I have a "boyfriend" who lives with me, he's a new divorce from a marriage of 17 years with 4 children. The children are with the ex-wife (we've been together for all of a month and a half) and he keeps posting questions on THIS yahoo site. Questions such as: "been married for 17 years now find myself alone w/nowherer to go and nothing to do. anyone in So. Cal want to make a friend and go out? Any night Clubs, Sushi?" The other question was "my wife of 17 years left me for another man. Do I fight for her and how?" Another ex: "was married for 17 yrs. my wife left for another man. I live with another woman but still have feelings for my wife. My new girl is great but I don't love her. Do I stay or do I go?"
He says I shouldn't be reading that stuff.... he does it because it's fun and he needs to have people to talk to. So my question is... should I turn a blind eye and let him continue soliciting on the internet, or should I ask him to leave until he figures out what he wants?
2006-09-22 13:24:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Post a question of your own like...stuck with pathetic divorcee...any hot guys out there with a future?
2006-09-22 13:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by loofa36 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You Have Got To Be Old Enough To Know What Self Esteem Is. DO YOU HAVE ANY? Drop His @ss Off Right Where You Found Him And Keep it Moving. You Are Much Too Beautiful A Woman To Be Putting Up With That Sh*t.
2006-09-22 13:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nakia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think he knows what he wants. A lot of the questions on here a a little fiction and fantasy mixed in with truth. It sounds like he might still be in love with his wife. I would ask him to leave if it was me.
2006-09-22 13:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go until he decides what/who he wants!! He is a newly divorcee and of course he is going to still have feelings for his ex considering the long-term commitment and she is the mother of his children...the love will never fade, he will however, find new love but a piece of his heart will always have his wife's name on it!! I would assume he would not love you considering it has only been 11/2mos. You do what your heart tells you to do, but always remember she will forever be in his heart. Good Luck to you, in whatever decision you make.
2006-09-22 13:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by KansasCityGirl26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no good. Yeah he may be a little heart broken after a divorce, but if you're living with someone it means you're committed to them and in a relationship. He shouldn't be chatting like that behind your back, especially if he's trying to find another girlfriend. Kick him to the curb.
2006-09-22 13:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's posting questions liek that and he knows you read it, and he's response is "you shouldn't be reading stuff liike that" then i'm not so sure he's the right guy for you, because that description makes me think of some insensitive dude. I think you should ask him to leave until he knows what he wants. But make sure you know he knows that you love him and you'll be waiting for him.
2006-09-22 13:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell him to leave...not 2 b rude but he still has not had enough time to get over his divorce....he is still wounded and using u as his comfort spot. he needs to learn to get over this on his own or this situation will haunt his mind forever......and he will never love/trust again....it is vital that he figures out what he wants and he needs to do it ALONE.....turning a blind eye will only hurt you more in the end TRUST
2006-09-22 13:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, turn a blind eye and let him keep posting this senseless questions from the public library and after that he can sleep at a park bench when you kick his unconsiderate butt out of your house.
2006-09-22 13:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Melisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him to leave till he figures himself out , other wise expect to see yourself in the "X-wives" shoes in a few years ...
if they were together for 17 years and she just up and left I'm sure there was a reason , ever stop to find out what that was?
I guess your only other option would be to go ahead and let him stay and use you until he finds a new girlfriend on the internet and decides to leave you for her.
2006-09-22 13:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by ptmamas 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Either leave until he figures out what he wants or live as roommates. It sounds like he needed more space between one long term relationship before he started another.
2006-09-22 13:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by chante 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋