to live. Ask yourself: Are you concerned with reality or fantasy?

There are two ways to know reality. If you want to know objective reality, then science is the way out. If you want to know subjective reality, turn to spirituality.

Why does one worry in life ?
Worry has become a habit for many. An inner energy that is not creative goes around in circles of worry. A creative person is one who, when he encounters a problem, is focused on the solution and is not a victim to the problem. Convert the problem into a springboard for possibilities.

A doctor does not cure illness but allows the healing process within to surface by giving it the right condition. So, too, the true healer exists within you. But you have to create the right condition. By looking at the mountain you can’t climb the mountain, you should will yourself to climb the mountain. Optimise this will for you to be above worry.

What should one do to be successful in life?
Ultimately what you need is self-confidence, mental toughness, commitment to excel and the ability to use the power of imagination.

What do you mean by self-confidence?
There are three pillars of self-confidence: Feeling good, taking responsibility and developing skills. There are both healthy ways and unhealthy ways of feeling good. You should develop the discipline to feel good in a healthy way. The quality of one’s life is the quality of one’s consistent feeling. There are techniques that are taught how to hold and maintain consistent feelings of empowerment within you.

How does one acquire clarity?
Clarity is acquired not by knowledge but by knowing. It is not a belief system; it is intelligence operating in the domain of freedom. The true meaning of renunciation is not renouncing the world but renouncing bondage. When bondage is renounced there is freedom, the most important thing. In freedom lies intelligence. It is not just discipline but true freedom. Freedom is not something devoid of order; it is a flowering of order

Answer 8

I'm sorry you feel so lonely. May I suggest you try to find an activity group you can join at your school. There are groups like dancing, hiking, biking and what not. Pick somethink you moght be interested in. If there is something that brings you and other people together, you migt have more in common. Moreover, if they happen to walk away just like this other 2 peole did, you might not notice it so badly because you'd be still bust dancing/hiking/biking.

I hope it helps.

Answer 9

dont feel bad about ur self everyone evantually has friends even really ugly ppl in m school has atleast 30 friends. Most of the time u have to slowly join say hi and etc... The other 2 friends i say that there jerks and hang around ppl like them but if u want to ask them why they avoided u

Answer 10

You should go to your family doctor who can recomment you to a psychiatrist who can help you sort out your problems. It sounds like you need someone to talk to - somebody with expert advice. You don't need to be skinny & pretty to make friends. All you need is a personality. If you have problems in that area , then your gonna have to work on it. Try being nice to people. Don't be picky with who you want to be friends with. Be nice to everybody. Sometimes you have to join a gym, or a church club - it depends on your interest. Joining things that interest you where there are people - this will help. Good Luck!