His father is a nueroclinical psychologist and abused my hubby as a child. HE IS trying to kep him from me. My husband is disappearing , repeating the exact same sentences and telling me lies about our life. He says he wants to die. He doesnt want to hurt me but cant stop himself. He knows he loves me that is all he hasnt forogtten. I really need help
2006-09-22 14:18:51 · 7 answers · asked by rasberi 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Seek the help of a non-related professional and the law. This sounds more serious than an internet forum can assist you with.
2006-09-22 14:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I sincerely doubt if you are not a professional psychiatrist or psychologist that you will have the skills to deprogram your husband.
I get the impression from "he wants to die", "doesnt want to hurt me but can't stop". Sounds like he is suicidal and psychotic. If this is the case he is a danger to himself and you. (SMI). Has Serious Mental illness.
You did not state what country you reside in as the laws dealing with mental health vary from state to state and country to country.
Being that you are his wife you should have the power to place him in a mental hospital for 72 hour observation. If he requires a longer stay the hospital will have to obtain the permission of a judge, depending on what country you reside in. Otherwise they have to release him.
During the 72 hour observation he will receive a complete medical and psychiatric evaluation. And during the same period of time they will have to make a DX, on him.
An if necessary he will be placed on drugs if the problem is not resolved with behaviour modification, bio-feedback or hypnosis.
The above are only a few treatment techniques used.
Usually upon his release he will either have to see his own personal psychiatrist, or have one assigned to him by the hospital for out patient treatment and follow up on any medications given to him during the 72 hours observation.
If necessary you can call your local police and tell them what you have written here if you are afraid that he may become aggressive if you try to place him in a mental hospital. The police will escort you and your husband to the hospital for your protection.
Sorry I don't know what else I can tell you being that I don't know the country you reside in.
Clinical Psychiatrist, France
2006-09-22 21:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by MINDDOCTOR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call another direct relate to your Husband, and commit him. He will no doubt fight it and say he hates you. It takes two relatives in my state to commit, so do your homework first. We made the mistake of not checking first, and my Father in law committed suicide before we understood enough about the law to get him locked up where he could get 24-7 supervision. The police just let him come right home, and the required "counselor's sessions" after his short trip to jail ended with the conclusion by the "therapist" that he was not a threat to others or himself. We know now that this was wrong. He has been gone for 10 1/2 years now. We all still miss him. You will have to hurt him to help him. Don't mistake that fact. Even if he never comes back to you fully, at least he never goes away, forever.
2006-09-22 21:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by detecting_it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, don't walk to the nearest mental health center. In some states a person can be committed against their will if they are a danger to themselves or others, as deemed by social workers, cops or doctors. It may not seem like a nice thing to do but at least he could get the help he needs and would be in a safer place if he should try to harm himself.
He's lucky you love him so much.
2006-09-22 21:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY scary story. The only answer seems to be to fight fire with fire. If you can get your husband to another neuroclinical psychologist, he may recognize indications of what your husband has been subjected to and know of ways to reverse what's been done. Good luck!
2006-09-22 21:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You really need to seek help for you and your husband. If you go to church, I would certainly let the pastor know there is a problem, and you need spiritual help as well as where to go for psychological help. I wouldn't wait around with it. God bless you and your hubby to overcome.
2006-09-22 21:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your husband has a medical or psychological problem. If he expresses the desire to die, it is serious. Get him to a doctor -NOW!! Good luck!
2006-09-22 21:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋