seek abuse from others such as life partners, friends, ect..? Even if they are not aware of it do they do it subconciously? Is it easy to correct or are they just "cursed"?
2006-09-22 14:06:54 · 10 answers · asked by Holly G 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i am not sterotyping ppl. I am sympathetic. I know the psychologicaly abuse can change people. There may be some fact i am not aware of is all.
2006-09-22 14:17:56 · update #1
Honey, that was beautiful.. thank you.
2006-09-22 16:56:43 · update #2
I believe they do until they hit rock bottom and realize that only THEY can change thier lives and how their lives turn out. I had to learn that one the hard way.
I was emotionally/mentally, sexually, and physically abused as a child and raped at 18. I did in turn go to an abusive man and was with him for 20 years (half my life). I went thru much counseling, read a lot of self help books, and did a TON of work on myself. I finally got my self respect, self esteem, and self worth and left the jerk. I had to leave him emotionally and mentally before I could do it physically, tho. I have since found a man that complements me and doesn't try to 'complete' me. He doesn't believe in abuse in any way, shape, or form, and neither do I.
I am now very, very happy and we plan to be married next year. So, as you can see, I am the one that made the choice to change my life, didn't blame the people that raised me (I was adopted by grandparents), got the help I needed, and totally changed my life around. I believe that anyone can do this, IF they choose to. They have to really want to, have the want and need to change their lives, get the help they need to do it, then just do it. It is new to them so it takes a lot of time and practice. Going into the unknown, especially for those who have been abused, is super scarey, but to get out of the cycle of abuse, going into that unknown MUST be done.
2006-09-22 15:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, usually not consciously, but often an abusive situation just sort of "feels" right, especially to someone who has not had the professional help necessary to heal. The person may feel abuse is deserved. In fact, a loving relationship may make an abuse victim very uncomfortable. It is not easy to correct but it is certainly possible, it will take time.
2006-09-23 00:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by MT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not fair to make those stereotyping generalizations... I was abused in nearly every imaginable way as a child and young teen, and I am fine. I am happily married to a super nice guy and I have 2 kids myself. It all depends on the person and what happens after they are away from the abuse.
2006-09-22 21:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by baby_girl_1219 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they all do but some times they will seek the same life they grew up in.My adopted daughter was abused and she is just the oposite. If you can accept that you were abused in your childhood you can make a different kind of life for yourself. But I think they should seek help early if they can.If you can't seek help try talking to some who will care and listen.
2006-09-22 21:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by indianprinces99 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some abused children grow up to be abusers. Some grow up to be abused. Counseling does help if done early enough in life.
2006-09-22 21:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. I heard that it's because some what to stay in there comfort zone, they want what they are used to (that is abuse).
2006-09-23 00:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by asknanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they grow normally i think, but maybe they can also seek abuse.
2006-09-22 21:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by R B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends how badly they were abused, if they ever got away from it, and it depends on the person. My grandpa was abused and he was a gr8 person all his life
2006-09-22 21:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by bun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they will. I've got a 23 year old to prove it... I'm 44
2006-09-22 21:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
sometimes they do sometimes they don't depends on the person
2006-09-22 21:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋